Hurt by comments on name , should I change ?

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I’m due to have DT’s in 2 weeks. We don’t know what we are having but we had decided on names for all combinations. I’ve not shared names with family or friends up until now when my mum practically begged me (over text). I eventually relented and told her our name choices. She replied to the text ‘Oh I hate Stella’ (and no comment on the other names).

It’s made me doubt the name now, has anyone been in a similar situation? Should I go for the name anyway? I feel like if I do it will always be on my mind that she ‘hates’ it but I don’t want to regret letting her put me off either!

I personally hate the name but having said that it’s none of my business and I would never say that to a parent as it’s just plain rude

You just did.

Stella is a lovely name. As is Estelle which is even prettier I think.

My MIL was very vocal about hating our name choices and I foolishly listened and changed DSs name about 6 times when pregnant. 😩

Stella is beautiful . My friend’s dgd is Stella Lucy and it means starlight. I love it.

When I was pregnant and close family said negative things I gave them answers like;

Oh I don't like that name
Good job you won't have to use it every day

I wouldn't name my baby that
Good job it's not your baby

I don't like that outfit
Ok when baby wears it you don't need to hold them that day

My baby wouldn't be called that
You can name your next baby/ per what you like

Just give sarcy uncaring answers even if you're struggling inside.
I mentioned a few names to close family/ friends and got really pissed off if people slagged it off. So when we chose the name months before baby was due we kept it quiet.

Your babies, choose what you want.

But Stella is so pretty! Don't be put off it. Any objection she has is really subjective anyway- I do understand a grandmother querying a name that would hold a child back in life or be embarrassing in some way, but Stella?! She probably just knew a horrible one when she was 10 or something. She'll get over it.

if we all loved the same name everybody would be called that & than you would have arguments about why are you calling your child x name (Oh wait we have people saying that!) In short op you cant win your baby your choice -

I struggle a bit with it being the name of a beer but I do actually love that name! Reminds me of stars. When my MIL heard DC1s name she said ‘ is nice’ and made it clear she didn’t like the first name. It was a bitchy comment (so was your DMs comment). Just ignore. not her choice

Don’t change it. Stella is a lovely name.

I have a friend called Stella and she really is a star in my opinion so I only have positive feelings about it.
In all likelihood your Mum will get over it and it won't be an issue. The only thing that occurs to me otherwise, is that you said it was a strong reaction and out of character that I did wonder if there is maybe some underlying reason she feels so strongly, like maybe she was bullied by a Stella as a child or something. I might be inclined to give her a call, tell her you were shocked and upset by her reaction but also ask if there is reason why she dislikes it so much. If its just a personal preference thing then that's just tough, stick to your guns, but if there is a genuine issue for your Mum, I guess you might want to at least know that and consider if its going to impact on anything.

Your baby name is betw you & DH. Don't let others, even your own Mother, make you doubt & change your mind. If you like it, then go with it.

Not sure if anyone has already said this but I think what you're up against is that Stella was quite a popular name many years ago - my mum has many friends called Stella and she's in her 80s. Your mum may just think it's old fashioned or have some 'friends' who tarnish the name for her.
She will get over it. It's a lovely name which has risen in popularity again recently but is still not common.

Oh I Remember stupidly mentioning baby names to my mum and being told how horrible and awful they were!
If I was in a position to have another one I’d keep my mouth firmly closed!

Just ignore OP I can always remember when I took DS into work the wanker guy I worked with commenting "you named him a funny little name didn't you" some people either don't think or in his case he was a childish and a bully.

Oh I adore Stella!! Beautiful name m. Classic, strong x

Stella is a lovely name, and your mum is rude af.

Stella is a lovely name.

I’d reply.

I’m sorry you don’t like it, but you did insist on asking. So now you know. We’re not changing it.

Mum hated DS' name. It's a normal name. She used to say "they've called him xxx, we don't like it but it's their choice"

Until she bumped into an old school friend whose grandson was called Usher. That shut her up

Please don’t be put off your lovely name-Stella is fab. I know a few people who’s parents have slagged off their new grandchild’s name -so rude!

My mum was quite vocal about her dislike of our DD’s name. But then it’s not unusual for my mum to be quite vocal about her dislike of many things so it made no difference to our decision! The name was actually a second choice but my DD just didn’t suit our first choice.
My mum randomly said last week how she now likes it and can’t imagine her being called anything else.
Stella is a beautiful name, which I associate with beautiful people. Call your child whatever you want to (within reason!) but be prepared that you may have a change of heart yourself when you meet them!

Stella is a great name! Wouldn’t occur to me at all to think of the beer if I’d heard someone named their baby that. Classic, elegant and not overly common.

It's a lovely name. Go for it! Only reason to change it would be if she'd pointed out some unfortunate connotation you hadn't thought of. My dps and dh's dps weren't keen on ds's name (a classic English king's name like William/Edward/Charles etc) - we used it anyway and they have never mentioned it again (anyway I think Ethelred is a great name).

I had a little boy 2 weeks ago and we called him Barney. We've had a few negative comments and most people wernt keen but we loved it so didn't care what anyone said. My middle son is Ernie, my mum hated it but now he's 7 and she'd admitted she can't imagine him being called anything else. So screw the haters and go with your choice!!

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I personally hate the name but having said that it’s none of my business and I would never say that to a parent as it’s just plain rude. This is why it’s always best to never reveal names until baby arrives😁

You've just said it to a parent!!!

I like it.

People go batshit over names don't they. My MIL hated DS name do much she told her extended family a different name 🙄.

I love Stella. Classic name, not faddy.

Your friend isn’t a friend. I’d have responded with “I’d suggest you don’t use it for your child, in that case.”