One week old baby- husband won't discuss a name.

[busymamaof2]

DD3 born last week. Now ten days old.

For the other two we compromised on names, although husband always exaggerates claims he feels the other two were names he compromised on and were never his own choices. This is wrong. We both compromised and neither got our first choice.

DD3 and he wants something so plain and generic I just cannot even contemplate it. Angela. I don't like it. Fairly dated now. We are also Scottish and Irish so everyone is expecting something Scottish, Irish or Celtic especially as other two DC have those connotations to their names.

He is refusing to even have a discussion on any other name. Keeps saying hello little Angela to the baby to wind me up. Last night I said I wouldn't be bullied into a name I didn't like, especially as this week he has gone straight back to work 3 days post birth, he has been no help with the baby. In a week I'd say he's changed 3 nappies. Given her one feed. Yet despite his hopelessness it's a my way or highway name.

The amount of texts I am receiving asking about a name is driving me mad and clearly indicates we're having problems.

What would you do?

So he always wanted Angela but you hate it so he had to compromise to 2 names you preferred? Seems like he should have his little angel now. I chose ds name and dh chose dd. I think it's fair. Neither of us hated the names and there's nothing offensive about Angela so I suspect something else is going on here

Do you think so? I think they’re two entirely different names and would be really bemused to meet a baby Angela who was called Nancy. It would make me wonder why the parents didn’t just call their child Nancy.

I miss the old days when people actually bothered to read the opening posts.

'husband always exaggerates claims he feels the other two were names he compromised on and were never his own choices. This is wrong. We both compromised and neither got our first choice.'

Congratulations on baby number #3. Here is my take on the name. I have 3 daughters. My first 2 are fraternal twins. We went with Angelina instead of Angela. (My grandmother was Angela). My other two are Colleen and Fiona.

Yes, we call her Angie or Ang. At school or with friends she is always Angelina.

I hope you resolve your name issue, but it sounds like you may have to talk more about parenting expectations together more than agreeing on a name.

you're a jackass

She said baby is one week old and that husband has returned to work and only helped once. It seems hardly fair calling him unhelpful. He only gotten one week time to feed a baby and help her, it doesn't mean he would be unwilling to help next week. Or week after that.

Wtf have I just read?

He can redeem himself by making his child a sandwich one afternoon in April when she's five?

One week does not equal five years and we don't know what husbands do for a living. So stop dramatizing.

Perhaps you need a refresher course in the meaning of the word 'parent', @neverwinternights.

It's both a noun and a verb.

So is the similar word 'partner'. Maybe you could do with a brush up on the meaning of that too?

This man has checked out of both roles.

In the time he has graced with OP with his presence at home during the last week he has changed three nappies and given one feed. He returned to work three days after his child was born.

I don't see bad parenting nor I see bad partnership. As far as we know, he can't take leave and I don't see why he has to immediately handle baby. They have two other kids, maybe he was handling these two other kid during these three days and one week. We don't actually know what his relationship with other two kids are and what he done during this week.

I hope you get/got it sorted and you’re settled with your new little one!
How about compromising with the middle name- Angelina?
Or some of the following names:
Annalise
Adeline
Annabelle

We know he is using his limited contact with the baby to get under the OP's skin.

He sees the baby as a means to an end, not a little human he loves. And he has spent the first ten days of his wife's recovery from pregnancy and childbirth throwing a prolonged tantrum instead of supporting her.

We know plenty about this awful man.

Congrats.

I don't mind Angela as a name. Angie is quite sweet.

But if you dont like it, maybe get a friend to name their pet hamster that name (fake loud giggles and then announce 'you'll never guess... madge has only gone and named her pet hamster Angela... can't name the little one that now!!'- or make up a story about an Angela that you dont like and was horrid to you.

What did you go with in the end @busymamaof2