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Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 3

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LittlePoot · 12/01/2011 13:28

So, New Year, New Thread. And the next set of New Babies are arriving! I hope they prove that there can be light at the end of the very dark tunnel we have all had to come through and I hope there are many more babies to come. In the meantime, we're here, as ever, with supportive words, virtual hands to hold and multiple fingers to cross to help everyone through these nerve wracking waits and scans. A more lovely group of ladies you could not wish to find. xxx

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eavers · 26/01/2011 20:07

Just a quick post as i've realised that I posted on here in a big panic saying I was having bleeding then didn't come back to update.

All fine only had a tiny tiny amount of bleeding last week and nothing more after that that. big false alarm luckily.

Hi to everyone.

Babylily -hope you are ok.

manitz · 26/01/2011 20:45

hello, eavers i'm so glad to hear that. my friend bled through 3 pgs and all were ok. didn't want to raise your hopes before but hopefully you will be similar. x
natz glad those symptoms are kicking in. Hope you get through ok step by step i think. i cried in every scan and couldn't relax until i was past 26 weeks. it wasn't an unenjoyable pg though. hopefully if i manage to conceive i'll be able to try and be ok this time too. x

Cherrybug · 27/01/2011 11:21

Hi Eavers - glad to hear bleeding has stopped. hopefully no more scares now for you.

Babylily - hope you're ok?

Coffee, Rachel, Catlady - not long to go now, hope the last wee while gives you a chance to relax a bit though Catlady/Rachel I know that having a toddler it is just not very likely. Hope you're both getting more sleep - DD has slept through last few nights so think it was the cold she had (and I now have) that was causing the disturbance. Coffee, I hope when it comes to it your birthing experience is overwhelmingly positive. Your body knows what to do and you will know at the time what level of monitoring (if any) you want. I understand your apprehension. I really loved the birth of DD finding it amazing and positive (despite being induced due to obstetric cholestasis) but of course the birth of my lost baby girl was heartbreaking. So the memory of giving birth now for me is very mixed up.

Numpty - crawling is such a fun stage I think and it's lovely to see their look of accomplishment - sounds like it wont be long before Josie is off! Babyproofing galore!

Natz - glad you got on ok at GPs and it'll be good to get your early dating scan. I'm not surprised statistics dont give much reassurance anymore. They won't for me either I'm sure but still, each day at a time.

Grandji - how did you get on at the doctors?

I'm now in 2WW. Manitz, Flower hope this is the month for us all.

Cherry x

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LittlePoot · 27/01/2011 14:45

Hi guys. Sorry to get a couple of hopes up - there's absolutely no news of Dot, just that I've been out a lot the last few days and not near a computer... I always check the thread on my iPod but its such a faff to write a message on that so I leave it until I'm on the proper computer.

Things all good here. Am due on 5th Feb so next Saturday in theory, but of course he could come any time in about the next 4 weeks. So annoying not knowing a more definite date! I'm hoping he won't be too late - I'm getting a bit uncomfortable now. I think his head is definitely wedged down because my hips/pelvis have got really sore(my midwife is supremely uninterested in checking as it makes no difference how engaged he is at this stage, apparently). Walking is not very comfortable and I think my bike is definitely out now! I cycled to a friend's house last week and it did feel a bit like I was bouncing on something hard... I keep being told the bump is very low too, so I guess that all points to him engaging. I think I've finally nearly bought all the stuff I wanted to buy, and packed the hospital bag. But mostly I've been enjoying the pottering around and leisurely days! Cinema trips and lunches. Definitely more fun than work - sorry to rub it in for those still hard at work... Anyway, I will definitely keep you informed if there's any more exciting news!

Congratulations Grandj, and I definitely echo what kittens said about those first 12 (16) weeks being a kind of 'holding bay' rather than actually being pregnant. To be honest, I'm still not totally convinced there's a baby coming out of me, and I'm pretty much due. I know rationally that there is, but I won't believe it until I see it. Don't worry about that - there's enough to worry about for you at this stage so don't worry that you're not all excited like you might have been if you hadn't found your way here...

Babylily - how are you getting on? Hope you're ok?? Glad things have settled down again for you eavers - such a worry when things like that happen.

Blimey - this is getting a bit long - I have to go. Hope all's well with everyone else and I am thinking of you all with birthdays, milestones, due dates, bfps and 2wws... xxxx

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grandj · 27/01/2011 19:21

Hi everyone

Thanks for all the good wishes, it's nice to hear them as I have told no-one apart from my OH in real life and won't be telling anyone for a long time, if I ever get that far.

It's good to hear how close some of you are to having your babies. I hope the last few weeks pass quickly and as calmly as possible for you all - LittlePoot it's funny that part of you still doesn't believe there's a baby in there! I guess it will be real soon enough once he arrives.

Eavers - great that bleeding has stopped. How many weeks are you know?

I saw the doctor - who just said "of course you are pregnant" - and she booked me in to Queen Charlotte's, which is not my local hospital, but I could not bear to go back to West Middlesex after the way they dealt with me the last time. Basically no-one would take my concerns seriously, I had to force them to refer me to QC for a detailed scan, and I have heard nothing from anyone there since James was diagnosed. Just hope I never have to set foot in that place ever again.

I don't have much idea of how many weeks I am, and no mention of an early dating scan so maybe it will remain a mystery. I don't really mind as it would be very weird to have a scan and (hopefully) see a tiny flickering thing when it doesn't seem a minute ago since I could see my baby boy on the screen. But I feel ok now, or at least better than before.

I also massively admire how you all manage to be positive despite all you've gone through - I hope some of that PMA rubs off on me x

babylily · 27/01/2011 19:57

Hi all,
just wanted to say thanks for everyone's kind thoughts/messages. My appointment is 10.30 tomorrow for scan (then if all well, book in with hospital midwife at 11). Not sure what to expect, have had more brown/pink stuff in the past week, but still overwhelmed with pregnancy symptoms.
Luckily dh has been able to get day off to come with me, as i expect i will be unable to drive due to nerves before (and if bad news would never manage to drive myself home.)
can't believe i'm going through all this stress and i'm not even at screening stage yet.
will update tomorrow, and just wanted to express my most heartfelt best wishes to all of you lovely people, and your future-bumps, actual bumps and beautiful babies...x

NatzCNL · 27/01/2011 20:18

Hi Babylily,
Just wanted to wish you luck for tomorrow. I have been thinking of you.
I know it's still worrying, but I would take the brown/pink stuff as a good sign - there isn't any fresh blood.
Take it easy tonight and sleep if you can. Glad your DH has managed to get the day off to go with you xxx

Grandj,
Im glad you dont have to go back to West Middlesex. I hope you hear from the hospital soon with regards to booking in and check ups. The early weeks are such a strange time when time seems to take on a very slow pace. I am wishing the days past so I can get some sort of contact with the hospital, and reassurance that all is well. Although at the same time I feel sick thinking about having a scan.

LittlePoot - I was convinced that Dot had arrived! Not too long to wait though, I hope you are enjoying the final stage and not doing too much. Glad you are making the most of being able to get out and about without the tonnes of babythings that will go everywhere with you at all times in the coming months! Fun, but prepare to leave your house about 40mins after you intended to Grin

Cherry, good luck with the 2ww!!! Manitz and flower too. xx

Hello to everyone else Smile

Natz x

NumptyMum · 27/01/2011 21:44

Just briefly as still v tired (and off to bed now!) but Eavers, I'm really pleased to her that so far all is OK with you - I had bleeding with DD at around 7wks and remember how scared I was that it was all over but at my scan there was a tiny heartbeat. Just hoping that Babylily has the same luck - I'll be thinking of you tomorrow, glad that your DH will be with you and hoping for the very best outcome... if you are going to the Southern, Sandra is lovely and very helpful.

eavers · 28/01/2011 11:42

Babylily-best of luck for today. I hope it went well, am thinking of you. Glad you have your dh with you. xx

Cherrybug · 28/01/2011 13:09

Just a very quick note to say Babylily, I hope this mornings appointment went well. Thinking of you with crossed fingers xx

babylily · 28/01/2011 16:15

I have some good news...
Scan this morning showed strong heartbeat, baby measuring 8 wks 2 days, and the area of seperation has decreased from 12mm to 3mm (from what I understood this means the sac has grown in size and has met the sides of the uterus). Apparently it can continue to detatch but as long as it reattaches it will be okay. If it doesn't...well just hoping to not have to think about that.
I see consultant on Monday to discuss more about it , and also to get onto the testing stuff. Had my booking appointment at hospital today too so now feels all official.
Thanks for all the good wishes
xx

NatzCNL · 28/01/2011 17:14

Babylily, wonderful news!!! Good luck for Monday! Smile xx

eavers · 28/01/2011 17:38

Babylily- Fantastic! That's great news

grandj · 28/01/2011 17:58

That's so good to hear, hurray!

Coffeeandchocolate · 28/01/2011 20:08

That's great Babylily, so happy to read good news! Also it's good you know exactly how far along you are, so you can have the tests at the best time.

Also great news from eavers, good to hear it was just a one off.

Natz, I just wanted to say that when the time comes, you might actually feel reassured that you have to go back to King's and that you're getting the best care. I was given the terrible news last Feb at St George's and hated the prof who broke the news and also that FMU. But when I went back this time, although I felt that my feet would give way when I saw the hospital again, the thought that they knew my history and that they are experts made me glad I had continuity of care.

Although it's so good you're not going back to your hospital grandj, it looks like you would get continuity of lack of care... It always surprises me to read of so many differences between our experiences, and to realise how much they are influenced by the area we live in.

Poot, I was also sure Dot has made an appearance. Not long to go now... Catlady and Rachel, how about you, any twinges?

Cherry and manitz and flower and all the others TTC at the moments, my fingers are crossed.

flower11 · 29/01/2011 18:34

Babylily thats great news xx

Littlepoot and coffee not long to go now, hope you are getting lots of rest and time to relax.

Grandj and Natz hope things are going ok for you, exciting and worrying times, like someone said awhile back its a shame that the joy and innocence have been taken away from us.

hi to cherry and manitz, hoping this is the month for us xx

Hi to everyone x

Coffeeandchocolate · 31/01/2011 09:50

Good morning everyone. Well, speaking of twinges... I called the hospital last night, I was having regular tightenings, with period-like pains. Not very strong pains, but unpleasant nevertheless, plus the fact that they were regular got me wondering if something might be starting. The midwife on duty said ?well, it might be early labour, or it might be just BH, just take a paracetamol and go to bed, and if they start coming every 2-3 minutes give us a call back?. 2-3 minutes?! They said 5-7 minutes at the antenatal classes... Anyway, I managed to sleep for a few hours, had a few more cramps in the morning, but they seem to have died down now, although every time I get up I have strong BH.

I really hope Coffeebean will stay in for a couple more weeks. I?m only 36 weeks today, and (not that it would matter so much, but anyway) I have a very busy week at work, only until next Tue to go now.

So a self-centred post from me today, this has brought home how close I am to actually having a baby, although like Poot I just can?t imagine it yet, it still feels very unreal.

I hope you are all well,have a good week everybody xxxx

NatzCNL · 31/01/2011 18:49

Just a quick post as Im at work and supposed to be too busy to catch up....! Smile

Coffee - you are on the home run now, sounds like your baody is preparing for the big day!! Very excited for you. Am hoping Coffeebean holds out for your maternity leave.

Hello to everyone else! Grin xx

NatzCNL · 31/01/2011 18:50

Argh, typing too fast! Lol, sorry Blush

Havingkittens · 31/01/2011 19:59

Ooh, how exciting Coffee. I wonder who's going to have the first thread baby. Do you think we should take bets?

Babylily, I'm pleased to hear your news. Still keeping everything crossed for you.

Not heard from Mimsy, Ghislaine or Allstars for a while, hope all's well with all of you?

eavers · 31/01/2011 21:39

Coffee- How exciting! It could be the start of labour but probably won't be, you may have to wait a few more weeks. My DS were born at 36 and 35 weeks and they were both fine.

Babylily - How did your consultant appointment go today? Did you have another scan?

Grandj - Congratulations! (sorry a bit belated) hope these early weeks go quickly for you.

I have my NT scan on Wednesday at 10.30. One minute I am convinced that it will go well and others that it will be repeat of last time. I suppose I should stop thinking about it as it won't change the result. I'm hoping to avoid the CVS but I that will depend on what the result is.

I've actually booked a second NT scan at the FMC on Thursday, which is a bit mad but I want to get a second opinion and I know they check other things that the NHS one won't. Deciding whether to have the CVS is such a big decision that I want to get all the info I can.

crazycatlady · 31/01/2011 21:55

Just popping in to give a quick wave to Poot and Coffee in case you go into labour before I manage to get back on here again. Got a busy week coming up so not sure how often I'll check in.

It's a year tomorrow since we had to say goodbye to our boy so feeling very insular and quiet. But also now getting excited that this baby is nearly here. Very odd mix of emotions...

Lots of BH at the moment, especially in the evenings or when walking. Had reflexology today which was blissful. Coffee do you have a good reflexologist or acupuncturist? Might be worth a try to get those tightenings you're having to start doing their thing?

Hi and hugs to everybody. Hope you're all ok. Sorry for so few personals. Am rushing a bit and haven't read the thread! xx

katiecubs · 01/02/2011 08:43

Morning all!

Just popping my head in to say hello :)

Am i right in thinking Poot is due today?! Very exciting, can't wait to hear!

Coffee wow also getting close for you. I remeber too them tell me at antenetal class that contractions 5 mins apart meant going to hospital time - in reality when i phoned up they said the same as they said to you, unless you are crawling the walls, crying and unable to speak they don't belive you are in proper labour.

Baby lily hope you got some more good news yesterday?

Much love to everyone x

Coffeeandchocolate · 01/02/2011 08:48

Catlady, I'll be thinking of you today. Very mixed feelings indeed, the 1-year anniversary is coming up for me as well and I already feel a bit shaken thinking about it.

I hope it will be a peaceful day for you. x

How did it go yesterday Babylily? And Eavers, I am not sure I'll be able to log on again before tomorrow, but I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for your nuchal.

No more twinges for me, but I have a midwife appointment later and will mention it to her. Who knows, maybe it was a one-off and I'll even go overdue! No reflexologist for me, but I'm going for a nice pregnancy massage every now and then, and I'll book one for next week, when my maternity leave starts.

Hi Kittens, nice to hear from you. Hello to everyone else, I have to dash now but thinking of you all lovely ladies xxxx

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LittlePoot · 01/02/2011 14:29

Just a bit of news (sorry for lack of personals). My water broke in quite spectacular soap opera style Sunday night but only irregular sporadic contractions since. Been for a big long walk today to try and hurry things along but think I'll be going in for an induction tonight. Keep your fingers crossed for me.....
xxx

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