One week old baby- husband won't discuss a name.

[busymamaof2]

DD3 born last week. Now ten days old.

For the other two we compromised on names, although husband always exaggerates claims he feels the other two were names he compromised on and were never his own choices. This is wrong. We both compromised and neither got our first choice.

DD3 and he wants something so plain and generic I just cannot even contemplate it. Angela. I don't like it. Fairly dated now. We are also Scottish and Irish so everyone is expecting something Scottish, Irish or Celtic especially as other two DC have those connotations to their names.

He is refusing to even have a discussion on any other name. Keeps saying hello little Angela to the baby to wind me up. Last night I said I wouldn't be bullied into a name I didn't like, especially as this week he has gone straight back to work 3 days post birth, he has been no help with the baby. In a week I'd say he's changed 3 nappies. Given her one feed. Yet despite his hopelessness it's a my way or highway name.

The amount of texts I am receiving asking about a name is driving me mad and clearly indicates we're having problems.

What would you do?

I prefer his choice. Megan and orla are so common and Nanci is a world of pain for the child!!!

I don't love angela but it's ok, if he's had his heart set on it then why not let him make her, I know a few Angela's and it's nice.

For all saying just go and register her with your choice!!!! Can you imagine what your reactions would be if a man did that. Double standards!!

Let him call his daughter Angeowcw

@Pbbananabagel, Megan is Greek not Welsh, but is used in Wales

Orla was typed as Oral in a pp.

• Angela! The cat Niger my hand!! Give her your choice of middle name and she can choose when she's old enough but she's better off with Angela than your three choices.

What a wanker this man is being.

Angela nn Ella?

I'm not mega keen on Angela but you could at least consider your husband's feelings rather than following the 'advice' to just name her yourself.

I mean, you want to call her Nansi. How ridiculous.

Nansi is that not the Welsh spelling?
Megan isn't an Irish or Scottish name either 🤷🏼‍♀️

Oh no, he is causing you stress when you just have birth. He's got obsessed with this I wonder is he often like this or is he having mental health concerns any maybe needs to see a therapist. Perhaps he is stressed but this isn't an excuse, just possible explanation.

I would say, I just have birth to a baby. This is a huge deal. I am tired and uncomfortable. You need to be kind to me right now. We will pause and not name the baby for another week until you can be a kind person.

For now it will have a nickname - choose nickname that definely isn't a name. Give him time to reflect on his behaviour.

I personally don't mind the name but that isn't the point is it. The point is you shouldn't be put under this pressure now. I'm hoping he'll realise and put it in perspective. If he does and is civil ask him what is wrong, why does this mean so much that he gets his choice of name.

If he won't discuss it, fuck him & go register your name choice.

When DH was like this, I took so much & then took control & telling him that he has a say in the name, but if he's going to be a dick about it, as I actually give birth, the final say was mine whether he liked it or not, he soon sorted himself out then.

Take no shit

Megangela?

Seriously though Angela isn’t horrendous, could you go with it but actually call her Annie/ Ann/ Ang?
If Angela is your DGM name, does DH have any names on his side that would be worth considering, it might be a way of getting him to at least discuss it?

Orla Megan would be sooo lonely 💜
I am firmly of the opinion that mothers choose.

Angela is t a horrendous name, it was extremely fashionable for a while there but what matters is that you dislike it.

Wtf?

No one cares what names you like, it’s not your baby.

This. You’re naming a person, not writing a poem. The middle name is rarely said out loud anyway.

Oh & agree with you over Angela, it's not awful, but it's dated & the 2 teens/early 20s I know both go by Jelli, a nn given to them, rather than chosen & one I personally hate

I don’t understand why some people are commenting that they like Angela and you should use it. Honestly, who cares whether anybody else does or doesn’t like the name, the only two people who matter are you and your husband. If you don’t like it then it’s completely reasonable not to use it. You need to compromise and find a name you both like, I don’t see why you should back down on this.

Meg(h)an only makes people think of one person these days.

Angela Rayner is fab.

I echo what someone else said about Angelica having a moment because of Hamilton.

Why are you suggesting Welsh names if you want Irish and Scottish heritage to be reflected?

Is he a Celtic fan? I’m with the man.

if you are in Scotland now you’re running out of time to register.

Please don’t use Nansi, she will spend her life bring mis spelt. And yes I know it’s a genuine spelling but it will happen constantly.

Yes, it's not about whether randoms on MN like or dislike the name Angela. It's about your husband being an arse on more than one front. I'd have so little patience with this kind of man.

Angie could actually be cute for a child. Yes, it's all very 70's, and older people might start singing Angie Baby, but it's sweet.

How about Angelica? I think that's far nicer and more interesting than Angela. Nancy Angelica has a nice flow to it.

They're married. You realise her husband could 'fuck her and go register his name choice'?

Is that ok?

Angela sounds like an old woman but so does Nancy however it is spelled ...I like Orla Angela. It sounds lovely.

I know plenty of Megan's and a Nansi, but we live in Wales.
I also agree with you on Angela

How about Angeline. It’s a bit softer sounding

It’s obvious from the comments that names are totally subjective.
So the only sensible advice I can give you is to tell your DH that he’s being a wanker, is upsetting you and you both need to scrap any previously vetoed names, start afresh and find one that you both like.
Oh, and please don’t call her Nansi

Well don't TELL him if you plan to do this.