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Sister has used my baby name

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Giraffe2706 · 22/05/2015 12:53

I know nobody owns a name but this was my absolute favourite boys name and I was going to call my baby due in 4 weeks this name.

We're not the closet of sisters and don't see each other often (she's a lot younger than me and we didn't grow up together) but being pregnant at the same time everytime we did see each other we would talk baby talk and she definitely knew this was my favourite baby name and I was planning on using it for my ds.

She gave birth yesterday to a lovely little boy and this morning she did a facebook announcement introducing 'Dylan James' DJ for short.... I'm really upset and shocked that she would do this, why why why?

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BalloonSlayer · 23/05/2015 14:14

Grayson makes me think of Grayson Perry which although he is regarded as a great artist etc makes most people just think of a bloke wearing a dress.

TandemFlux · 23/05/2015 15:41

Lennon

TinklyLittleLaugh · 23/05/2015 15:45

Dylan would just make me think the parents had great taste in music to be honest.

Whatisaweekend · 23/05/2015 19:40

I think your dsis is utterly despicable to have done this.

CrystalMcPistol · 23/05/2015 19:46

She sounds like a cow. Does she have form for wanting to get one over on you?

Island31 · 24/05/2015 14:10

It's totally unfair of her to do this to you imo. My son is called Grayson which we liked because it's a bit more unusual than some others so obviously I really like that and would say that one off of your list of others although all are nice. I'm really sorry she did this to you.

dustarr73 · 24/05/2015 16:12

My sil did this,took not only the first name which was Jamie but took the middle name as well which was Lee.She done me a favour as there was loads of Jamie's that year and I also hate the name now.

I have a Dylan and surprisingly not everyone calls a name for it to be shortened.

What about Logan

reallywhatnext · 24/05/2015 19:13

My mum called my sister Joanne and upset my aunt who was due two weeks later and had chosen Joanne. They are both called Joanne. Actually it started a trend in our family for duplicate names which we think is great fun.

BUT the difference is they had not discussed names at all so there was no stealing of names just choosing the name name independantly. So you are right to be a little miffed.

I am glad you are looking at other names. FWIW I prefer Grayson anyhow. Love Gray as a name/nickname.

stuckonnames · 24/05/2015 20:23

Still use Dylan, you should never give up a name you truly love, otherwise you will probably always regret it! Remember your circles of friends and acquaintances will be very different for much of their lives! I wouldn't worry what other people think, do what is the right thing for you.

Let us know what you decide to do!

motleymop · 24/05/2015 20:31

I am not sure about it being rude, it seems a bit 'single white female' to me.

Kaekae · 25/05/2015 00:47

Love Henry/Harry for short, so much nicer than Dylan imo. I think it is a crappy thing for your sister to do. Find another name, I wouldn't let her know it had bothered me and I would insinuate that I changed my mind about the name anyway.

Quasilulu · 25/05/2015 01:51

When we told the MIL we'd named our son Gregory she said " Oh that would have been a good name for a guinea pig." ?? I would definitely change the name dropping in the dildo nickname...and I think she's a cow!

VanitasVanitatum · 25/05/2015 07:43

Dylan is a beautiful old Welsh name who the hell decreed that it was chavvy?!

I'd be upset but I would pick another name if there's one that you both love also, although if there isn't then sod it, use it anyway!

I bet your sister will deny all knowledge of your choice..

amy0787 · 25/05/2015 08:14

What a truly horrible thing to do! Quite surprised by all the people saying you don't own it etc. OP never said she owned the name but it's an unspoken rule that if someone gives you the name, you don't steal it, I'd be gutted and really upset.

DuchessofAnkh · 25/05/2015 08:20

...this is why you should tell no one your thoughts before naming the baby!!

CruCru · 25/05/2015 08:28

Hmm. It's a damn weird thing to do. I do agree though, don't write anything nasty on the FB wall, it will make people think you are horrid. It isn't the child's fault your sister used Dylan for him.

Feel free to use Dylan if you still want to. My son is Henry so clearly I loved the name. I also love Oscar, it makes me think of Oscar Schindler (I know it's a very sad film but he was a hero).

Other names on our list were Alexander, Sebastian and Theodore. They may suit you or may not.

DirectorOfBetter · 25/05/2015 08:34

Don't know if this is helpful or not but I've heard Dylan pronounced Dull 'un as the y makes an uh sound in Welsh. Might be a reason as to why you've decided to change it.

Fizzyplonk · 25/05/2015 08:36

Jenson
Nathaniel/Nathan
Caleb
Connor
Finlay

CruCru · 25/05/2015 08:36

It also makes me think of Dylon (possibly not helpful).

Fizzyplonk · 25/05/2015 08:39

Or how about Samson or Luca

SisterNancySinatra · 25/05/2015 08:43

What about Dion or instead of Dylan known as DJ what about Deji. It's really a good excuse now to think of a really alternative beautiful name .

AnnieLewis · 25/05/2015 08:48

I would be massively pissed off and agree with HuftysTrain. If you really don't see each other that often and they arent going to grow up in the same area I would go ahead and still use it.

I'm guessing you are not suddenly going to be closer now she has done this so def go ahead!!! And your parents will not be that distressed - they only have to learn one baby name.. :)

Fizzyplonk · 25/05/2015 08:54

Give him an annoying nick name (immature I know!)
Dyl pickle
Dyllers
Dyldy
Dyl J

CharlotteInBlue · 25/05/2015 09:01

I would tell your sister that you will still use Dylan James but call him DJ for short as you thought that was a great idea of hers! Ask her if she mindsWink. Then call him another name, great suggestions on here, personally I don't like Dylan.

Pisghetti · 25/05/2015 09:40

Ah the alternate universe of Mumsnet Grin

I believe the correct pronunciation is Dull-an strictly speaking...

She's put you in a really difficult position - I think if you stick to your guns you'll come across as the weird one. Do you think she felt a bit like you'd stolen her thunder by falling pregnant/announcing soon after her? Not that that in any way justifies her behaviour - I'm just finding it really hard to understand why she'd do such a thing!

The only person I discussed possible names with when pregnant with DD is DS (aside from my partner obvs!) and he told my mum my first choice because he didn't like it. I neither confirmed it nor denied it as I didn't want to be drawn into a discussion on it and she took that to mean I was having DS on so she took his side that it was a horrible name and started to referring to the baby by a (unpleasant) possible abbreviation. I did have second thoughts but we decided to stick with our guns when DD was born and my mum was mortified that she'd made fun of it (she is lovely really - she just really thought I was winding DS up!). In summary - it's best to never discuss names with anyone, even your nearest and dearest, (except your partner) beforehand!