Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 2

[LittlePoot]

Dear all lovely ladies past, present and future. Welcome to support thread number two, to help us through the anxious TTC waiting, early scary weeks of pregnancy, nasty scans and tests, growing bumps and babies and everything in between. May this thread bring luck and (eventual) joy to us all and at least we'll all be here to hold eachothers' hands along the way. x

Catlady just popping in to say that I wish you all the luck in the world for this afternoon. xx

Hi everyone, just a quick one from me. DH has been home for the past week and complaining that I spend more time on my phone than with him, so have had to prove him wrong , but was just watching 'one born every minute' (about women having babies, set in UK) and thinking of you all. I have bits and pieces jotted down over the week that I was going to cut and paste here, however, for now, just wishing Crazycat (or Catlady/Catwoman/Crazylady, hehe) all the very best for today. Will check in when I wake tomorrow xx

And of course massive congratulations to you Allstars on little Frank (cute, cute name). Hoping he's all better by now. So worrying when little ones aren't well. Looking forward to an update xx

Hello and much love to everyone else, will paste my bits and pieces tomorrow, as they now require updating xxx

Hi Mishta, it's a tricky one, you start by "quickly" checking on everyone and end up 2 hours later still stuck to the screen, and thinking you've been online for just 20 minutes That's what I do, anyway...

About One Born Every Minute... it was on in February, when I was in hospital, the evening after giving birth to Silvia. Needless to say I've avoided it ever since (it's been shown a few times in the UK on different channels).

But anyway, the main reason I logged in now was to say to Catlady that I am thinking of you, I can only imagine the dread you are feeling. I have started thinking about my scan next week and my heart is racing every time. I really, really hope you get good news, and I'll be looking forward to your post tonight.xxxx

PS: Drama, I hope you are ok, you've been very quiet.

That 'one born every minute' series was fab Mishta. Another one later this year apparently!

Just checking in to say thank you so much to everyone for the good wishes for this afternoon. I am leaving the office in an hour to head over to St Thomas's. I am properly paralyzed with fear now, but trying to accept there is nothing I can do to change whatever the outcome is.

Will let you all know how it goes when I'm back online this evening, lots of love xx

Hi everyone, haven't posted for ages but just wanted to say Good Luck to Cat for today.

Not much news from me, except we are going away for a week, bit of hol down in England. Hope there's a bit of indian summer down there for us.

Found out this morn that DS got a nursery place (just 2 day week) at this great nursery that is just up the road. Which is great news, he is getting really bored of me! I reckon he will love it.

Thinking of you Katiecubs, nearly there.... x

Good luck to Catlady for your appt at 3!!! xxx

Coffee its good to hear from you! I wouldn't worry about how you are feeling, I haven't really manged to come to terms with the idea that we are having a baby yet, its like I can't get too attached until we have had it confirmed that there are no health issues..... I hope that the next 6 days just fly by for you.

Re "One born every minute" As Coffee says it was shown in Feb and the first episode was aired the night before I went into the very same labour ward in Southampton. It meant that all the staff there were buzzing after seeing themselves on tv!!

I didn't see the series but watched it a month or so ago online and was glad I did, its very good and a bit of a healing process for me TBH. Saw a few of the midwives that were with me! I can say without question that they are such incredible midwives and they looked after me at such a dark time with an enormous amount of love and compassion! Worth watching the series if you can, its avaliable on Channel4 ondemand.

So...

It was a good scan. Healthy looking baby, good strong heartbeat, nuchal fold 1.7mm, all present and correct. Bloods good. All normal. Not something I expected to be typing!

My risk of Trisomy 21 came out at 1:3000. When adjusted to account for previous history it goes up to 1:700, but still a good low risk result. The sonographer was happy. She knew my history, was there last time when I had my CVS and was absolutely lovely.

Risks for T18 and T13 were very low indeed.

I feel a bit numb and not really capable of words right now so I'm going to go and lie down for an hour before collecting DD from nursery. I feel like I should be over the moon, but I just feel rather drained.

I will check in again later and post properly! xx

Hurray Catlady, such good news, I am so pleased. No wonder you are feeling drained, just take it easy and let it all sink in gently.

Super news catlady am so happy for you!!

Was with St. Thomas when i was up in London too, great that they give you the results that day x

Allstars - CONGRATULATIONS! How are you two doing now? and how is DD liking her new brother?

Congrats too to Crazycatlady on your scan/bloods. Lovely and low risk. Phew. Understand about feeling drained rather than euphoric -I always felt after each scan as though I had been holding my breath for too long and the scan just allowed me to release it, rather than celebrate...

Katie, nearly there! FWIW I found the end hard even with my first child before all the pregnancy trauma. It will happen soon! Did you predict a boy?

Good luck for everyone else awaiting scans. I am sorry to be so quiet. I lurk but can't post often. Thinking of everyone though. Big hugs.

Catlady - I'm so pleased! I think Can't puts the feeling very well, more a feeling of letting go rather than euphoria. Will you be having more scans as your pregnancy progresses? Although I still found them scary, by 18wks they did manage to give me the hope that I would actually be having a baby.

Here's hoping Rachel and Gooldy have good news later this week, and Coffee on Monday...

Better go and get some sleep, babyJ has been rather unsettled the last day or so (oh the joys of gassy guts...). xx

Oh catlady, that's brilliant, I'm so pleased. You lot are now giving me inspiration!

We've had a sad day here. My aunt and uncle have been fostering a couple of puppies here and one took a downward turn this afternoon and had to be put down this evening. Just another reminder of how precious life is, especially so early. Poor little mite (sad).

Wishing you all well. I am away, catching up with my mum who is visiting from France and the rest of my family. Just popped in to check how catlady got on

Still hoping the best for Allstars.

x

Can't i had always thought a boy from the start where as OH says girl - nearly everyone else has said girl though, can't wait to find out!

Kittens so sorry to hear about the poor puppy, so sad. have a lovely time with your mum and family won't you x

Oh and hello Longtime how lovely to hear from you - thanks so much for your long standing support! Hope you are well? xxx

Crazycat, that's just great! I think Cant summed up the feelings post-scan well. Gina's and Littlepoots were excellent also (Yay girls!). It's nice to see luck (or 'luck' I should say) turning around xx

Kittens (if you get a chance to read), that's so sad about the puppy
Glad you're able to spend some time with your mum though. I have an image of you, you know - flawless skin and make-up (being a make-up artist) and always polished in your 40/50's style getup. I'm quite jealous. My own style at the moment can only be described as SAHM (no offense to the SAHMs that actually make an effort). Good luck for the 20th; the Miracle Man sounds promising xx

A warm welcome to Rachel and Gooldy. I don't officially belong to this thread anymore as have gone on to have my, now 6 month, baby girl. But have grown fond of all here, and will be sticking around. Besides, I still find support here myself (only a couple of weeks ago I was offloading about Bella having a tick and the worry it caused). It is a good place, with a bunch of lovely women, as you have no doubt found. I wish you both all the best with your scans (are they tomorrow?) and for the rest of your pregnancies. I don't envy any of you the worry you have. Just know that all of us had those worries, and now there is quite a growing list of thread babies to prove those worries, although normal in the circumstances, don't necessarily mean anything.

Katie! Glad you're all settled. Ooo so very near for you. That SPD is horrible stuff. I had it for the first time this pregnancy - had never heard of it before. Lins had it even worse. Good news is that it pretty much goes away after the birth (that's my experience anyway). You rest up, we have our pom pom at the ready. So exciting xxx

Will try to wrap this up before it becomes an epic. So just quickly;

Mimsy, so glad everything went as well as could be expected for you. Do you know when your biopsy will be yet? They are obviously not too worried, which is good. So did you get to meet BabyJ in the flesh? Very

Speaking of BabyJ, I hope her tummy's more settled today Numpty

Coffee, good to have you back, and hear of your holidays. I hope Poot's holiday is turning out better than she expected. I'll be thinking of you Monday. Not toooo long to go now xx

Hi Cant, how are Little Miss and Baby Cant going? I can relate to the not being able to post often - then when I do, look what happens - I don't stop!

Drama has been quiet. Hope all is well with you if you're around Sunny

Yes, that show One born every minute was great, though I could have slapped one of the fathers on there (saying to his labouring wife 'millions of women do it, but you don't seem able to, you must have a low pain threshhold etc etc' grrrrrrr!). Was rapt when I saw it was a series, though not sure how many episodes I've missed - will have to watch them on the net

Ok, this is getting ridiculously long, better go
Love to all, have a lovely day xxx

Hello my lovelys!!! sorry for the long silence i've been away in london for 10 days and it's all been a bit hectic tbh! anyway i'm back now just had a very quick read through will have a proper read later but i think congrats are in order for crazycat and allstars! so happy for you ladies massive hugs and snogs all round!
I'm doing well just trudging along taking it as it comes willing the 31st to hurry up and come so i can see my baby and get some sort of indication as to how everythings cooking, still haven't been sick again since 6wks but i have been feeling nauseous every morning it go's away as soon as i eat though so as long as i keep stuffing myself i'll be fine never had a pg like this before normally my head is perminently glued to the bathroom floor by now
anyway just checking in to let you all know i'm alive! lol back soon when i've had a proper read through XxXxXxXXx

Rachel, good luck today, let us know how it went. Gooldy, I am afraid I don't remember when your scan is, is it today as well? If yes, fingers crossed for your too, I hope you will have good news.

Allstars, thinking of you and little Frank, I hope you are both ok.

Drama, glad to hear you are ok. And Katie, my pom-poms are dusted and ready. Mimsy, you've been quiet, I hope all is well. And yes, I am also jealous of you and Numpty meeting up. Hey London (and southern) ladies, should we all have a meet-up as well, with lots of... well, orange juice and carbs? :)

I had a long and tiring day yesterday, had to travel for work so I woke up very early and didn't get home until 8-ish, with a migraine from hell. I feel better today though... Anyway, I woke up this morning with a feeling of dread thinking of Monday's scan, I already have a tiny bump and I couldn't help thinking how I might lose this baby as well, and how it would tear me apart.

Anyway, nothing I can do now, just wait. I can't really concentrate on anything, but only 4 days to go. I think I'll be in my local Blockbuster tomorrow evening, stocking up on silly movies for the week-end...

Just popping in to say I'm thinking of you today Rachel and I really hope it goes well. I have everything crossed for you.

Coffee I found I was completely driven to distraction the last few days before the scan, it was so hard to move away from the feelings of dread and desperate hope. Blockbuster sounds like an excellent idea. Plenty of lighthearted movies that require no concentration. And some trashy magazines. I hope the weekend passes quickly for you xx

Hello guys - I'm back! And holiday (thanks for asking!) was not at all as bad as anticipated. We hired a car in the end and so had most days out to ourselves. And only one 'odd' incident where his 'lovely' older sister was packing us all a picnic lunch and all the sandwiches with evil unpasteurised cheese (not that I'm bitter!) ended up in the bag with us and my decidly non-French and non-fun sandwich didn't. I'm 'sure' it was an accident.....

Anyway, back now and had forgotten what a mess we'd left the house in. Still feeling pretty knackered (isn't that supposed to go in the 2nd trimester?) but am trying to get the house a bit clean so we can have a nice weekend. Have been without a full-length mirror for the week so was very shocked to see how much of a bump/pot-belly I've suddenly developed. I know it is pregnancy related, but I can't really call it a bump - it is just that my flabby bits clearly now have nowhere else to hide so they have to stick out. Am working from home tomorrow - haven't told them I'm pregnant yet (apart from a chosen few) and there's no way I'll be hiding it now! Will muster up some energy to deal with it on Monday.

Anyway, this wasn't meant to be about me. Lovely to see you back Coffee and sorry you're feeling down (other room perhaps?). Hang on tight sweetie - I'm sure its triggered by the anxiety ahead of Monday. I was all over the place before the scans - it knocks your tolerance for everything right down so little wonder that these things are coming back to haunt you. For what its worth, I've got no doubt at all you did the right thing for Sylvia - but that's easy for me to say. And even so, its still not easy for you to deal with. Hang tight honey - and remember we're all with you.

And yay for Crazylady!!! So pleased you got good odds - you will feel good about it too, but it is a bit of a weird anti-climax to start with isn't it? Nearly 3 weeks on, I'm feeling a whole lot better - still anxious, but with occasional bouts of actual confidence. That's a new one!

Katie - my goodness - so close now. I'm so so excited for you. And fingers crossed too (with pom-poms in hand).

Hoping all is well for Gooldy and Rachel....hoping that this long post might cross post with good news from them both.

Kittens - great that you've got yourself a miracle man and hoping he will live up to his reputation. Much love to you and everyone else. xxxx

Hi Poot, welcome back, I'm glad you were able to enjoy your holiday! And thank you so much for your words of support. I feel slightly better today, I hope it won't get worse during the week-end. These are times when I really wish I could have a stiff drink!!! Yes I am starting to feel all over the place...

We are going to see some friends tomorrow evening, an anniversary dinner. And although I don't feel ready to, it looks like I might have to tell them about this pregnancy. Since I can't drink and I've become quite fussy about food, it will be a bit of a no brainer to guess why anyway. The thing is, I don't mind them knowing, if it doesn't work I can just tell them later the baby was poorly and not get into too many details, but I know them and how they are likely to react and I can't bear hearing people get excited about this pregnancy, and starting to tell me how I should be positive because it can't go wrong now, and just dismissing all my worries. This is what my SIL did, and although of course she didn't mean it in an insensitive way, it still felt inappropriate. Of course, I always have the option to find an excuse and stay at home, but we've become quite isolated lately and it might be a good chance to catch up with people... we'll see.

Rachel, I hope you are ok and the scan yesterday was good?

Kittens, just a week now until your appointment with the miracle man, I'm keeping everything crossed.

Katie, any sign yet? I have no idea how things are supposed to happen just before your due date, do you get any signs of imminent labour? Is your SPD better?

Big hello to Mishta, Catlady, Gina, Drama, Numpty, Gooldy, Mimsy and to anyone else I might have missed. xxxx

Good morning ladies, How are you?

Just a quick message to say Hi and see how the scans from yesterday went? Rachel I'm hoping all is well? Gooldy was your scan yesterday as well?

I have had a trip to casulaty already this morning (yes it is Friday the 13th) as I managed to lift and detach most of my little finger nail. Not serious but very annoying!! Nurse refused to remove it even though its hanging on at the cuticle by a thread.....

Coffee, big hug for you as I know how you must be feeling. I hope that the weekend passes quickly for you. Seeing your friends might be a good distraction. The friends that we have told so far I have made it clear that we are not getting excited at all and just waiting for the scan. That has kind of stopped too much "fuss" so far....

Poot, my tummy is the same, pot like and sicking out! Its very noticable, I look about 25 weeks not 15!!

Katie, the pom poms are under my desk and ready for action!

Love to all I've not mentioned but I have to go and do some work!! xxx

Gina - at fingernail! I'm such a wuss, I'd have fainted; hope you're OK now.

Coffee - hope you start your distraction this evening with slushy comfort movies, easy food and good company. And then work up to the social tomorrow eve.

Sorry for short post as got to get ahead of the game and get some food cooked while I can... love to all, xx

Hello, thanks for all the enquiries and good wishes. Anyway, it seems from yesterday everything is ok. Nuchal reading of 0.6! This compared to last time when it was 6.3 and the screen was turned off was a huge relief. Only thing was I won't get the combined results with blood for 10 days. The Gynecologist is on holiday next week and he said he validates all the results for people who have had previous problems personally and so nobody will give me results before that, although nuchal translucency plus age already a much better indicator. So still waiting but cautiously positive. Telling myself that last time when something was wrong it had already happened by now.

Coffee, thoughts will be with you throughout the weekend as I know the dread. And there is nothing you can do about it, just keep busy and the hours will pass. The hours between getting up and my 2.20 appt yesterday dragged so horribly but I got there in the end.

Catlady, fab news for you. So glad. Did look in on Wednesday to see how you'd got on but couldn't put fingers to keys as was too scared by that stage about yesterday!

I am now feeling completely sick so off to get a cup of tea. This has nothing to do with pregnancy, more to do with Gina's fingernail!! You poor thing, I am in awe of how calm you sound about it, I would have been an absolute wreck, nails make me feel so awful!

Wishing good weekends to everyone.

Woo-hoo! Rachel that's fantastic! 0.6mm? That's more like it. I'm sorry you have to wait so long to get the final figures, but you really can take a lot of heart from that.

How are you doing now crazycat? Hope you're doing well. I thought of you today as I ordered a pregnancy exercise dvd. Suddenly feeling a weeny bit energetic, so thought I should put it to good use. Particularly as my other overwhelming feeling at the moment is a desire to eat....

Coffee - take it easy over the weekend. You know the drill - trashy novels and dvds - its the only way. Will be thinking of you. xxx

Ouch Gina! Sounds horrid. There's something about nails that makes me feel all weird. Hope you're ok.

Rachel that's a lovely low result, I am so pleased for you. I think you have every right to be positive with those results.

Poot which exercise vid did you order? I had Erin O'Brien's DVD when PG with DD, it was quite good actually, but I failed miserably to do it any more than about 4 times . Doing much better this time around with gym sessions and keeping active. It really does help with the energy levels and I'm also hoping to avoid piling on 4 stone this time .

I've been feeling much better the last couple of days. Slowly digesting the fact that I am actually pregnant, and we survived the scan. Taking each day as it comes. Today I've just finished my mammoth contract so looking forward to a month off before taking on the next thing.

Coffee - hope you're doing ok and have nice plans for the weekend. You will get through the next few days, even if it feels agonising at the time, the days, hours, minutes will pass and Monday will come around. Hold on tight.

Kittens it's your consultant appt on Thurs isn't it? Hope they are able to tell you something useful on the day.

Helloo to everyone else, right off to eat dinner and veg out in front of the box.

Happy weekend to all xx