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support thread for women who have chosen to terminate IV

998 replies

bezzyk · 20/10/2009 16:33

Hello ladies old and new.

Here's hoping this thread brings better luck and much happiness.

Lots of love

BK xx

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justabout · 15/01/2010 10:00

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NumptyMum · 15/01/2010 10:06

Dear Justa - I'm sorry to hear that. I'm glad that you are able to be there with your Dad and family, I'm sure the hospice can offer you good support and make it as gentle a time as it can be. I'm expect there are complicated and difficult emotions though, am thinking of you all...
xxx

bezzyk · 15/01/2010 10:08

So sorry Justa.

thinking of you

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busierbee · 15/01/2010 10:08

Dearest Justa
You need us at the moment darling to support and be gentle. Please do not feel you have to pop in at all; look after you and new boy and big boys and let your mind focus on your father and yourself and what this whole life and death thing means.
In terms of belonging, well, you belong where you feel valued, welcome, useful and where your friends are honey.
thinking of you and wishing your dad a calm and safe and gentle passing to the next cottage.
Bee xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Cantdothisagain · 15/01/2010 10:28

Dearest Justa

thinking of you. Take care of yourself. And we are here if you need us.

katiecubs · 15/01/2010 10:39

So sorry Justa - i hope you manage to have some special time together, thinking of you xxxx

busierbee · 15/01/2010 10:51

Just to say that I do not think Justa is with her dad in fact. But I know she is with him in her heart.

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linspins · 15/01/2010 13:06

Justa, you give us so much, wish we could give you back some of the strength and wise words and love now. Thinking of you and your dad. lots of love and hugs. xxxxxxxxxxxxx

treedelivery · 15/01/2010 13:16

Dear Justa, hope the road is an easy one for you all at this time. Especially your dad. Take care

x

peanuthead · 15/01/2010 14:42

Justa - xxxxx

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treedelivery · 15/01/2010 15:10

RIP JustaDad.

I'm sorry Justa. I hope he had a calm and peaceful passing on.

bezzyk · 15/01/2010 16:01

Oh Justa. Thinking of you xx

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katiecubs · 15/01/2010 16:28

Thinking of you and your family Justa xxx

busierbee · 15/01/2010 16:49

Oh Justa - I hope he let go of this earth with peace in his heart. I wish you strength in the coming days and weeks.
I will light a candle for him.
Bee xxxxxxxxx

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linspins · 15/01/2010 18:14

Much love to you Justa. Thinking of you. xxxxx

Cantdothisagain · 15/01/2010 18:25

Thinking of you Justa. I am glad it was peaceful at the end.
Sending you warm thoughts and hugs.

Eulalia · 15/01/2010 20:08

Oh Justa, how sad, but a relief that it was peaceful. When you are ready I'd like you to tell us a bit about your dad. Take care of yourself. Much love. xxx

NumptyMum · 15/01/2010 20:24

Echoing Eulalia here - sad news, but a relief that it was peaceful and you were prepared. Much love, xxx

Mishta · 16/01/2010 01:41

Dear Justa, thinking of you and yours. Much love and hugs xxx

peanuthead · 16/01/2010 11:31

Justa - look after yourself. What horrible timing. XX

peanuthead · 16/01/2010 11:43

Ladies - feels a bit inappropriate posting so soon after Justa's loss but here goes...

I have an AIBU for you all - noone else to ask. And I no longer have any idea if I am reasonable or not, I'm just such a huge mass of bitterness most of the time.

My closest local mum friend is 12 weeks pg - til she got pg we saw each other a couple of times a week and she was there for alot of the termination stuff, or for the aftermath anyway as in we had a lot of coffees and she listened a lot. She had IVF just afterwards and when she started treatment she sort of withdrew from me, fair enough I suppose, who wants to be reminded of what can happen. Plus Xmas took up time etc.

Anyway lasat night I got a text - presumably sent to several - telling me all about her 12 week scan and how the baby was sucking it's thumb and how much you could see. AS you can all imagine I was really upset - am struggling a bit at the moment as started IVF injex so am really anxious about that, plus my due date is under 6 weeks away and am dreading it. All this she knows. I don't need to hear about people's 12 weeks scans by text message, catching me unawares and plunging me back to mine - esp as I'd seen her the day before and she hadn't mentioned she was having it. I think she could have waited and told me in person - or at least sent a more sensitive text to me not a generic one.

So AIBU - I really have no way of judging but I'm quite angry. Well very angry. Certainly angry enough to post and ask if it's justified....

I know it's always going to happen, but it's still only 3 months ago and I'm still raw...

Sorry for the self obsessed post by the way, hope everyone is having a restful weekend.

busierbee · 16/01/2010 12:32

Peanuthead -am going to write later but just wanted to offer support and acknowledgement.
It sucks really doesn't it?
Hang on in there and rant away here.
Bee xx