DH's names driving me to tears

[BFPDec21]

I'm probably hormonal but has anyone ever had an argument with their partner over baby names? I've had a little cry because I can't see us ever agreeing.

DH keeps suggesting names like Ozymandias and Balthazar. Mine are more traditional like James, Isaac, etc. I'm open to more unique names but he won't stop with these bloody out there names.

For context, we live in the UK and there's no interesting heritage to warrant names he's choosing. I asked him for a 'normal' name and those were his normal names.

Ozymandius is a good name for a cat.

@BFPDec21
Your husband is being silly, surely, throwing these names at you to get a reaction.

Your turn this time to choose a name that hopefully your son will like when he’s older🙂
Good luck.

had missed the part where he chose your DDs name.

I'm with either using an App or you provide a list of names and he picks from that.

But names really is a "2 yesses" situation.

Maybe you could try this app and find common ground?
www.whattoexpect.com/news/pregnancy/babyname-tinder-baby-naming-apps/

Good luck!

I wanted to call my 3 sons Barnaby, Tobias and Titus. They know this and laugh a great deal about it, a favourite line is "imagine waiting 9 months to be born and then getting called Barnaby!" (Insert name of choice). They are very grateful indeed that DH and I went with "ordinary" but nice names.

I’m envious! I wanted to call ds Balthazar. DH vetoed it. Ds wishes he had been called Balthazar and doesn’t particularly like his very ordinary, sensible name.

Tell your DH to grow up.

I like PP idea.
Tell him if he changes his name to one of his top 3, you'll let him use one of the others for the baby.

What about a dig through some Greek/Roman mythology books for some more normal but still hero/god/king names.

Perseus
Jason
Damon
Evander
Orion

Those are some that aren't too too Greek but might meet those requirements?

I knew a Zephyriah at university which while we knew was a little odd we all just got on with it and liked him for who he was.

I think you and your husband need to do two things: agree you will stop calling each other’s choices awful and write a list each and give to each other to go through in private. Ask to choose three names each from these lists you might consider.

I think you could let him choose the middle name. At school the other kids will think it’s really cool that he’s got ozymandias rather than James (or similar) for a middle name.

Is there not a middle ground name? Something that could work for both of your tastes?

DP wanted to name our son Leonidas after the character in 300. I hated it, but loved the nickname Lenny so we called our son Leonard.

@PyongyangKipperbang

Oh and you may want to remind him that naming a child FOR LIFE is not some fun thing for him to show his education or his wacky sense of humour or his need to show his kid as a Twitter handle but a real responsibility that, if he gets it wrong, his kid will hate him for.

This ^^

Tell him to run those names past his colleagues/friends and they will also tell him he is being an asshole. Those names are bloody ridiculous.

Xander?

Personally he is asking for his son to be picked on, let alone the poor boy has to learn how to spell it. I cannot even say what you listed 😂

Sounds like my DH. Our DDs have normal names but for some reason when I was pregnant with DS he kept suggesting really strange names.
I got my 2nd choice though because he chose our DDs names and any far out name will be cute for a baby but less so for a teenager.

Mordecai is a cartoon character

It's also an actual name though.

Tell him if he changes his name to one of his top 3, you'll let him use one of the others for the baby.

Do not do this!

The DH sounds like the sort of person to actually do it and then the baby is stuck with a daft name.

I knew a Spartacus at college. Everyone called him Spart - he was a conspiracy theorist stoner who refused to have a bank account.

Also an Amius which I always thought was quite nice and unusual.

Then there is that GB rower called Constantine - “call me Stan”

If it’s a big pretentious name it will be shortened because not many people enjoy standing out like that.

Just go with the names you like.
You are the one who is going to be bringing him into the world.

If he doesn’t want a “popular” name, have a look at the most recent ONS list of baby names and agree to pick something outside the Top 100?

Table 6 in this link has the full list of Boys names in England and Wales in 2020 (most recent dataset available)

www.ons.gov.uk/file?uri=%2fpeoplepopulationandcommunity%2fbirthsdeathsandmarriages%2flivebirths%2fdatasets%2fbabynamesenglandandwalesbabynamesstatisticsboys%2f2020/2020boysnames.xlsx

Wait til baby is born...you have about a ten minute window to get in there with the name you want....after what you have just been through he will be in awe and agree to anything

I'd say there are larger issues here than the baby names.

Lots of people like unusual names, but they don't give them to their children because the parents need to think of someone other than themselves. At most, they give them an unusual middle names, and usually the other parent's feelings is important.

If he can't see or doesn't care how distressed his unusual choices and insistence on them is making his pregnant wife, then he's not a good husband. Based on this, he sounds cruel, immature and selfish.

@Rainydaysandmondays24

Just go with the names you like. You are the one who is going to be bringing him into the world.

Rubbish.

both parents have to agree on a name.

My children’s father wanted to call our son Pablo and our daughter Astrid. Both ‘foreign’ names to who’s countries we had no link to.

I won’t say my daughters name as it very rare but we named our son Felix which is an old name but due to the outlandish name suggestions by his father when I phoned my dad to tell him we had settled on a name my dad was furious and had quite a long rant about saddling his grandson with such an awful and weird name, I suddenly realised that he thought I had said Phoenix!

I feel your pain. We're also expecting a little boy. DP's best name suggestions are Zero and Ragnar. I told him categorically its not happening.

I'm not sure if it's better or worse but he came up with a nice, 'normal' name which I quite like. I did say I like the name but want to have one or two others in mind and see which baby suits best once he's born. On several occasions since then, DP has called our baby this name suggestion. That might not end up bring his name so why is he referring to him as that name?

It's all such a pain in the arse.

What's there to argue about?

You get to name anything that comes out of your vagoo.

He can offer suggestions but the decision is yours.

@Floralnomad

Thaddeus Dashiell Levinson But more uncommon but still usable .

Seriously?