Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 4

[NatzCNL]

Welcome to the newest thread of support for those ladies who are pregnant or trying to concieve after terminating for abnormalities. Since this thread first began there have been stories of heart break, sadness and fear, but from these stories there have also been stories of happiness, success and most importantly, hope. Here they are, our thread babies, and may the list continue to grow:

Mishtabel - Bella 22/01/10
Linspins ? Franklin 22/01/10
Shangrila ? baby boy 01/02/10
Can'tdothisagain ? Babycan't 12/04/10
Katerina100 ? baby boy 06/10
NumptyMum - Josie 28/06/10
Allstarsprincess ? Frank 30/07/10
Katiecubs - Felix 13/08/10
GinaFB ? Alexander 03/01/11
LittlePoot - Jacob 02/02/11
Coffeeandchocolate ? Coffeebean 22/02/11
Rushingrachel ? Oliver 02/03/11
Crazycatlady - Lawrence 08/03/11
Dramamama - Isabella 13/03/11
VivClicquot - Phoebe 28/04/11
Lisbeth Salander - baby boy 7/11
Stormbird ? George 24/07/11
Sarahmia ? baby girl 25/07/11
Eavers ? Jacob 11/08/11
Grandj ? Eliot 01/09/11
Babylily ? Miles 05/09/11
NatzCNL - Sienna 26/09/11
Manitz - Sacha 28/09/11
Cherrybug ? Kade 02/11/11
Ghislaine - Charles 14/01/12
Mrsbigz - Callum 19/01/12
MyangelAva - Isabella 21/1/12
Bezzyk - Minibez II 2/2/12

Mine's at 3.30 so a long wait for us as well. Yes, really nervous too...

Just back - all looking good - so relieved :)

Was actually a bit further on that i thought (11+3) so they were able to do the NT after all. I will get a call in the next few days if i come back high risk but the nuchal was 1.1 so that's a good sign.

Thanks for all the well wishes everyone - hoping to see Scampi back soon with good news too xxx

Hi, yes - all looking fine so far for us too. Relieved but a bit wary about the Down's tests. Apparently I'll get a call sooner if the risk is very high, but if it's normal then it'll be three weeks before we hear. I'm 38 so the risk is pretty high anyway.
All this worrying is so exhausting! I've not really done anything today but I'm shattered!
Katiecubs - glad to hear your news. Are you going to tell people about your pregnancy now? (or have you already?) I'm trying to avoid making a big thing about it just yet but I'll have to tell some people soon I suppose. Only told parents so far.

Super news Scampi!! :)

I am trying to be optimistic so will be telling people now i think yes - last time i waited a lot longer. I also have a hen weekend this weekend and as i am a right royal piss head there is no way i will be able to hide it! x

Ha ha! I know what you mean - I think some people might have guessed already about me...

Oh guys-I'm so pleased all looked well for the four of you today! Fingers crossed the risks come back suitably low so you can get on with growing those bumps. xxx

Thanks poot! :)

Scampi what's your due date? Mine is Feb 15th x

Hi Everyone,

I'm still here, Lurking as ever!

So glad that Katie and Scampi have had good scans. Fingers crossed for the NT results. I'll keep an eye out for news.

I'm ok. I'm back at work now after a month off. Still no sign of AF which is frustrating, not cos I want to SWI but because I am so used to knowing where I am in my cycle that I feel out of control not knowing. Hopefully she'll appear soon!!

We will be trying again at some point. I feel a bit like it could become an obsession so I am being very cautious and constantly reminding myself that I need to let my body recover (in my head I just want to get on with it).

Cant did you terminate due to Annencephaly, or was it something different. It's reassuring to hear that you have had another healthy child since. Thank you

Anyway - hope you are all well. I'll pop in again soon

xxx

Hi Stormbird - lovely to hear from you and glad you are doing ok. How is being back at work? I remeber wanting to get right back on with it straight away too and i did, have you been advised to wait?

I got my letter through already with my risk numbers and they are all great 1:12k, 1:120k and 1:294k so very pleased with that. One think i am worried about though is that my HCG level is 0.37 MoM which seems really low to me, have googled (know i shouldn't) and found that it's on the 5th centile - some things say could mean increased risk of misscarriage. Anyone know anything about this?!

Hi Katie, I obviously need to get a build up of the Folic Acid in my system and they say you should have been taking it 3 months before you try to concieve so we'll activley try after this point probably but the consultant also said that I should have a pretty good build up of it anyway now as I have been taking it officially for more than 3 months (from when I found out I was PG until now) so he advised that if I really wanted to try again asap to wait about 6 weeks to let my body recover fully. We'll try when it feels right to do so I think.

Sorry I have no advice about the HCG level tho hun, hoping someone else might be able to help you out. Great news about your risk factors though

xx

Hello all,

Apologies for the long absence - life with 3 is hectic! Manitz, how do you do it with 4? I am in awe of you The summer holidays are a welcome relief, lovely to be getting some proper family time. Well, if hubby wasn't so busy at work it would be better, but that is the nature of the job.

Stormbird, I just read all your posts, Im so sorry. To go through that twice is just awful. I hope you are taking care of yourself. We began trying straight after my AF after the termination. It took us a few months which was unusual for us as I usually fall straight away, but I think that was because of the stress of the loss and not giving my body time to recover. The week we decided to have a break from TTC was the week I fell pregnant.

Katie, great scan results! Im glad everything is going well. I dont understand the HCG levels so am no help to you at all, sorry!

Congratulations Scampi, hope your results are back soon

Flower, how are you doing?

Just wanted to stop in to say hi and catch up with what has been happening on here. I rarely visit mumsnet much these days. Mainly because I dont have the energy of an evening to boot up the computer, and when I do get in to do some work, I never have time to post.

Sienna is 10 months now! Where did that time go?? And my middle DD starts primary school in September with her big sister who will be going in to year 1. Time is moving way too fast.

Married life is lovely, same as usual but nice to call myself Mrs A now. Still not had a honeymoon but will try to get away after the Olympics with the kids and maybe a romantic city break for me and Mr A near Christmas.

Im sorry for lack of personals. I hope you are all well and bumps are growing without any drama. For those TTC, I wish you lots of luck and success

Natz xx

Hi Stormbird - glad you're ok.
Hi Katiecubs - have you asked your midwife about the HCG results? She might be able to help...
I haven't had a call but I can't be sure that means it's good news quite yet. Things move very slowly round here...
My due date is 3rd Feb, which is what I worked it out to be originally but the midwife didn't agree and made it a week later!

Hi everyone, been lurking but havent posted for awhile.

Katie glad that you got good scan results,and scampi hope that you get your results soon.
Stormbird I lost my first baby in 2010 as she had anencephaly, Im now 30+ weeks with current pregnancy and all is well. I had problems concieving so it ended up that I was on the folic acid for 16 months, so I guess that helped.

Natz lovely to hear from you, yes time does seem to fly.
I am now 31 weeks, just seen midwife, baby is lying transverse, I have 4 weeks to get it to move, they want it to move by 35 weeks, been franticaly googling what will help, hopefully baby will be good and turn on its own soon!

Hello to everyone else, hope all is well. xx

Thank you Natz and Flower - lovely to hear from you! Natz glad to hear your girl's are all doing well and growing fast, hope you get that honeymoon soon!

Flower, glad your prgenancy is going well and hope the baby turns soon!

Scampi i have thought about calling midwife yes but to be honest i was not quite sure how to best get hold of her as i think she only does the clinic once a week. Then i figured that maybe i should just try not to stress and that they would call me if it was a problem. The baby has been growing well and everything else looks fine so i should be happy with that :)

Hello! Great reading all the scan and test results on here recently!

Katie, do you think you can get an email address for your midwife? I used to email mine relentlessly and she was very helpful. It think ith emails they can reply when they get a chance rather than you trying to pin the down on the phone.

Storm, I was really sorry to read that you're been through this awful experience twice. The same happened to me. It's such a kick in the teeth after spending those first couple of months trying to reassure yourself that such random bad luck can't happen twice. It can really send you reeling. I have read that it can help if men take the 5mg folic acid too. I have a feeling Poot may have employed that tactic. I only read that recently so only I have been taking it. But I have been taking it for about 3.5 yrs now due to 3 miscarriages and 18 months fertility battles since my lasts termination so I should at least have a good build up of it by now!

Well, my news is that finally, yesterday I got a BFP! Absolutely crapping myself, obviously. Had some spotting and strong cramps yesterday evening which sent me into a panic but things seem to have settled so I'm hoping that was just implantation. Sooooo, one day at a time.......

Sorry for scant personals, I am at work. Love to you all. xx

Oh kittens, such fantasticnews! Are you on your steroids or whatever it was they were suggesting for the first trimester? I so hope this is a sticky one babe! xxxx

hello ladies - also lurking on here recently, rather than posting, but kittens - just saw your news and wanted to say a huge congrats on your bfp - i hope that everything goes really smoothly for you and we are all here to handhold with you all the way through :)
flower, lovely to hear from you too - your pregnancy seems to have flown by - can't believe you're 31 weeks already!!!? glad it is all going well, and looking forward to hearing your baby news in the next couple of months!
poot and scampi - glad your scans went well
stormbird, hope you're doing ok and your return to work has gone ok. i too remember hearing / reading somewhere about it being beneficial for the man to also take folic acid, so might be worth looking in to.
hi to everyone else!!

not much to report here, except we're just coming out of a 7 week sentence bout of chicken pox. ds1, ds2, and then just when we thought he'd escaped it, ds3 got it! they're pretty much cleared up now, just in time for me to return to work next week :( having a staggered return over the summer, but not sure if i'm looking foward to it or not, callum still seems so tiny (although he's almost 7 months old now!?!). still bf'ing him, but thankfully he's taken to formula bottles as well, so dh can feed him while i'm back at work, plus he's also being weaned too.

sorry for not many personals, i will try and get back on soon, but as always will be reading and keeping up with you all xxxxx

Thank you . Yes, Poot, I'm throwing everything at this one! Steroids, aspirin, intravenous intralipids, hydroxychloroquinine and lots of money! I am doing this mostly privately now, including my scans so it's going to be quite pricey, but if it works and means we don't have to pay for a load more expensive tests and possible IVF then it's worth it.

MrsBigz, sorry to hear about your marathon chicken pox stint. Lots of grizzly children , not much fun I should imagine.

Congratulations Kittens! Am keeping everything crossed for you. I know it is early days still. Wonderful news

MrsBigz, hope you are able to rest up a bit before heading back to work. Awful timing for the chicken pox - but I dont think there is ever a good time. My 3 still haven't had it and Im dreading it! I cant believe Callum is nearly 7 months already??! Time is just flying past.

Flower, glad all is going well with you - hope baby gets a wiggle on and gets into the right position. Still plenty of time

Scampi, hope the results come back soon-ish. As they say, no news is good news x

Hello to everyone else. Hope you are all enjoying the Olympics? DD1 is really into them. Am going to try to get some tickets of the paralympics as she would love to watch it live. Early birthday present

Natz xx

Hello Ladies,

Huge congrats to Kittens! I'll be watching avidly for updates and keeping everything crossed for a very Healthy and Happy 9 months.

Thanks for all the well wishes and advice/experiences guys, it really does help!

I'm still waiting for AF to appear and am turning into an absolute monster with PMT so I'm hoping she is here soon otherwise I may murder DH

I'm popping the folic acid like nobodies business and will definitely mention to DH about him taking it too.

Flower, glad you are doing well hun.

Will be back soon xx

Oh my gosh Kittens!! Congratulations, i know it's early days but like everyone else i am right behind you. Very, very happy for you xxx

Stormbird gald you are ok and i hope AF shows up soon so you can start to move forwards. Much love.

Wave to Natz and MrsB, glad the chickenpox are clearning - what a nightmare! x

Thank you all so much for your enthusiastic wishes . Trying my hardest to keep positive and not get my knickers in a twist. We'll see how long that lasts! I am keeping distracted by working inordinately long hours, days on end without a day off at the Olympics! It sounds somewhat more exciting than the reality as I am nowhere near any of the action and am actually not seeing any of the events. Just as well I'm not that keen on sports. I'm just thinking of the money, especially as there is a lot to be spent on trying to ensure this one works out!

OH has bought us tickets for one of the Paralympics athletics events too Natz. It will be nice to soak up some of the atmosphere that I seem to be avoiding! I am not working with a British crew so there isn't the euphoric atmosphere in my work area that I am seeing all over twitter.

Scampi, both times I've had bad news I've had a call within about 3 days so fingers crossed the silence can only be a good thing.

Oh, I forgot, there's one other component to my rather large cocktail of drugs and precautionary measures. A rather delightful progesterone suppository every night. Lovely.

Just popped on to say huge congratulations to kittens, hope everything works out ok for you xx

and Mrsb nice to hear from you, hope the next few weeks are better for you and going back to work goes ok.

Have been lurking here since December when we said goodbye to our little girl. We decided we were ready to try again and just got bfp! Thrilled, terrified, hopeful scared all in first two minutes - what on earth will the next 36 weeks bring. Telling no-one in real life but needed to say the words. I know most of you ladies have had happy news in subsequent pregnancies so fingers crossed. Good luck to you all. I feel like I know so many of you thru reading your stories. X

Thanks flower.

Welcome and congratulations Chunkymonkey. You are in good company here. We all just try to take things one day at a time and it's a great place to voice our fears when we can't talk to others in real life. I have just got a BFP too and am similarly petrified. Have had 2 downs pregnancies, 4 miscarriages and 18 months of fertility struggles so feeling pretty fraught! Best of luck to you.