Active discussions

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Baby names

Find baby name inspiration and advice on the Mumsnet Baby Names forum.

Original poster

Sister has used my baby name

202 replies

Giraffe2706 · 22/05/2015 12:53

I know nobody owns a name but this was my absolute favourite boys name and I was going to call my baby due in 4 weeks this name.

We're not the closet of sisters and don't see each other often (she's a lot younger than me and we didn't grow up together) but being pregnant at the same time everytime we did see each other we would talk baby talk and she definitely knew this was my favourite baby name and I was planning on using it for my ds.

She gave birth yesterday to a lovely little boy and this morning she did a facebook announcement introducing 'Dylan James' DJ for short.... I'm really upset and shocked that she would do this, why why why?

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Set a reminder
pictish · 23/05/2015 08:45

I'd just use Dylan anyway and pleasantly say to anyone who queried it "We decided on the name Dylan way back, which Xxxx was fully aware of. We were surprised that she used the name she knew we'd chosen, but we're not going to be chased off by it. He can be DJ and we'll have Dylan as per the original plan."

I'm guessing your sister will be fully expecting you to abandon your choice to her, so she'll be mad as Hell when you don't. Wink Grin

Clarksarerubbish · 23/05/2015 08:53

An old friend of dh's who I am convinced used to have a crush on him long before dh and I met treated me with utter contempt when she first met me. Fast forward a few years and dh hasn't seen her in years but they are FB friends. We named dd1 a rather unusual foreign name, no odd spelling just from dh's and my culture and two years later this old 'friend named her dd exactly the same as ours. I don't know anyone else by that name.

Op yanbu but you DS is being obnoxious. However I my humble opinion Dylan is not a very nice name Chavy and you have had a lucky escape. I would not trust her with anything important in the future.

In fact I'd wind her up telling her that it's so cool that the cousins will have the same name, and that you will name your boy Dylan Jeremy DJ for short just to see her reaction but then choose a much nice name once your baby is here.

MissLurkalot · 23/05/2015 08:53

I'm with Pictish...stick with Dylan. Your sister is a bitch and needs to be kept at arms length!

toodles · 23/05/2015 09:00

I would also use the name Dylan.

The same thing happened to me. My son has a cousin with the same name, although my SIL didn't know that I would name my son this name.

It is not unusual to have cousins with the same name where I live though, but there was no actual family connection to the name which makes it odd.

I have loved my son's name for years and there was no way I wasn't going to use it.

If your nephew is going to be called DJ, then there isn't an issue really. There'll be a Dylan and a DJ. They'll be differentiated that way.

Don't worry about what people will think. None of their business. Agree with pictish above.

MrsGentlyBenevolent · 23/05/2015 09:23

My partner and I have pretty much picked our boy's name. It's not a 'popular' one, passed it by family to make sure I wasn't mad for choosing it. If I later find out someone very close to me has named their child/pet/inanimate object the same, I shall fully utilize my pregnancy hormones into super bitch. It's not about anyone being able to use a name, this seems like total spite. Out of all the names, younger sis could only use the one older sis had chosen? I'd be so angry, and quite hurt tbh.

Also interesting what constitutes a 'chav' or 'naughty' name here. Dylan was very popular where I grew up, never chavvy. Whilst Nathan was a very 'yuck' name. Maybe it's a regional thing?

CoffeeBeanie · 23/05/2015 09:37

That reminds me of my mother, who years ago after I stupidly told her our favourite name for our baby girl, got a dog and gave her our baby name 4 weeks before our due date.

When asked wtf she was doing denied all knowledge of this name being our favourite.
We didn't take the name and I think we should have. We like our DD's name but it's not our first choice. I even thought about calling her our favourite name anyway, as a nn, but it had a sour taste.

In your situation I would definitely have Dylan as a second name and choose a first name from your list. Bobby is lovely (Why not a Robert Dylan?) and Henry too. Who cares if it popular right now.

diddl · 23/05/2015 10:00

I like Oscar & Milo.

Jethro?

I think Dylan is a lovely name.

Would you feel comfortable using it now?

If so, use it & call your son Dylan & hers DJ.

Your sister sounds horrible.

What's with all the chavvy comments?

Clarksarerubbish · 23/05/2015 10:02

Shock at your mothers conduct coffee

Ledkr · 23/05/2015 10:09

Can you change your names to the same as theirs too, just for the comedy value Grin

CoffeeBeanie · 23/05/2015 10:24

Clarks One of many reasons for very LC.

AwfulBeryl · 23/05/2015 12:13

I don't get all the chavvy comments either diddl, but Then I don't quite understand what constitutes a chavvy name.

Kvetch15 · 23/05/2015 12:21

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AwfulBeryl · 23/05/2015 12:22

Confused have you all being drinking special brew ?

diddl · 23/05/2015 12:27

A name with negative baggage??

People are the way they are due to upbringing, not what they are called, surely?

Kvetch15 · 23/05/2015 12:29

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AwfulBeryl · 23/05/2015 12:31

I honestly can't think of why the name Dylan would come with negative baggage, I can't think of any serial killers, evil dictators called Dylan. Just a poet, a rabbit and Dizzee Rascal

choli · 23/05/2015 12:35

Yanbu but please don't call him Dylan. It won't be nice for the grandparents to have two grandsons born within weeks of each other with the same names.

What rubbish! My grandmother had four granddaughters with the same name - the same as hers, we were all named after her. No angst on any side.

longestlurkerever · 23/05/2015 12:35

Fwiw I know two very middle class Dylans.

AwfulBeryl · 23/05/2015 12:37

But different people will judge people for different things, one of my ds is Hugo, I have seen it described as a Toffs name on here.

You can't bloody win.
Op, ignore the chav wankers, they're the sort who will judge anyone for anything to make them feel better about their sad existences.

My nephew (Dylan) is very popular, thankfully none of his friends parents think he is too chavvy to play with, that said my sil is a doctor - maybe that helps.

CamelHump · 23/05/2015 12:38

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Newshoesplease · 23/05/2015 12:38

Someone at ds's school has just given her baby that exact name-maybe a blessing in disguise? It could be the new Ellie-may where everyone thinks they're making up a unique name but they're actually not.
I know no one owns a name but this would irritate me so much!

PrimalLass · 23/05/2015 13:05

Have you said anything to your sister yet?

myshinynewusername · 23/05/2015 13:22

Tell your bitch of a sister that you are still using Dylan.

She is obviously trying to get one up on you (evidenced by the fact that she didn't even tell you before sticking it on facebook), and she hopes you will drop the name, so that she can always feel that you had to pick a 'second best' name for your DS and her DS got the 'best name'.

I reckon that if you stand your ground and insist that you still using Dylan (even if you don't want to anymore), then she will probably change her DS's name to something else.

Then you can call your DS the same name that she has changed her DS's name to. Grin

Clarksarerubbish · 23/05/2015 13:57

Thanks coffee she sounds very tricky.

YellowPirate · 23/05/2015 14:00

I'd be really annoyed too. Usually I think first come first served, but she knew it was your planned name, the least she could have done is tell you personally.

I think I'd just send a text saying 'congratulations, great name Wink', which will keep her guessing as to whether you'll still use it and give you time to find one you like just as much.

YPx