support thread for women who have chosen to terminate IV

[bezzyk]

Hello ladies old and new.

Here's hoping this thread brings better luck and much happiness.

Lots of love

BK xx

Night Bee. Happier-BusierBee-year.

BB - if the weather for you has been the same for me you got a great day yesterday and are really glad it wasn't today! Not that weather matters in the slightest, but still.

Morning all.

BrightonGirl - hope you had a lovely wedding day (I did read way back it was imminent but didn't realise it was so soon) Did the sun shine for you? It was a lovely day here (today its pouring). Hope you are off honeymooning somewhere lovely.

Bee - Happy new Busy Year. Good to hear you sound positive. I am not surprised you are different, goodness me. Hope the new 'Bee' Year brings some good luck for you and us all.

Yesterday was good for us, went round the village with the kids and they got a ridiculously enormous amount of sweets, will save some for next weekend for all the fireworks palava.

Am off to have pumpkin soup and may make some posh croutons to go in it.

love to all. xxx

Bee, you sound so wise again. I think you are right to mark a new year now. And you're right to celebrate your LM.

I keep thinking about what you wrote about letting lost souls go. It's so right. And very hard. And when you do let go, you feel guilty...

Here it has been very wet and windy today. A fitting day to start November. I hope Brightongirl had a lovely lovely day yesterday - the weather here was just gorgeous.

Eulalia, so glad your DS had a good day yesterday too. Sounds like they got a good haul!!!

I am very, very tired - too complicated to go into but DD's sleep just hasnt improved and I feel like a walking zombie. I am used to interrupted nights but somehow it feels much harder in the autumn than the summer. Hard to keep perspective.

Hugs to everyone, specially Bee.

Next time! Glad you had a good weekend, sat was nice but thought of you on Sunday morning!

Cosy weather I suppose.

Hello all. There is a wind where I live that would take your face off. Brrrr!!

Morning all. Sympathy please, I have an achey bones type cold. I am really sleepy tired.

Just had a fried egg sandwich and a coffee to try get going a bit. Am such a food slag

BB must still be on cloud nine

Lins - how are you?

My sympathies Tree, hope the egg and coffee helped.

Justa - hope your dh is OK!

It's quiet round here, hope everyone is OK.

I can't believe my local town (just 6 miles away) was on the national news yesterday. It was about the flooding in case anyone missed it. More here - "Flooding"

We are fine being on higher ground but we know a few folk who have ruined houses.

Welcome back Justa. It is indeed quiet here. Hoping everyone is doing okay. Tree - I am really enjoying your other thread.

I like seaside towns, actually, but dont think I did, pre DD. I was more of a city girl!

Aw thanks Cant. Nearly Thursday - eek!

Evening all. Hard dey here but cheered by nice thing sin post, online Christmas craft stuff shopping. ALso bought dd1 a planatarium [sp???????????] for Christmas. Blooming yellow moon craft supplies mag through school, only wnated a few stickers, now £65 worse off......

I like seaside towns, especially ones that aren't one hour from the nest town/city. This one is too isolated.

Oops feeling guilty for slagging off seaside towns - I love some of them. Paignton is not one of them. I have never seen so many pound shops and what- not and it just depressed me - think had some horrid experience when was wee girl - they take me back to very dark place.
Southwold is my kind of place, or Brighton or just a windswept beach with a cafe and pebbles. Would like to visit Northumberland. Loved the seaside in Scotland when was there- I love the coast. I am not mad on out of season seaside towns.
Am I forgiven or forever now cast as snobby southerner!???
Can I still pop in for cup of tea one day Tree?

Sorry you a poorly Treeling.
Justa - your hubbie sounds as if he had a Mr Bean moment. Hope things with your dad are calm.
CAntdo - hello loveykins - hope you are peaceful.
Dearest Brighton Girl - we wait with baited breath and hope today went well too. Kisses
Bee
ps Hi Eulalia - my LM's family are all from Elgin and thereabouts - right in the eye of the floods. Would be devastating to have home ruined by water.
Tree- would love us all to be sitting around your kitchen table crafting with tinselly yumminess - what hoots. Get the mulled wine on woman.

Bee - I would happily never see the sea again. I'd rather come to you for a cuppa, in the beautiful busy city

I did like St Ives though.....nice shops.

Strong emphasis on foam santa shapes and glitter in the crraft order Bee, would insist on gingham ribbon and lovely buttons for cottage crafty decorations. Also dried orange slices and pine cones.

Ooooo I can almost smell Christmas

Argh look at the time!!

Night all! xxxxxxxxx

Bee, I passed through Paignton in the summer and I see exactly what you mean. What a depressing place. And so many English seaside towns have gone to seed like that. Shame, really.

Oh please come to Northumberland then you can come see me. Northumberland is properly rugged and wild. You really get perspective with the wind in your hair on a wild beach up there.

If I am quiet, it is a) because our wireless connection has gone funny, so the downstairs laptop isnt getting internet access, and I have to frequent the 'office' (aka junk room) and b) because I am tired, tired tired and headachey this week and trying to avoid making it worse by sitting in front of a screen more than necessary.

I am thinking of you all though. Given the changing weather, the cottage sounds more idyllic than ever. I want a sofa by the roaring fire with a hot chocolate and some carrot cake, please. And one of Tree's cashmere shrugs.

Did you bring cake?

Night all, I have a big day tomorrow. Have an 8 till 8 day with dd2, including 5 houors on the train. Have packed 100 nappies and some rattles.

x

Btw, just had a Terry's choc orange with cornflakes bits in [selection box on offer at Sains]. All wrong, it has no further part to play in our cottage.

Tree
You lemon. We only eat Green and Black's Dahling and home made cake. (having said that, I do love a Terry's and have noticed they come in a range of intriguing flavours nowadays).
Our cottage, after all, is very much not in Paignton.
Where you orf to tomorrow then honey-pie?
Is it egg related?
Went to therapy this afternoon- progress being made- and then ... got a sodding parking ticket. Would you believe it?
Hello Cantmumsnetbecauseofheadache - hope you resting when possible.
Night cottagers - oh how I long for it; the fires, the company, the baking, the cosiness.
Bee xxx

Scumbag parking tickets - Bah.

Thread Cottage car garage is heated, no parking problems here.

Chocolates were on offer, a good offer. I'm not surprised, they are very poor.

Tomorrow is indeed an eggy day out. Am nervous, but not enough to sort my self out. Need to blow dry hair and paint toe nails. Toe nails very important when facing one of those scans I feel.

Hello lovely ladies! I made it. I did it. :-)

Thank you so much for thinking of me and all the lovely messages. I feel so lucky. The weekend was beautiful. The wedding was everything I wanted....sounds so greedy, but I got it all....except the sun, but at least it didn't pour....and I expected it to be dull at this time of year anyway.

...and at the end of the day, after the wedding, I felt as if an invisible weight had lifted. I knew I was weighed down with it all, but I hadn't realised quite how much until it lifted away and I feel as if I can look back on the summer now with a wiser, clearer head.

I made my confetti using the dried petals from the flowers we received on the day of the 'first' wedding back in May. I've been drying them all this time. I didn't tell anyone where the confetti came from, but it meant a huge deal to me seeing those pink petals rain down immediately after we were married, with everyone cheering and smiling. I could feel that sadness yet in the happiest of moments, and not be tumbled by it. I'm not sure if I've explained that very well, but I do know that it felt good.

Anyway, can anyone tell me why it's getting dark at HALF PAST THREE now! I've had a lovely weekend and yes, it's true, I've started a new job this week....thanks for remembering Bee...it's going well so far... but, these dark evenings are going to be tough.

Love to everyone and thank you SO much for cheering me on through this. I feel a name change coming on :-)

Night, BG xx

What a beautiful image BG - truly.
A letting go and a letting in.
Love to you and man
Bee xxxxxxx

Oh BG, it is so good to hear from you. The wedding sounds lovely. And it sounds as though it closed the circle that began in May and healed things up somehow. Can we have pics please???
Oh and the name change - you aren't going to become MrsBrightonGirl, are you?!

It has occurred to me that my name is a bit negative, but I am not sure what else to call myself.

Tree - those cornflake-infested chocolate oranges are horrid. But chocolate oranges are lovely. Though would prefer cake in our cottage... GOOD LUCK TODAY!!!