Hurt by comments on name , should I change ?

[newmum332]

I’m due to have DT’s in 2 weeks. We don’t know what we are having but we had decided on names for all combinations. I’ve not shared names with family or friends up until now when my mum practically begged me (over text). I eventually relented and told her our name choices. She replied to the text ‘Oh I hate Stella’ (and no comment on the other names).

It’s made me doubt the name now, has anyone been in a similar situation? Should I go for the name anyway? I feel like if I do it will always be on my mind that she ‘hates’ it but I don’t want to regret letting her put me off either!

Lovely name op, did you say it’s twins? What’s the other one called?

@Allmyarseandpeggymartin yes twins born 2nd July.

Stella Elizabeth
Frederick James (Freddie)

So glad I didn’t let anyone put me off as she suits her name already.

Stella was on my shortlist when I was expecting my eldest.

When my daughter was expecting, she had a name that I really disliked, in mind, and stuck with it throughout. There's a song that I reckoned that the poor child would have sung at her the whole time, so I winced inside!
I did tell her about the song, and so did a couple of other people, but otherwise I kept my mouth shut and spent the intervening months 'practising' to get to like it, and think about what she might be called for short. Then baby was born and my daughter and her husband chose something entirely different!

Aww how lovely, beautiful beautiful names! Enjoy every minute x

Congratulations!!

I love that name. Like stars. You have what YOU want!

I'd keep it. I think if she really disliked it she should have at least given you a reason. Like is it the name itself she doesn't like or does she know a Stella she doesn't like? She was vague so I think if you like it, keep it! You may regret not using a name you love based on one unfounded opinion.

I'd just tell her "Not sure why you dont like it but we love it. You'll grow to love it too. Theres no changing our minds at this point." And just end it on that.

Sorry just saw you named your twins!!! Beautiful!

Stella and Freddie are both nice names. My neighbour's lovely daughter is called Stella and, until you mentioned it, we have never thought about the beer (made me think of stars).

Your mum was out of order, you don't pressurise someone to tell you something and then be rude, especially not something as sensitive as childrens names!

Thank you all.
I did end up asking my mum what her issue was with the name, she said she knew an awful Stella once and also the beer association. I’ve told her she needs to look past that now as we aren’t changing our minds, she was very apologetic and said of course. The beer association is something that never would have crossed my mind if it hadn’t been pointed out.

Fwiw op I love the name Stella.
When I was pregnant with dd1 my fil asked what name we had chosen and when told started saying saying "Oh if you call her that everyone will call her .........." It out dh off the idea so we used that for her middle name. Not one single person I have ever told knew what fil was talking about.
For our next child we didn't tell mil or fil our choice until baby was born.

Sad that she wasn't more supportive. I called dc2 a bit of an uncommon name, my mum told me only recently she didn't like but it has really grown on her. I was glad she didn't tell me at the time.

It took my mum a while to get used to my sons name. She didn’t dislike it particularly but it’s a little unusual (Francis) and it just took a bit of time.

Stella IS a real name! @Carlotacoffee 
My middle name, I've always liked it @newmum332

Congratulations, OP! So glad you went with the name you wanted, Stella is gorgeous and so indeed is Freddie.

I think some of this is a generational thing? Like Stella nowadays can sound quite vintage and classic, but maybe for your mum it sounds like Barbara or Sheila or something. Eg my mum and MIL both think Olive/Iris/Maude are GHASTLY but I think they're lovely. I only knew old lady Stellas until quite recently, but now I've met a few little girls called Stella it feels fresh and sweet.

You have some pretty uncouth relatives.