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Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities - Thread 5

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Conorgog · 07/08/2019 10:28

Welcome to the newest thread of support for those ladies who are pregnant or trying to conceive after terminating for abnormalities. Since this thread first began (almost ten years ago!) there have been stories of heart break, sadness and fear, but from these stories there have also been stories of happiness, success and most importantly, hope. Here they are, our thread babies, and may the list continue to grow:

@Mishtabel - Bella 22/01/10
@Linspins – Franklin 22/01/10
@Shangrila – baby boy 01/02/10
@Cantdothisagain – Babycan't 12/04/10
@Katerina100 – baby boy 06/10
@NumptyMum - Josie 28/06/10
@Allstarsprincess – Frank 30/07/10
@Katiecubs - Felix 13/08/10
@GinaFB – Alexander 03/01/11
@LittlePoot - Jacob 02/02/11
@Coffeeandchocolate – Coffeebean 22/02/11
@Rushingrachel – Oliver 02/03/11
@Crazycatlady - Lawrence 08/03/11
@Dramamama - Isabella 13/03/11
@VivClicquot - Phoebe 28/04/11
@LisbethSalander - baby boy 7/11
@Stormbird – George 24/07/11
@Sarahmia – baby girl 25/07/11
@Eavers – Jacob 11/08/11
@Grandj – Eliot 01/09/11
@Babylily – Miles 05/09/11
@NatzCNL - Sienna 26/09/11
@Manitz - Sacha 28/09/11
@Cherrybug – Kade 02/11/11
@Ghislaine - Charles 14/01/12
@Mrsbigz - Callum 19/01/12
@MyangelAva - Isabella 21/1/12
@Bezzyk - Minibez II 2/2/12
@Katerina100 – baby girl 19/04/2012
@flower11 – Hannah 18/10/2012
@Bluecat83 – Noah est 24/10/2012
@katiecubs – Seth 05/02/2013
@Havingkittens – Alfred 14/04/2013
@ghislane – Frederick 22/10/2013
@lostlove – baby boy est 10/04/14
@AliBingo – baby boy est 06/05/14
@LuckyAugust –baby boy 26/01/2015

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ShootingStar2020 · 04/03/2020 06:48

@BooMamaBear - hey you. Good news about the scan. We are all rooting for you.

@Treaclepie19 - good luck for today. Everything crossed.

@JO138 - wowzer - that sounds hectic but you are so strong so nothing like a few life events to keep you going/busy! All does sound exciting too! Look after yourself xxx

So I am in the middle of opk fun!! Had 3 days of “high fertility” followed by my peak on CD 16 yesterday which was slightly later than usual. Still feeling like I had my last chance last year but we shall see. It’s pretty emotional!! Xxx

Treaclepie19 · 04/03/2020 06:51

Thanks both Smile

Everything crossed for you @Shootingstar2020! 🤞

BooMamaBear · 04/03/2020 07:43

Thanks @fretnot and @ShootingStar2020 -let us know how you get on today @Treaclepie19 XX

JO138 · 04/03/2020 08:15

@shootingstar2020 fingers crossed! I got lucky on a weird out of kilter cycle so I have faith!! 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞

Kate544 · 04/03/2020 08:27

@Treaclepie19 good luck for today - have everything crossed for you.

@ShootingStar2020 I feel you. I had ten days high fertility this month so I have given up! Who knows what’s going on?!

Mangoandbroccoli · 04/03/2020 11:43

Wow @JO138 that all sounds pretty intense! Hope the move goes as smoothly as possible for you.

@BooMamaBear So glad all's as ok as it can be at this stage!

@ShootingStar2020 I'm well thanks and work's a little less insane this week. Just as well as the nausea and tiredness has been quite a challenge but keep reminding myself that I was desperate to feel like this a few weeks ago. Keeping absolutely everything crossed for you this month!

@Treaclepie19 Really hope the scan goes well!

So sorry to everyone whose hospital didn't / doesn't offer NIPT on the NHS - it's such a postcode lottery and just offers more stress at a time when you really don't need it if you do have to pay. I've been very fortunate as mine does offer it so have got that booked for 10.5 weeks so will hopefully go in to the 12 week scan with a bit more knowledge. Had booking in appt yesterday and still feels very surreal - I can take one day at a time but talking about delivery etc felt very strange as I just can't quite think that far ahead yet.

Treaclepie19 · 04/03/2020 15:59

Thank you everyone 💕
All has gone as well as we could have hoped so far. Measuring exactly on my dates at 9+3. Baby was wriggling away 😍
We have a plan to have the normal screening tests and see what happens.

Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities - Thread 5
Kate544 · 04/03/2020 16:28

Lovely news @treaclepie19 - must be a relief. Gives me hope so thanks for sharing x

Treaclepie19 · 04/03/2020 16:46

Thank you @Kate544. I'm glad ❤
I can't decide if we're stupid for not booking an amnio but if the 12 week scan goes well and the nuchal is fine then that means it's different to last time.

BooMamaBear · 04/03/2020 21:51

Lovely pic @Treaclepie19 glad all is well for you!!
@ShootingStar2020 -my last two pregnancies (including this one) were both the only months when I never got a positive OPK (these were the only ones we tried for coz the two pregnancies before were happy accidents) - so don't lose hope!! Xxx

Treaclepie19 · 05/03/2020 11:30

Thank you Smile It's made it all a bit more real seeing those little legs kicking about.

1stbabs · 05/03/2020 16:05

@BooMamaBear and @Treaclepie19 I'm so glad to hear your scans went well! X

Mini12 · 05/03/2020 19:48

Hi all, I have been following, trying to keep up where everyone's up to!! @Mangoandbroccoli how many weeks are u now? @Treaclepie19 how lovely!! That first scan is nerve wrecking! So glad uv had some reassurance! @JO138 wow busy time!! Good luck for your move and 20 week scan!!

I had 12 week earlier this week, the sonographer said everything looks fine but they couldn't get the NT measurement!! Wer going for NIPT anyway so that's due in early next week so fingers crossed all is ok , I'm feeling more positive than before scan so that's something! Fingers crossed for next week and feel like I'm peeping my head "out of the woods" just another 28 weeks to go!!! Ha

Treaclepie19 · 05/03/2020 19:52

Thank you!

@Mini12 I'm glad all looked good at your scan. That must be so frustrating with the NT. It's my fear this time round that they won't get the NT because we're really relying on it to tell us whether there's a problem. No point in the NIPT for us because only an amnio would tell us if our little boys issue had happened again.

BooMamaBear · 06/03/2020 16:37

That's good @Mini12 -fingers crossed NIPT is ok - I find out all the trisomy results and the gender of the baby anyway as have to have CVS at 11 weeks for another condition (MD) one of the boys I lost had T21 as well as MD which is the main condition they test for!! Xx

BooMamaBear · 06/03/2020 16:38

@Treaclepie19 -why do you have to have Amnio? Xx

Treaclepie19 · 06/03/2020 16:40

@BooMamaBear the NIPT wouldn't show his condition.
He had deletions of chromosome 2 so only the cvs or amnio would pick it up.
I don't really want either if we don't have to but that means relying on the nuchal to tell us there's an issue.

BooMamaBear · 06/03/2020 16:51

Ah ok so do you have to wait for the 12 week scan first then or can they check the NT before? They check mine at the 11 week scan I have before the CVS to see if it's likely that the baby would have a trisomy issue xx

BooMamaBear · 06/03/2020 16:53

There's a possibility I may need Amnio as she couldn't tell yet but the consultant thinks my placenta is growing on the back wall which may make CVS too difficult they can't do Amnio as early as they do CVS!!

Treaclepie19 · 06/03/2020 16:53

@BooMamaBear yeah, they would book in the cvs for us if we wanted it before the nuchal but we're going to wait. My 12 week scan isn't until 13+3 though 😩
When is yours? x

Treaclepie19 · 06/03/2020 16:54

Yeah I had an anterior placenta last time and had an amnio. I didn't have it until late on in the end though.

BooMamaBear · 06/03/2020 17:43

My 11 week scan and CVS is 31st March I'll be 11+5 (all being well) doc said if they can't do it then they'll try again a week later then do Amnio after that -I don't have a 12 week scan coz I get scanned the week before instead! Xx

Treaclepie19 · 06/03/2020 17:45

That makes sense! My 13+3 scan is 1st April so we can be buddies Smile

Fingers well and truly crossed 🤞

BooMamaBear · 07/03/2020 10:36

Your last scan was the day after mine wasn't it? Xx

Treaclepie19 · 07/03/2020 10:48

Possibly! Mine was wednesday just gone.