Sister has used my baby name

[Giraffe2706]

I know nobody owns a name but this was my absolute favourite boys name and I was going to call my baby due in 4 weeks this name.

We're not the closet of sisters and don't see each other often (she's a lot younger than me and we didn't grow up together) but being pregnant at the same time everytime we did see each other we would talk baby talk and she definitely knew this was my favourite baby name and I was planning on using it for my ds.

She gave birth yesterday to a lovely little boy and this morning she did a facebook announcement introducing 'Dylan James' DJ for short.... I'm really upset and shocked that she would do this, why why why?

TheUnwilling I know sisters who have done the same.

One - one baby is called Ellie & the other Eleanor (but always called Ell, Ellie or Els).

I think Henry and Oscar are much nicer names, Bobby is cute as well (I would have it as a nn for Robert though)

My friends son is called Jude, I think that is pretty cool.

My nephew is called Dylan.
I love him, but don't like his name much tbh!
Your other names are much nicer imo.
It wasn't very nice of your sister to do that, knowing you planned to call your Ds that name.

YY kiss. It's not unheard of for babies to name themselves. My
Sister did. My mum said she came out with her name written all o we her and it wasn't a name mum or dad had even thought of

What a bitch!!

You will find a name you love just as much and be pleased that she did u a favour

I would be fuming in your situation OP I really would be upset but I really don't like the name Dylan so I think this could work out for the best upthread you mentioned Henry and Bobby both miles better really lovely.
I think your sister was doing this to make point but ultimately she's called her child a name to point score so I don't think you need to say or do anything she's already done herself a disservice. Say congrats and don't mention the name situation don't let her know she's upset you.

How have you not rang/text her saying What.the.fuck?!?! That's just me though!

I would definitely wind her up as a PP said by sending a text saying "Congratulations. How weird its going to be having two babies called Dylan James in the family! You always did want to be just like me though!!"

Then I'd pick something else. On our short list we had

Jude
Benjamin
Gabriel
Sebastian
Harrison
Max

I don't believe op has the right to phone her sister effing and blinding because she chooses a particular that she likes, as op says. no one owns a name. The fact is I know it's a PITA but people are free to name their children whatever they like. You can hardly phone someone up and say ."How dare you call your child .......... I know what my reply would be.

I love Bobby, a few others I like are
Arthur
jake
archie
George
oliver

Your sister has behaved appallingly. I'd be totally furious and unable to resist saying something very barbed before not speaking to her for a very long time.

Also, Dylan is an old, classic Welsh name. It's very uninformed to write it off as a naughty or chavvy name as pps have done. Use it if you still want to, and make sure everyone in the family knows why.

Dorian or Henry would be amazing! Though prepperpig 's breezy text would be a great way to remind her that you called dibbs on the name. Or as a response to the fb post or in an email or message, however you normally communicate.

My sister did this to me, I said if its a girl we are calling her x. A few weeks later she had a baby girl and announced her name as x. We were upset, very upset. Didn't say anything as no point, then my baby arrived and it was a boy, so didn't matter in the end.

I would have been more upset if we'd had a girl too. Of course no one owns a name but surely its polite not to use it.

I would send a bit of a passive aggressive "light hearted" message saying something like "oh, so funny...poor old dad will get confused with two grandsons called Dylan, lol"

But maybe I'm a bitch.

And I would still use Dylan.

I would be pissed we struggled with names for ours. It's bloody mean of her, god I felt slightly bad that the name I used for Ds4 was a name that an online friend used for her son a few months earlier, we live at opposite ends of the country but it still felt a bit cheeky. It was dp that chose it and he didn't know of my online friend.

I have a Dylan, he is Dylan lucas :)

His brothers are Theodore (theo)
Oscar reuben and rudi arlo.

This happened to me too. Dh and I are super picky so only had one girls name. The only saving grace was that it was complete coincidence so I couldn't really be angry for long. We miscarried, so it's moot anyway, but I understand how you feel. I would have the say something, and I would make clear how upset I was.

DH's sister sulked for ages when we announced DS2's name because it was the name she wanted. Her sulk had less of an impact though given that she had never mentioned it to us and she wasn't pregnant or even in a relationship at the time and in fact didn't go on to have a baby until five years later

I would name him 1Dylanthefirstonewon1juan

Aw op this is pants!!!!
Maybe...just maybe...big sis is such an inspiration she wants to be just like you

Maybe...she was so overcome with baby brain when baby popped out the only thing in her mind was Dylan and she's secretly kicking herself for her pethidine induced gaff...

Or maybe she's a spiteful cow?

Dillon?

What wesH said... but she is pretty much a bitch to do this to you, all the same.

That's really very rubbish, sorry op. When you have your heart set on a name then that person is the name. Wait to see how you feel when he is born and if he is Dylan then so be it! Just unfriend the sister!

She's a total cow to do that to you.

I really like the name Daniel.