Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 4

[NatzCNL]

Welcome to the newest thread of support for those ladies who are pregnant or trying to concieve after terminating for abnormalities. Since this thread first began there have been stories of heart break, sadness and fear, but from these stories there have also been stories of happiness, success and most importantly, hope. Here they are, our thread babies, and may the list continue to grow:

Mishtabel - Bella 22/01/10
Linspins ? Franklin 22/01/10
Shangrila ? baby boy 01/02/10
Can'tdothisagain ? Babycan't 12/04/10
Katerina100 ? baby boy 06/10
NumptyMum - Josie 28/06/10
Allstarsprincess ? Frank 30/07/10
Katiecubs - Felix 13/08/10
GinaFB ? Alexander 03/01/11
LittlePoot - Jacob 02/02/11
Coffeeandchocolate ? Coffeebean 22/02/11
Rushingrachel ? Oliver 02/03/11
Crazycatlady - Lawrence 08/03/11
Dramamama - Isabella 13/03/11
VivClicquot - Phoebe 28/04/11
Lisbeth Salander - baby boy 7/11
Stormbird ? George 24/07/11
Sarahmia ? baby girl 25/07/11
Eavers ? Jacob 11/08/11
Grandj ? Eliot 01/09/11
Babylily ? Miles 05/09/11
NatzCNL - Sienna 26/09/11
Manitz - Sacha 28/09/11
Cherrybug ? Kade 02/11/11
Ghislaine - Charles 14/01/12
Mrsbigz - Callum 19/01/12
MyangelAva - Isabella 21/1/12
Bezzyk - Minibez II 2/2/12

Hi Scampi i'm not too sure to be honest as your circumstances are differant to mine but for my last pregnancy i was initially put under consultant care which i just found to be a waste of time to be honest. I went to my appointment and neither of us really knew the point of my being there - as it was just one of those things i declined any further consultant care. I'm sure it may very well be differant for you if you are high risk for a number of reasons though.

Kittens how are you doing? Keeping everything crossed for you for your scan tomorrow love x

Hi Ladies, I'm back from holiday and still catching up just thought I'd pop on to say hi and wish chunky the very best of luck and also congratulate Viv

Sorry if I've missed anyone - i'll hopefully be able to post properlsy soon xxx

Hello everyone,

It's been a long time since I've posted. Life with 2 kids is pretty hectic along with planning a wedding so I just seem to never have much time. I've had a quick scan of the thread and see that congratulations are in order for a few newer threadmembers who are treading the scary road of pregnancy. I hope you all have an uneventful time.

I was SO delighted to read your news Kittens and I am hoping with all my heart that you have a straightforward time of it and that your scan tomorrow is fine. Fingers crossed for you, and toes and eyes and anything else that crosses! I'll be checking in to hear your news.

We are fine, wedding is only 4 weeks away now so getting excited about that. Still have a lot to do as it's a bit of a DIY affair! Kids are both doing fine, Kade is into everything, crawling everywhere and getting lots of bumps. I think it wont be too long before he's taking his first steps.

Anyway no time to write more so sorry for lack of personals. Hope everyone is well though - who is the next to have their baby? Flower?

Love, Cherry

Oh kittens - the thought of your scan tomorrow makes me nervous - I dread to think how you must be feeling. We're all with you babe - fingers crossed for a good result.

On another note, Jacob's finally going back to nursery tomorrow after a week in chicken pox quarantine. Talk about cabin fever! Poor little man - he's so sick of the sight of me and dh. The house suddenly feels very small when it's the only place you're allowed to be....

Hi stormbird - Great to hear from you, did you have a lovely holiday?

Cheery lovely to hear from you too! Glad the wedding planning is going well, must be hard with 2! we got married when Felix was 16 months and that was hectic enough.

Poot, glad jacod is feeling better now! Must have been horrible for you - the thought of being stuck in a house with Felix for more than a couple of hours is pretty terrible - he gets so bored!

Kittens, if you want let us know the time of your scan so we can all sit on the virtual bench and sent lots of good luck thoughts/prayers/vibes your way x

Hello! I am actually feeling reasonably calm, it's quite strange! We'll see how long that lasts and whether I actually get any sleep tonight. Hope I do though, my appointment is at 8.45 and it's waaaay over the other side of London so we'll be up pretty early. This one is at the NHS EPU at St Heliers so whether I'll actually get in there at 8.45 is anyone's guess. Although I can't imagine there'll be many before me. I am using a really old phone at the moment as mine broke a couple of weeks ago so I may not be able to post my news until I get home but will be sure to keep you updated.

Nice to hear from you Cherry. Are you nicely settled into your newly decorated place now? Blimey, I don't envy you having to get all that sorted with the little one and now plan a wedding! Exciting though! Will you get a chance to have a bit of a honeymoon at all?

Katie, how are you getting on? How many weeks are you now?

Poot, glad to hear Jacob is over his chicken pox and off to nursery. Bet you can't wait to have some time to yourself.

Thanks all for your good luck wishes. I'll be back tomorrow....... x

Thanks for the update Kittens. Will make sure I am there at 8.45 :) glad you are feeling quite calm and it's good to have the apt early in the day - hopefully that means you won't be waiting around too long.

I'm ok - 14.5 weeks now and feeling much better, starting to develop a fat tum but not really sure you could call it a bump yet. Anyway much get to bed but best best best of luck for tomorrow we are all rooting for you xxx

On the bench, thinking of Kittens, with everything crossed for you today!

Should be asleep so no time for more now, but thinking hard of Kittens!

Thanks for all your good luck wishes! So far, so good! Measuring 6+5, which is just a day less than my estimate and a good heartbeat. Next scan on 4 Sept, so not too long to wait. Phew!

Oh my gosh kittens - my heart was in my mouth there! Amazing news am so so happy for you!! Am sure once you have seen a heartbeat its something like 97%-98% chance of a successful pregnancy

Thanks Katie. Well, I've seen heartbeats at a couple of early scans before so not sure there, but I am trying to stay as positive as I can. Of course, there is also the "other" hurdle to get past too. I think I am going to have my Nuchal done privately at FMC. I think they are super thorough and scan in a lot more detail so may be able to avoid a CVS. If not then at least I know it will be done by the best in the country so will hopefully keep the risk of miscarriage to a minimum. Still, one bridge at a time....

Yay Kittens! I have been thinking about you. I understand the one step at a time thing - I was just the same - but still, so far so good, and I have a good feeling about this. It is finally your time.

The next scan is pretty soon - reassuring.

Still here for support; it's a rollercoaster of nerves, I know.

Yay! Little bean with little heartbeat! Keep it up little one.... xxx

Thank you!

I'm off for the weekend with OH's whole family who will all be drinking like mad and probably speculating on why I'm not. I suspect I will be outed by the end of the weekend!

Have a fantastic weekend Kittens! I know you are just over the first hurdle but still it's a big step in the right direction at the very least. Lots of hugs and wishes xxx

That's great news kittens. Enjoy your weekend!

Great news, kittens - have a lovely weekend!

Katie - thanks for your comments on the consultant appt - at least meant I wasn't expecting too much!
The midwife asked why I'd been referred, then the doctor (I didn't see the consultant) said the midwife had noted that I was extremely anxious. No scan, nothing more than an ordinary midwife appointment really. But I did hear the heartbeat, which is always reassuring.

Kittens - just accept drinks and then give them to your DP/tip them away....

Yay, Kittens, so happy to hear so far, so good. I know you said you've heard heartbeats before, but there's no denying that it's a really good sign. Will check in on you on the 4th (my 5th). Hope you're enjoying your weekend away.

Great to hear from everyone - and thanks for the thoughts regarding my 15y dd - still doing muh better, though not a model student at the moment (currently on suspension for being rude to a teacher). Congratulations to you Viv, lovely news :) So nice to belong to a thread where people can and do drop in when they can/want/need and see familiar 'faces' as well as being so welcoming to new faces - I guess even though our stories might be different in the details, essentially they, or at least the emotions of them, are pretty similar, and bond us all in a way.

Forgot to say congratulations on your results at the Olympics. It's great when the host nation does so well. I think one of the highlights for me was seeing Tom Daley win the bronze - or just seeing Tom Daley. I'm not normally an old perv, but he is just too gorgeous (find myself humming 'Mrs Robinson')

Well on that note, I might google images of Tom Daley go to bed

Have a lovely weekend everyone xxx

Oh my gosh Mishtabel am right there with you on the Tom Daley crush! I just adore him and was on the edge of my seat that night. Cried when he got his bronze - what a star, his dad would have been so so proud. Ok must stop gushing about it all again - must be the pregnancy hormones lol.

Hi Ladies,

Katie - had a lovely holiday thank you. It was much needed.

Kittens I'm so glad your scan went well and I have every hope that the subsequent ones will be just as good.
How was St Helier?? I have been under St Helier for all of my pregnancies and I had my son there. I have only ever experienced fantastic service and care so you are in good hands. They have a fantastic fetal medicine facility and the Consultants there are very good. I hope your experience was a good one too.

Ahh, I'm back! Thanks for all your messages.

Nobody mentioned my not drinking. I just kept very low key about it and actually it was only the men (surprise!) that were doing much drinking. It was quite overwhelmingly chaotic with all those people as my tiredness seems to have just kicked in big time, as has my delightful constipation, which is also somewhat challenging when you can't spend any significant time the loo without at least two people trying the handle. I'm quite pleased to be home now!

I missed all the diving action in the Olympics. Well, actually I missed everything, even though I was working there. But, my OH took his photography class to photograph Tom Daley training before the Olympics. Unfortunately I got a call to go and do his make up but I was already booked on a very boring job so couldn't go. Shame!

Stormbird, they were absolutely lovely at St Helier's. Really kind and sensitive, which meant a hell of a lot as we all know it can be the luck of the draw with sonographers and midwives after what we've been through. That will probably be a one off though as most of my other scans with be private or later (she says, hopefully) at UCH which is my local hospital. St Helier's is a right old trek and not really where I'd need to be heading if I ever get as far as labour!

Hope you all enjoyed your bank holiday weekend. Last one for a while...

Hi Kittens! Glad you managed to go the weekend undetected! I can't believe you had to say no to doing Tom Daley's make up that's just terrible!! Although i would have been very jealous

How are you feeling now? Much morning sickness yet? x

Not sure if it was undetected, or just discreetly not mentioned. Either way it was a relief. Although we did tell OH's mum who reacted in her usual over the top way of bursting into tears and rubbing my head like a dog (which I find rather strange and annoying!) I'm always reluctant to tell her for that reason. The crying bit, that is. I just want to be kind of low key and not make a big deal out of it until I know things are going to work out.

I woke up early this morning all paranoid because I'd not got tired at all yesterday and had gone to bed quite late and woken up early, but then I've had a mid morning slump and some slight queasiness as well as a rampaging thirst so I think all is ok. Not much nausea at the moment but I apparently the drugs I'm on mask a lot of pregnancy symptoms, especially morning sickness. That should be a blessing, but it can make you a bit paranoid! I can't wait to get off these steroids though, they make my hands shaky which is really not helpful in my line of work!

How are you getting on?

Lol at OH's mum - that's so funny. Although i get, totally annoying - i hate people making a fuss too especially before your scans are out of the way.

I spent most of the first trimester freaking out as my symptoms were so much less this time round and quite sporadic. My first pregnancy was by far the worst in terms of MS but then i also had high HCG levels due to the babies chromosomal disorder so in some ways i thought it was a good sign i felt better?!

Generally i am ok, but in a bit of a nothingy stage iyswim. just podgy no proper bump and not able to feel movement so it doesn't quite feel real yet.

Do you have another scan next week did you say? x