Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 4

[NatzCNL]

Welcome to the newest thread of support for those ladies who are pregnant or trying to concieve after terminating for abnormalities. Since this thread first began there have been stories of heart break, sadness and fear, but from these stories there have also been stories of happiness, success and most importantly, hope. Here they are, our thread babies, and may the list continue to grow:

Mishtabel - Bella 22/01/10
Linspins ? Franklin 22/01/10
Shangrila ? baby boy 01/02/10
Can'tdothisagain ? Babycan't 12/04/10
Katerina100 ? baby boy 06/10
NumptyMum - Josie 28/06/10
Allstarsprincess ? Frank 30/07/10
Katiecubs - Felix 13/08/10
GinaFB ? Alexander 03/01/11
LittlePoot - Jacob 02/02/11
Coffeeandchocolate ? Coffeebean 22/02/11
Rushingrachel ? Oliver 02/03/11
Crazycatlady - Lawrence 08/03/11
Dramamama - Isabella 13/03/11
VivClicquot - Phoebe 28/04/11
Lisbeth Salander - baby boy 7/11
Stormbird ? George 24/07/11
Sarahmia ? baby girl 25/07/11
Eavers ? Jacob 11/08/11
Grandj ? Eliot 01/09/11
Babylily ? Miles 05/09/11
NatzCNL - Sienna 26/09/11
Manitz - Sacha 28/09/11
Cherrybug ? Kade 02/11/11
Ghislaine - Charles 14/01/12
Mrsbigz - Callum 19/01/12
MyangelAva - Isabella 21/1/12
Bezzyk - Minibez II 2/2/12

Havingkittens
You've had a horrendous time - congratulations on your bfp and here's to a truely uneventful 9 months for both of us. I want to keep things under wraps as long as possible and just take the dreaded tests and scans one at a time. Even all that seems such a long way off.

Congrats Chunkymonkey xx

Thank you stormbird.

I hope you are doing ok x

Congratulations Havingkittens and Chunkymonkey! Hope all goes well this time. x

Welcome and congratulations Chunkymonkey - fabulous news!! How lovely to see this thread becoming a little more active :) x

Thank you so much Scampi and Katie
It feels very unreal at the moment. just trying to think positive thoughts x

hi there just popping on quickly to say massive congrats to kittens, welcome to chunkymonkey and congrats for those who have had good scans. as katie said it's so nice to see this thread become more active.

Babyman is also more active as he learnt to crawl last week while we were on holiday and looks like a clockwork baby speeding round the house. the others are off school and i've realised they're not such good babysitters as I thought...

I'm really getting into the olympics and have a sudden desire for tickets but the only ones left are really pricey and we are skint so we are off to hyde park tomorrow for some free Spirit of the Games. The kids are going to 4 consecutive days of paralympics with teh grandparents and dd1 has a ticket to the wrestling with the school for the olympics so they wont miss out but I am upset i cant go.

Thanks Manitz. Sounds like "all go" at your place

First treatment this morning. All went fine and finished in time to make it to work without any dramas. Would dearly love a looong sleep though!

Morning all. Hope the bumps and bumps-to-be are all coming along nicely. Kittens-how are you doing? Hope you're starting to feel suitably grim?! xxxxx

Hey Poot! What an amazing day :) hope you are not too hot and stuffy up in London - congrats on the new job by the way!

All ok here, feeling slightly less sicky now but have entered the fat bloated stage so need a t-shirt to wear that say's 'hey i'm actually pregnant you know!'

Also wondering how you are getting on Kittens? Work sounds grueling so hope you are not suffering too much, but also hope you are iyswim. xxx

Thanks for asking after me. I am doing ok. Getting a bit tired with this job but I had an afternoon break and managed to find a nice shady spot in the park to have a half hour kip. Made the world of difference! I am not feeling that grim as I'm only 5 weeks and the steroids apparently mask a lot of the symptoms. Especially the tiredness. I'm trying to stay positive though. My sense of smell is on high alert, I am weeing like a maniac and waking up feeling like I've been chewing blotting paper in my sleep so I'm taking all those as positive signs. I have my first scan at 6+6 on 23 August and then, all being well the second one on 4 Sept. I will keep you posted.

Katie, the steroids I'm on will inevitably give me the beautiful "moonface" syndrome so it won't be long before I look lardy and will be unable to offer any excuses for a while! I do remember that in between phase, it's very tricky wardrobe-wise isn't it?

Oh my God, oh my God! I haven't had a chance to catch up - I just 'flipped' the thread and the first thing I saw was Kittens saying'I'm only 5 weeks'!! Sorry Kittens, I'm trying not to get too excited, as I know it's early days, but I can't help it! I am not particularly religious, but it won't stop me praying for you every night. I have tears of joy for you and this has made my night. About bloody time! (apologies for using the Lord's name in vain, swearing and overuse of exclamation marks). I wish you all the luck in the world, I really, really do xxx

Sorry for not getting back to you all - just quickly (famous last words) before I go and catch up, my daughter returned home after about 10 days (came close to being raped while she was away, which she didn't disclose until later, but the main thing is she wasn't). She's quite good at the moment, going to school, showing more respect - its like we have a new understanding of each other. Anyway, I did read some of your messages after I posted, and meant to say thank you so much. I'm now going to go and catch up. It's 10:30pm here, do I won't promise that I'll get back tonight, but know I'm thinking of you all xxxxx

Ok, think I've caught up, and I'm still awake, so will post while it's fresh in my mind...

Firstly, Stormbird, I am so, so sorry this has happened to you a second time. I hope you're going ok, and wish you every bit of luck for a happy and healthy pregnancy in the near future xx

Great scan results Katie - sooo happy for you xx BTW my blog address is jenandmicksjoint.blogspot.com.au I'm going to try to upload some more pics tomorrow if I remember, as a lot has changed since I last updated. The problem is getting the house tidy enough for photos :)

Blacktreaclecat, congratulations on the birth of Nicholas James! Another one for our ever expanding list :)

Welcome to Scampidoodle and Chunkymonkey, and congratulations on your pregnancies. Pregnancy is never quite the same after what we have been through, but this place is so great for hand-holding and offloading - I cannot begin to describe how much the ladies here, and on the original 'termination for abnormalities' thread were my lifeline throughout the birth,and beyond, of my now 2 1/2 year of dd.

My niece lost her baby girl a few months ago at 26 weeks. She bled and lost fluid at 17 weeks, and unfortunately the fluid never replaced itself. Her baby was due 2 weeks ago, and as if that wasn't hard enough for her, her sister, who was due at roughly the same time, had her baby 5 days later. They were both so excited to be pregnant together, and while my niece who lost her baby is happy for her sister, she is, understandably, having a very rough time of things. She lives interstate, though we chat through FB inbox, and although I've been through my own losses, I've still found it hard to know what to say at times to help. I've drawn on all the words of wisdom here in my attempt though.

Kittens, still can't stop beaming from your news :) Are you doing make-up for the Olympics? I love the Olympics more than ever this year, even though we're not doing too well ourselves (but as I tell the children, it's not about the winning, it's about the journey). I'm currently watching the gorgeous rhythmic gymnasts - my favourites - and thought wow, maybe kittens is doing their makeup?

After midnight now, so I'm off to bed. A huge hello to you all, not going to begin to name names, as I could be here forever and still forget someone. Suffice to say its like dropping in on old friends when I pop in, and I've missed you all. Have a lovely weekend xxx

Just as I am about to go, 'Beautiful in my eyes' comes on, which never fails to remind me of Coffee and Silvia, and Always and Rose. I'm so glad to know things turned out for Coffee (hi Coffee if you're reading), but have often wondered about Always. As I have about Peanut. And then I think of Bee, who made these whole threads possible. I'd love to know how everyone's getting on....xxxx

Hello hello everyone! Long time no read/post.

Stormbird, as another one who's been through this twice, you have my sincerest sympathies. I did get third time lucky. I so hope you do,too.

Katie, congrats on the scan results - brilliant - and Treaclecat, on your baby boy. I love the name.

Chunky, congrats on the pregnancy too, and good luck.

Hi Mishtabel - so glad your DD came back OK; sounds harrowing - will check out your blog; thanks for posting the link again. I too would love to know how the others are... anyone lurking??

Finally though I had to save this because I am so, so excited, and the news brought a tear to my very unsentimental eye - KITTENS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I will be with you all the way; you deserve this so so much, have waited so long - I am absolutely delighted. I shall ensure I tune in more to keep updated on your pregnancy.

No time to post more, but couldnt read and run with all this news to catch up on!

Ahh Mishta how lovely to hear from you - so glad your daughter is back and seems to be getting back on track, horrible to hear about what nearly happend though - really hope she is ok. I'm really sorry to hear about your neice too, what a difficult situation. It is so difficult to know what to do/say as everyone is differant but i'm sure by just being you, you are being all she needs right now. I just had a quick squiz at your blog - how swish if your house - blimey! Well done with all your hard work :)

Hello Can't - thanks for the congrats, now just to get to (and through) the 20 week scan. Still it's a long way off for now so i can have a bit of a breather.

Kittens, glad to hear you are coping ok - do you have a bit of time off now the games have finished? All the symptoms sound like they are coming on nicely, you feeling very sicky yet? My nausea has been much less this time round so i definately think every pregnancy is differant.

All well and good here. It's Felix's 2nd birthday today, he has been a very lucky little guy and is chuffed to bits with his new 'big boy scooter' and various emergency vehicles and cars. We just went out for lunch and treated his to a knickerbocker glory - his face was just priceless

Kittens - hope all is ok and you are having a well earned rest post olympics.

Having a bit of a wobble today. Been going through genetics testing from April and thought we would get to a recurrence risk factor by last meeing we had a few weeks ago. They haven't been able to confirm exactly what the condition was and of those it might be all had 1% recurrence risk except one which was 25%. They went off to take more tests for that tho geneticist seemed fairly sure it would come back clear. So we decided to ttc and got bfp straight away. Rang today and they need further samples from me to test against. I am terrified of the results coming back now. I guess I just wanted the i dotted and to move forward with the lower general risk. Now another three to four weeks to wait for this. Scared beyond belief. Sorry for the long me post

Hello you lovely lot, hope you don't mind an old strange face popping in to say hi! Hope you're all doing well - have had a quick scan of this thread and it sounds like there has been an enormous amount of wonderful news since the start of the year, so sorry I've not popped in more often! I've thought of you all often, but life with DD (who is now 15 months old) has been fabulously hectic so I've not been on MN half as much as I used to.

Kittens and Katie, in particular, it looks like congratulations are in order! What fabulous news. Hope you're both doing well, and I also hope you don't mind making room for me on the pregnancy bench, as I too am expecting another one... Eek! Due in early November, which means P will be 18 months old when he or she arrives. mild terror All came about, um, shall we say slightly sooner than we had planned , but once we got over the initial panic, then we're really excited about it.

Curiously, my EDD is four days after what will be the third anniversary of my termination and as it looks like I might opt for an ELCS, am at the very least going to ask if I can be scheduled for the same day. Might sound odd, but I just think it would be fitting to do it on the same day and a nice way of remembering our lost one. That said, who knows if the hospital takes requests - ha! - so we'll have to wait and see...

Chunky - congrats to you too and sorry that you are having some worries. Fingers crossed that the extra tests are just precautionary and everything turns out to be just fine for you and your bean.

Anyway, hope all the old faces are doing well too - Can't and Mishta and Coffee and Poot and Shangrila.

Much love, xxx

Hello, sorry about the silence. It's all been a bit hectic and today I have been in bed pretty much all day! I'm completely wiped out! I haven't been feeling many symptoms, apart from profuse weeing and a rather awkward amount of excess wind . I am trying very hard to remain calm and positive, but as you all know it's hard to stop the paranoid thoughts creeping in. My first scan is next Thursday so until then all I can do is wait.

Lovely to hear from you, Mishta, Can't and Viv.

Big congratulations to Viv! Feels funny to all be here again, going through the wait together.

Mishta, so pleased to hear your DD is back home where she belongs and that you are re-establishing a good relationship. It sounds like she's been through some frightening experiences but hopefully, if nothing else, they have given her the wake up call that she needed. It says a lot that she has had the confidence to confide in you about what happened. Hopefully your relationship can only go from strength to strength from here. Sorry to hear about your niece too. I can't even begin to imagine losing a pregnancy at that stage. It must be terribly hard for her.

Chunky, I know how scary it must feel having been told that statistic. Don't forget about the 75% of everything being OK aspect though! I think my odds were 10%, although that was 3 years ago now so I think my risks are also higher now. It's not fair is it, that we have to go through all of this worry when so many others just get pregnant and look forward to having a baby without any inkling that it might go any other way? Gosh, I so envy those people!

Chunky, just wanted to say that I think those stats are fairly meaningless anyway - in that I had 2 babies with fatal conditions, but those conditions were totally unrelated to each other (apparently) and my risk was teeny tiny each time, but I was still the one in xxxxxx. So 1 in 4 (at worst) sounds terrible, but in the end you are much more likely to be OK than not. Whilst someone with much less scary stats might be the one. I do understand the panic though, and it's all heightened by early pregnancy fear anyway. I have my fingers firmly crossed.

Viv - wow, congratulations! did you find out the sex?

Kittens, it's all sounding good from you. How many weeks will you be next Thursday? I am thinking of you - so, so lovely to see you here pregnant.

Cantdo, I will be 6+6 on Thursday and will be having a scan at the EPU at St Helier's as my consultant is away but that was where I started seeing him on the NHS so they will be able to pass on the results to him and hopefully treat me with the appropriate tenderness. Then another private scan with my consultant when he returns from holiday at 8+4 on 4 Sept before I have my next intravenous treatment.

Viv - thanks for your congrats and congrats to you too - what super news and so lovely to hear that you are doing well :) must be so nice to be past the horrible scans too! Do stick around please.

Kittens - glad you are getting a bit of much needed rest. I know it's easy to say but try not to worry about the symptoms that much. Mine have been so much less this time - pretty much none existent until 7 weeks and even then then have come and gone. Hoping the wait till next Thursday passes quickly - we will all be on the bench outside rooting for yoy x

Chunky - sorry you don't have the answers you need yet. it must be horrible playing the waiting game again, but as the others have said remeber the odds are still always on your side!

Hi

Thanks all for your sensible words of advice. The rational side of me knows the odds are in our favour but am sure like a lot of you I now fear the worst and convince myself i will be the one in whatever statistic! Am just concentrating on work etc and taking each day as it comes. Thanks again and congrats and good luck to katie, viv and kittens

Cant

Sorry I missed you out - thank you too. I know you have been through this twice and can't imagine the pain of that. best wishes x

Chunky - denial worked for me, just basically trying to forget I was pregnant, and not telling people. Good luck - the time will pass and you will get there.

FWIW, having it happen twice is very rare - even on this thread - I didnt want to scare you.

Fingers and toes crossed!

Hello - hope everyone's doing ok...
Does anyone know what's likely to happen at a consultant's appointment at 16 weeks? The midwife said he "might" do a scan - I can't really see the point if he doesn't! The doctor, on the other hand (who I saw for something unrelated) was asking how my pregnancy was going, and was really surprised I hadn't got regular extra scans scheduled. I was told I was high risk in several categories at my booking appointment but that was when I was at risk of becoming a blubbering wreck, so I didn't ask what they were (I think the others must include my age - 38 - and the fact that I had a very difficult assisted delivery last time). Can anyone shed any light on what the consultant might do/talk about? Thanks.
Chunky - how are you coping with the wait? Are you likely to get a scan before you get your results back?
Kittens - good luck for the scan this week