Sister has used my baby name

[Giraffe2706]

I know nobody owns a name but this was my absolute favourite boys name and I was going to call my baby due in 4 weeks this name.

We're not the closet of sisters and don't see each other often (she's a lot younger than me and we didn't grow up together) but being pregnant at the same time everytime we did see each other we would talk baby talk and she definitely knew this was my favourite baby name and I was planning on using it for my ds.

She gave birth yesterday to a lovely little boy and this morning she did a facebook announcement introducing 'Dylan James' DJ for short.... I'm really upset and shocked that she would do this, why why why?

Is it just my age, but wasn't "Oh, You Dylan" a way of telling someone they were a bit laidback, or lazy. From the Magic Roundabout.

I think Oscar is lovely. Look up the Magic Roundabout and, every time she mentions her son's name, hear the theme tune in your head.

It is a cruel, mean-spirited thing to do. But, this way, you can say, "Oh, yes, we decided against it because it reminded us of a children's television programme" or whatever.

That is so horrible of her. Poor you.

Love Oscar. Along the lines of Dylan:

Reuben
Elliot
Stellan
Finn
Rafe
Caspar
Heath
Callum

She sounds like a cow.

Oscar is lovely and I'm really liking Otto at the moment.

I'd be very upset if my sister did this. However Henry is a great name much better than Dylan

I just read your updates, the fact she let you find out on Facebook shows how little she thinks.

Henry is also lovely.

Henry, Oscar and frankly most other names on this thread are lovely and more classic than Dylan. I love Oscar James. Just to say though that my DS has a middle name James, as do about 8 boys in his class. It is the Mae of boys middle names.

Oscar is great. So is Grayson, nickname Gray.

Oscar is a lovely name.

Dylan is s horrible name but that's just my opinion. With the risk of sounding like the other one Katie Hopkins. The namd just cunjures up a badly behaved child and a chAvvy mother. Sorry to all the Dylans and mums of Dylans.
There are lots of other gorgeous names out there op.
It sounds like you like I can't think of a better word but chAvvy type names. Not having a pop. It's horses for courses. I like traditional strong names which you may not like. The world wouldn't go around if we all the liked the sAmethings, would it.
Some suggestions
Kyle.
Josh
Callum
Jayden
Kayden
Tyler
Mason
Who knows you might have a girl anyway

rueben.
YY for Oscar gorgeous name.

Samuel is a lovely name fir a boy.

I think it's really rude.

If it hasn't completely put you off the name, then use it. Don't let her using the name overshadow your son's arrival. If you're half sisters with a big age gap, do you actually share that many relatives?

I considered using a girl's name that my half sister who is 20 years older than me used 16 years ago. I don't speak to her or my niece, and I haven't for about ten years, but I still didn't, because I thought it would be odd. It's just horrid of her to do that without giving you a heads up first.

DJ is awful anyway.

You can still call your son Dylan James if you want to...no law against both of you liking and using the name. Still, if she knew this is the name you loved and had mentioned other names she was going to use, it is a bit off.
Suck it up though and call your son it anyway if you want to.

Or Tristan?

Your sister is a cow btw

Also, there is a lesson here. Don't share your name picks with others. Let them think you haven't decided if you have another baby in the future and you're set on a name. It's still crappy but if you hadn't told her, the chances are her son would be called something else.

Bit weird if your sister knew but call your baby whatever you like. There are at least 5 people with the same name as Dh in his extended family.

I do like the name Dylan which reminds me of Dylan Thomas the poet. Did you have any reason for liking it or was it just the sound? I do think DJ is a bit 1980s though.

How about my very favourite boys' name? Nathan. Ends in 'an' but is less common than 'Dylan'. I would say to sister: oh, when I put the feelers out people thought it was a bit common. I went with Nathan cos it still sounds a bit like Dylan but got much nicer feedback'. There aren't many Nathans about and it is a great boy's name.

Also, Nathan can be shortened to Nate, Nath (pronounced nayth). What can Dylan be shorten to? Dyl (dil)...not that great!

I completely understand. It must be awful because now your forced to choose another name & you'll always feel you missed out. I would use the name, it's spiteful & very upsetting. If you love it! Use it don't let her ruin this for you. Good luck x

It's just a really weird thing to do, unless she saw her DS and thought, ohh he looks like a Dylan!

But who would switch their chosen name to something that they knew a close relative was about to use? IF she started thinking that Dylan was a really great name, you'd think she would say something to you beforehand, not just put it on FB.

If this is totally out of character for her, you'll have to shrug it off and choose something else - you will absolutely love that name from the moment you see your son and call him that. If you realize that she has a bit of a habit of annoying you/disregarding your feelings, then perhaps a little more distance is needed.

Agree with pp, do not tell her your new baby name

Just a thought about Grayson, if you remove the R it becomes gay son. Secondary school children are awful.

A friend of mine named her daughter X and her SIL named her daughter born several weeks later a different name, but then uses a nickname that sounds exactly like X. And they do see each other a lot.

If you think she has done it for one-upmanship, if she comments that you didn't choose Dylan you could always say that you decided it wasn't a cool name

But I do understand your upset, my Aunt nicked not one but two of my Mum's baby names, made worse by the fact that my Mum miscarried a lot before actually having us. Meaning her sister lorded it over her for years. Just cruel.

I would have been really upset if my sister had done that to me .

TBH though, I would still call your baby Dylan if that's what you want to call him.

If DSis pulls you up on it you can quite honestly remind her that she knew you were using Dylan before she took it.

I would totally write on her wall "Spiteful cow. After all these weeks of my telling you that our unborn son would be named Dylan, thanks for being so unimaginative that you decided to use it for your son. Thanks for pushing me to find a better name..."

But only do that if you don't care if you see her again. Or maybe send her that in a message. I would definitely call her on it either way. She knows she's a bitch, who the fuck does that!?

I would be livid. And I would call her on it and blame hormones. But then I'm pretty vengeful.

Yes, I would feel the get the point across without too much fuss. Say (pref in company ): I remember telling you I'd chosen Dylan. Maybe you'd forgotten. Anyhow, all works out for the best. I'd gone off the name as when I was putting out different names I got the best feedback on Nathan or another...etc.
FYI, Dylan means born by the sea (or close to that...you probably knew already) and Nathan means gift from God.

I couldn't let it pass unmentioned but that's me. Like I said, I wouldn't make a huge fuss but I would have to somehow make the point that it was scabby!

I wouldn't call your baby Dylan as it might bring back bad memories, but think of another name you love.