support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities

[katiecubs]

Hi girls - i hope this becomes a useful area

LittlePoot, is your scan today? Hope all is well and you can relax.

I'm feeling utterly fed up today . Bound to happen I suppose. Catching up with old friends on facebook that I haven't seen in years, everyone reporting to have a couple of kids since we were last in contact. I'm feeling like other people's success is just highlighting my failure in that respect at the moment. Pffffff........ The cat is curled up in a tight little ball with his head tucked right in. I wish I could do the same at the moment.

Sorry this is supposed to be the happy, looking forward thread. I may have to migrate back to the other side.

Littlepoot just wanted to say good luck with your scan this PM - Let us know how it goes (sure all will be just fine).

Kittens v glad your cat is much better - but sorry to hear you are feeling low (don't worry about upsetting anyone on here though). Facebook is such a curse at times for giving you a window into other peoples life's - they only show you the good bits though, try and remember that xxx

Littlepoot - Fingers crossed for you today.

Kittens - Facebook is awful for reminding. Last year my 'friend' put on her status on the day of my ERPC 'thinking of someone who is having a problem sorted today.' FFS!

All - I am feeling much brighter today. Spoke with doctor yesterday who has agreed to refer me to someone with experience in this type of counselling. Mentioned the headaches as well and they took some bloods. She thinks I am slightly anaemic (sp) so has given me some iron tablets.

I had an argument with a receptionist on Sunday at the hospital. I phoned to speak with my midwife and she would not put me through. As soon as she found out I was only 16 weeks she started to try and refer me to GP or A&E. I slightly lost it before hanging up on her. When I phoned my midwife yesterday to speak with her she apologised on behalf of the woman at reception. Apparently they are a skeleton service on Sundays so will not see anyone unless they have an appointment or are more than 20 weeks.

Anyway, after speaking with my midwife and doctor I am feeling better. I think this pregnancy is turning me into a neurotic!

Hope you are all well.

It's so hard not to be neurotic after going through everything you've been through Allstars. I think it's a very natural need to feel you need regular reassurance from those in the know. Why don't you ask your midwife for her email address or mobile number? I have always emailed my midwife when I've had concerns. This way she can answer when she has the time, and mine always did because she understood my anxiety. I actually didn't see her at all during this short pregnancy but I was told at my final scan that she had been asking after me and when the second scan was. When she was passed the news (by the hospital rather than me) she emailed me to say sorry to hear things hadn't worked out. I think if you have a supportive midwife you are more than just one of many patients trying to get an appointment. I guess the receptionists just do what they are told but it can be a bit "computer says no.." getting past them.

Oh dear to your friend's FB status! I guess her heart was in the right place. Some people just don't get it at all though. Thinking of a friend who's having a difficult day would have been more apt, but some people just don't know the right thing to say. My mum has come out with a few corkers over the past years, she just blurts out things that are a little crass under the circumstances but I know she doesn't mean offense. She's been better this time luckily.

Well, that didn't exactly go to plan. Surgery to remove what's left of the poor little bean in the morning, and then back to the drawing board. Scans are rubbish. x

Oh Littlepoot i can't believe it i'm so, so sorry. It's probably a silly question to ask how you are feeling - it's just not fair at all. Sending you lots of love and strength for tomorrow xxx

Oh honey - so, sorry. I really thought you'd be ok. Oh, it's just b***ks isn't it? xxx

Yes - I think b**cks pretty much sums it up. I'm feeling kind of ok - sad and angry, but that's good I think. I'm really relieved I can at least have a surgical option this time because I couldn't face going through a 'medically managed' process again. But it's not meant to happen like this is it? I should have known something was wrong - my pregnancy induced hatred of chocolate ended two days ago. Baby stopped growing at 7 1/2 weeks so I guess the bleeding and cramps last week were warning signs. And the rediscovered love of chocolate. Anyway, thanks so much for your thoughts and good wishes ladies, but I'm going to immerse myself in tv and junk food (and did I mention chocolate?) for the rest of the day. I'll check back in in a day or two. Hope everyone else is ok. xxx

Oh LittlePoot - .
I'm so sorry; and that you had all of that in one morning. B**cks. Thinking of you; cosy yourself up in warm snuggly comforting things and lose yourself in crap TV... xxx

Littlepoot, was just quickly checking in on you. I'm so sorry, that just sucks. Yes, crap tv (and chocolate) is good I think. Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Big hugs to you xxxxxa

No time to post but just wanted to say sorry to LittlePoot. Good luck tomorrow. Chocolate, wine, whatever helps, go for it.

The whole pregnancy thing is so unfair. So easy for some and so hard for others. It does indeed suck.

Oh littlepoot, am so sad for you. **@@!!
Thinking of you and hoping you are taking it easy and are getting lots of hugs and cuddles. Wrap up in a big cosy blanket and hibernate for a bit. lots of love poppet. xxx

Littlepoot - Really, really sorry to hear this. It is indeed B**locks. Do whatever it takes to make yourself feel ok again. I will be thinking of you tomorrow.

XX.

Hope all goes ok today LittlePoot and that they are gentle with you.

Sorry to hear what happened Littlepoot. It is so unfair. It is time for our luck to change.

If it helps at all, I am feeling better one week on than I thought I would. Had lots of distractions over the weekend with birthday celebrations and went away for the night. The change of scenery helped lift my mood (or maybe that was just the hormones settling).

Anyway Littlepoot I hope the next few days goes OK for you - will be thinking of you.

LP I really hope today went ok as it could do you are being well looked after. I know you may not feel like posting but i am thinking of you xxx

Hi all. Well, I'm happily still in denial - spent all day at the hospital only for surgery to be postponed until Friday. Bit annoying, but I'm feeling ok about it at the moment. I know there's hard times to come, but to be honest - I'm in no hurry to get there....

Mimsy - I'm really pleased to hear you're ok. I remember last time I was really up and down. This time doesn't feel quite so bad - I think it helps that I haven't had to make a decision - baby did that for me. But don't feel you have to stay strong - having down days is all part of the process too so just let them happen if they come.

Anyway, back to my sofa and blanket. Knowing the kind of luck I've been having, baby will probably choose tomorrow to make an appearance on its own. Could do without that to be honest.

You guys are so amazing and I really must tell you all again how much I appreciate your support. I'm really lucky with my friends (and MIL) that everyone who's known about this one and the last has been nothing but gentle and supportive. It makes such a difference. I've been reading in the 'other room' about the less helpful relations and I'm so pleased that that's one thing I haven't had to contend with. I just look forward to the day I've got properly good news to share with everyone.

Hope everyone else is ok. Much love. xxx

Littlepoot, hope you are doing ok today. I'm really glad to hear you have lots of support around you - it makes a big differance.

Sorry the hospital mucked you about yesterday but i hope tomorrow all goes to plan and you get though it ok. Thinking of you as always xxx

Just popping in (have rambled way too much on other thread) to say I'll be thinking of you today (tonight here) Littlepoot. So glad you have some good supportive people around you - can make a world of difference. Take care xxxx

Littlepoot - Hope today goes as well as can be expected. XX

Thinking of you LittlePoot x

About to head out but just to say I'm thinking of you today, LittlePoot... xx

Hi guys. Just checking in. All went well today. Hospital staff were lovely and apart from a couple of hours when the pain killers wore off, it all went fine. A bit woozy still now but dh is merrily cooking me dinner so all is well. Hope all bumps are well Katie, Can't, Allstars and Numpty. And BigMomma - hope all's well with you too. Speak soon. xxx

Rest up Littlepoot and hope dinner is/was nice. Lots of love. xxxxx