Hurt by comments on name , should I change ?

[newmum332]

I’m due to have DT’s in 2 weeks. We don’t know what we are having but we had decided on names for all combinations. I’ve not shared names with family or friends up until now when my mum practically begged me (over text). I eventually relented and told her our name choices. She replied to the text ‘Oh I hate Stella’ (and no comment on the other names).

It’s made me doubt the name now, has anyone been in a similar situation? Should I go for the name anyway? I feel like if I do it will always be on my mind that she ‘hates’ it but I don’t want to regret letting her put me off either!

Its nothing to do with your mum. She's had her day naming her children.
She doesn't and shouldn't get a say.

I'd be even more determined to use it now.

Rude cow.

I love stella

This isn't really similar but when I ran into a mutual friend of my MILs at 34 weeks pregnant I told her the name and she scoffed and said "Well that's common".
Cheeky cow.

I still went with the name because I like it.

Don't let it put you off. I wasn't keen on a name of one of my nephews (though I never said a thing) and now I cant picture him as anything else.
If you really like the name, there will always be people who don't, but they can just deal with it.

I’d have replied saying “oh well, that’s a shame, I’m sure you’ll love her when she’s here”.

Like PP has said, she has had her time naming children. Stella is a lovely name - known but not massively common & has a beautiful meaning.

Is Stella the real real name - I love that name.

Every one has an opinion on names!! If you love it ignore her.

Stella is a lovely name.

Call her Stella if you want!

Honestly I’ve heard much worse. At least your name is an actual name unlike some of the “unique” ones I’ve heard. I was lumbered with a unique name and honestly hated it.

Lovely name.
Your DM will get used to it and probably feel v.embarrassed about what she said when little Stella arrives.

Stella was on my list!
Also my boy loved name was Jasper but we decided on Reuben because Jasper was too "out there" for other people. Long story short after a very long, traumatic and dangerous labour we thought screw everyone else. He's ours and he's Jasper.
Still don't regret it x

I personally hate the name but having said that it’s none of my business and I would never say that to a parent as it’s just plain rude. This is why it’s always best to never reveal names until baby arrives😁

That's pretty rude of her - I would have gone mad! Similarly though, I'm fairly sure my mum's not too keen on the name we've chosen for our little boy. She would never be as blunt about it, but she keeps suggesting other names in what I assume is the hope we'll change our mind. I'm not really fussed though, and it doesn't change our plans. I don't like the names my mum chose for her children, my own name included. Not really sure why it matters whether she likes my choice 🤷🏼‍♀️ She'll get used to it and I'm sure in a few years time she won't be able to imagine him being called anything else!

This is why we didn’t tell anyone our names before the baby was born.

Use the name you love! She’ll get over it when she gets to know little Stella, but if she doesn’t? Sod her!

That was rude of her. Stella is a great name.

I'd be so tempted to throw a pregnancy strop and tell her to sod the sod off and then blame the hormones 😂 no she doesn't get a say, don't let it change things. I'm sure she will love her grandkids massively and the name issue will be forgotten. Don't let her put you off a name YOU as the parents love.

I’ve been kicking myself since I told her, but I’m just really shocked at her response, it’s not her personality at all, that’s why I’m now in 2 minds as she must really dislike it. I’d personally not be so rude. I’d have understood more if I’d told her when it was more of an option than a confirmed choice! But I was very clear that it would be a definite.

I still love the name and so does DH, I’m relieved it’s got so much support on responses.

Not sure how to respond to her now?

No, don't change it. Stella is lovely.

I personally hate the name but having said that it’s none of my business and I would never say that to a parent as it’s just plain rude. er... you did just say that to a parent?

The only answer to her is
‘’and..?’’

And ignore her, just don't respond.

Stella is lovely

I hope the other name is Bolonz

Thanks @Mumoblue that’s really helpful actually as I was in the same situation a few years back. Wasn’t keen on my nephews name (old fashioned family name) and it’s really grown on me since then.

Hopefully she will learn to love it.

@Fred578

I personally hate the name but having said that it’s none of my business and I would never say that to a parent as it’s just plain rude. er... you did just say that to a parent?

🤣

I love Stella too ❤️
Maybe respond in a jokey way?
"Well I've never liked "David" so we're even" 😂
David being your own or one of your siblings names.

My mil told me she hated ds's name. I said she didn't have to be around him then... Soon stfu about it.. You will resent her if you allow her opinion to spoil your choices..