Hurt by comments on name , should I change ?

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I’m due to have DT’s in 2 weeks. We don’t know what we are having but we had decided on names for all combinations. I’ve not shared names with family or friends up until now when my mum practically begged me (over text). I eventually relented and told her our name choices. She replied to the text ‘Oh I hate Stella’ (and no comment on the other names).

It’s made me doubt the name now, has anyone been in a similar situation? Should I go for the name anyway? I feel like if I do it will always be on my mind that she ‘hates’ it but I don’t want to regret letting her put me off either!

None of anyone's business. If you has picked something weird then her commenting on the drawbacks is fair enough but Stella is lovely

Stella was on our list for both of ours, it's lovely! Sod your dms opinion. My family hated our eldest's name, we had a conversation about names at Christmas dinner as a topic and talking about our favourite names and they all said it was horrid. Still used it when DD was born 11 months later!

Stella is a beautiful name. Just ignore her. My mum hated the name my sister chose for DD but accepted it after a couple of weeks. Stick to your guns. Good luckx

We kept our DS name a mystery .If anyone asked we would simply say we hadnt decided yet and leave it at that .They would all say "how about X or Y name " When babe arrives you will show her off ,everyone will be in love with her ,no one will worry about her name!

I love Stella and do will will your mam when the time comes.

Not everyone can like every name. It was rude of her to tell you, but she's entitled to her opinion. Equally, you are entitled to use whatever name you want so if you like Stella then go for it!

When I think of Stella I think of lager.

If your Mum is my age she probably associates it with the "wife beater" tag. There also was some comedy sketch where they had kids with names chardonnay, Stella and something else so it doesnt have brilliant connotations. She will get over this though. Just be honest. Say she's upset you and ask her not too give her opinion on it.

I like it. Shame about the stupid beer though - same issue for for Flora another lovely name

I like it. It's a great name. What anyone else doesn't or does think is irrelevant anyway.

When you say it's not like your mum, your kids have kids makes parents a bit weird. My mum had some choice comments when I was pregnant that I just ignored.

I wish you every luck with your twins.

This is why you don't tell anyone the name until they are born.

Stella isn't to my taste personally. However I would never say this to anyone who had named their baby. Instead I'd smile, say how lovely and move on. It's easier to comment when there's no baby attached to the name.

I'm a recovering alcoholic and I didn't get the beer association at all - I thought briefly of Stella McCartney.

Beautiful name. Definitely don't change it or you'll regret it later on.

Lovely name. If you have 2 girls, call them both Stella. That'll teach her

No don't change it. I don't think my mum liked either of the names we chose for my boys, although she didn't say it quite so rudely! She's over it now they are here though. Don't worry about it - even if you chose a totally different name she may not like it!

It doesn't matter whether other people like it or not. If YOU do and it's suits YOUR child then that's all that's all that matters.
Although she might not look like any of the names you've thought of. I had a friend once who knew she was having a girl and had 4 names, depending on what suited her when she arrived. None of them suited her apparently and she was called something else entirely that had never even been mentioned.

My mother has no filter either. She says exactly what comes into her head without thinking. You soon learnt to develop a thick skin growing up.

The only thing that needs to change is your mother’s lack of manners. Stella is a fantastic name.

When pregnant with DD, it was a choice of two names, miley or madison and we preferred miley. Every time i said it everyone would sort of look awkward and say oh i like madison but never comment on miley. We went for it anyway, it suits her beautifully and we love it

My worry would be that if you have girl twins she will favour the one who isn't called Stella. That being said I would still use it and the first hint of her doing this she would be sent home until she grew up.

Unfortunately as much as you try to not let it put you off, it really does. MIL called one of our choices for DS1 ‘disgusting’ (we only told her our other choices after he was born and named). We now can’t use this name for DS2 as she’s tainted it for us.

Call her Stella. She’ll adore her grandchild so much it won’t matter and the name will really grow on her. Soon she won’t be able to imagine her as anything else.

Stella is a great name.

Your mum doesn't sound like a nice person at all - nagging you endlessly to tell her your name choices, then insulting one of them and ignoring the others.

Who does she think she is? This baby is yours and not hers. She needs to wind her neck in.

Stella is a brilliant name! Don't change your mind.

My MIL hates our son's name. She couldn't use it for weeks and kept passing me lists with alternative name suggestions. It upset me that she was so upset. I still remember the time she used his name for the first time. I knew she'd accepted it. Now he's 7 and she seems to quite like his name! Or at least never give it any thought.

Stella was my grandmothers name - she never had any wife beater comments! It reminds me of star which is a cute nickname too - it's a lovely name!

My mum hated my DD name when she was born, she actually tried to Gang up on me by trying to get my dad, grandad etc to agree they hated the name too, they weren't keen but actually my dad gave her a bit of support saying he's call her 'beth' instead like my mum had asked and also said to me - really don't care for the name beth so I lost it a bit and told them no her name is Tabitha and you'll call her that, not some made up name I hate - it died down but it was an awful thing of my mum to do after I had many problems having g children anyway and she was my first - plus I'd had two days of labour ending in section, I was exhausted and was greeted with am I ALLOWED to know her name yet (we didn't share til she was born) ... then she went off on one - didn't even ask if I was ok, or my DD