Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 3

[LittlePoot]

So, New Year, New Thread. And the next set of New Babies are arriving! I hope they prove that there can be light at the end of the very dark tunnel we have all had to come through and I hope there are many more babies to come. In the meantime, we're here, as ever, with supportive words, virtual hands to hold and multiple fingers to cross to help everyone through these nerve wracking waits and scans. A more lovely group of ladies you could not wish to find. xxx

Im sorry, I know this isn't a great time to be posting this, but got a bit impatient with the 2ww, and a couple of days ago (and yesterday) got a very feint line....! Am going to test again in a few days. Im not sure exactly when i am due on as I had 2 periods last month within 8 days of each other.
Im tempted to go and buy the Clear blue digital that tells you how many weeks, but think I should wait a bit longer. Am excited but also worried that the tests may be inaccurate. The lines were visable but barely. My OH could see them too, but now worried they were wrong as I have no pregnancy symptoms. I know if I am pregnant, that I am only just pregnant.
Why does time go so slow when you are waiting??!

I feel your pain Natz , every 2WW was a real hard slog for me! I have my fingers crossed for you. xx

fingers crossed natz. i didn't have pg symptoms till about week 5/6 last time. think that's normal. I hope it's right. x

Natz, this is great! Very early still, but I got a very feint line a couple of days before I was due, and it turned out I was indeed pregnant. If you got the line 2 times, on 2 consecutive days, I would say you must be pregnant, but I know, it's very early days.

As for symptoms, I had nothing this time (except for very strange dreams) until about 6-7 weeks.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed xxxx

Hello to everyone else, I have very little time these days but I'm lurking and thinking of you. xxxx

Bought 2 digitals today, will be POAS tomorrow morning!!! xx

Fingers crossed Natz - any news?? x

It's a BFP!!!!! Says I concieved 2-3 weeks ago. I was up at 3am to do the test after having nearly wet the bed dreaming I was testing....! I managed to wait till 8am to wake DP to show him the result. Big smiles and cuddles. Cant get an appointment with my GP until Friday though.
At the moment Im very excited, but think the fear will kick in when I get to the doctors on Friday.
How is everyone doing?
Poot, Catlady and Coffee you are due soon, any twinges? x

Natz, this is great! You are bound to be terrified, but I'm saying congratulations anyway. I so hope things will work out this time - your DDs are proof things can go well. I'm very pleased for you.

No twinges for me and I hope there won't be any for a few weeks yet, I'm only 34 weeks and not due until 28 Feb. I also have 3 weeks left before my maternity leave starts. I am just a bit anxious that Cofeebean will decide to make an appearance on 16 Feb, which is the day when Silvia was stillborn.

Poot and Catlady, any signs for you? Gina, I hope you and little Alex have had plenty of cuddles by now and that all is well. And thinking of babylily at this difficult time xxxx

Yay! Really good news Natz. A good start to the year and hopefully a very straightforward journey through the next 9 months!

Well done NAtz and a massive congratulations. I hope it all goes well for you xx

Yay! Gotta love those BFPs. Everything crossed for a smooth ride this time. How long before you can't resist peeing on stick number 2 in the pack????

Not sure about twinges here. Have kind of continual low level stomach cramps, but that could just as easily be food related as baby related - so hard to tell now everything's squished in together. Bump is mahoosive and kicking all the time. Walking's got a lot harder in the last few days - could be because his head is down, but could just be the 2 stone I've managed to accumulate.... Will let you know. xxx

So sorry not had much time to read/post lately!

Bablylily so sorry to hear of your loss - i hope you are doing ok as you can and are getting well looked after xx

Congratulations Natz super news so happy for you

All well here Felix is 5 months now and we have just started to wean him - 5 days in and he is just starting to get the hang of it i think. He is a lovely giggly little fellow - nosy as hell and still hates to nap!

Hope everyone is well - very much looking forward to lots more thread babies on their way very soon! x

Hello. Just wanted to add congratualtions to Natz (fab news, early days but every pregnancy starts somewhere and you have to celebrate each positive step even if you fear the negative ones)

Babylily so sorry to hear your news ... take care of yourself.

Kittens glad you are kind of ok. As a friend said to me when I was at my lowest, healing the heart is hard, think of you often and hope you are taking care of yourself.

Poot fingers are crossed for your last few days of pregnancy .. yours was the first post I read on here and amazing and wonderful you are nearly there. All sensations are weird in late pregnancy ... in fact the day my DS arrived (at 36 weeks 3 days) I had been feeling less twingy than usual. Rest up and take care.

Coffee I'm due 27th Feb and also waiting desperately for the beginning of maternity leave. Sitting in an office is so uncomfortable and I feel a bit embarrassed kind of squirming in the chair when people come in to see me. Had 34 week scan yesterday, all well except had gained a bit of weight. Hmmmmm. I am hoping for a quick labour at about 39 weeks. 36 with DS was a bit early but I hate the idea of going overdue.

Best to all.

Congratulations Natz xx

Oh Natz, a BFP, wonderful! Lovely news. I really hope everything progresses smoothly for you.

Coffee I have a similar fear over dates. We lost John on 1 February so it's not inconceivable that this baby could arrive on that date. I'm 36 weeks this Friday, so would be considered 'term' anytime from 27 Jan, which is also the anniversary of that fateful nuchal scan. How do these dates always seem to cross?

Have been having plenty of Braxton Hicks. Never noticed them with DD. I rather like the tightening feeling. Had it from quite early on but they've certainly ramped up in frequency these last couple of weeks. Also started having the labour dreams - anyone else had these? Last night I dreamt I was back in the labour ward where DD was born and the horrid midwife who put me on a CTG and made me lie flat on my back all night was telling me I was booked in for a c-section. I stood up, got her in a headlock and shouted in her face 'oh no you don't, you sabotaged my last labour, you're damn well not doing the same to this one', and went on to give birth easily and comfortably! Very odd dream indeed but was kind of cathartic...

Lovely to hear about Felix Katie, can't believe it's time for him to start on food already! Weaning is great fun, most of the time. Naps can be tricky. Took us until about 6 months before DD was reliably napping 2-3 times a day in her cot and having a lovely long 2hr lunch nap. Little monkey has of course decided that now she's 2 she doesn't need to nap in her cot anymore, and is currently snoring next to me on the sofa, with armfuls of cuddly toys.

This has been long already, I have verbal diarrhoea today. Hope everyone is well xx

Hope it changes for us too at 6 months then Crazycat! Today he has probably had less than an hour in total in bursts of 10-20 mins - he is also a sleep fighter, so much effort for so little gain is driving me cray

Hope your dream comes true!!

hi there...
well i have a bit of positive news.
Had a scan today as still have overwhelming pregnancy symptoms and both the sonographer and I were stunned to see a little babe and a little heartbeat.
I was elated for about 30 seconds before she explained that the cause of my bleeding is the sac coming away from the wall of the uterus...and that there is nothing i can do but wait and see if it reattaches itself or not (if it doesn't then it's not going to be a positive outcome). Sometimes they reattach, sometimes they don't. Mentally trying to will it to do so, so we will see.
They have booked me in for another scan next week on Friday to see how things are going, then to see consultant Monday after then will be going to Glasgow for a nuchal 3 weeks after that.
Hoping to get that far. This time last year I was waiting to see if baby would hang on after having an ovary removed at 10 wks pg...and he ended up having Edwards.
Never ever knew I had this mental strength in me.
Will keep you posted.
And huge congratulations to you Natz, wishing you a smooth and joyous next 8 months! xx

Oh Babylily! How good to have some hope - will keep everything crossed for you! x

Thanks everyone for the messages, still excited, but promised my OH that I would keep it quiet for a while. Going to try to get to the nuchal scan before we tell anyone - I dont think I will be able to keep it from my mum and sister that long though!

Babylily, I think you have amazing strength and I am praying that baby will stay put and reattach! Will be thinking of you on Friday.

Sorry for the short post - DD2 is suffering very bad with eczema and has just woken up crying. Will post again when more time

Babylily - I'm so pleased you have some hope. Will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Some worrying developments in my own pg. I've had a very very small amount of bleeding this evening. I know lots of people have this and they are fine, but whenever I've had it has turned into a miscarriage.

Fingers Crossed Babylily I really hope it all works out well for you.

And you eavers I'm osrry about the bleeding but hope that its nothing major. Good Luck hun x

No more bleeding since yesterday evening, so I am hoping it was nothing to worry about. It really was only a tiny amount.

What a busy thread! Poot and Catlady, I?m getting all excited for you. Catlady, you?re right about important dates seeming to overlap, I guess there?s nothing to do but just wait and see. I too hope your dream will come true.

I haven?t had labour dreams yet, although I?ve had plenty of weird ones, and I?ve started to get more and more emotional and restless. Is it so bad then with continuous heart monitoring? I think that?s what I want, I spoke with one midwife last week and she said I can have it if it reassures me, but I can choose to have intermittent monitoring at any time if there are no complications and I want to be more active, it?s up to me. Also, she said they have a birthing unit next door to the labour ward and it might be better to go there, as it wouldn?t make any difference in terms of getting consultant care immediately if needed. The thing is, my first labour was so ?unnatural?, now I know I almost went straight into transition in 2.5 hours, and I was so sick that I couldn?t keep my head up, let alone trying to be active.

Anyway, I?ll wait and see, I have no idea what to expect, except for pain...

Babylily, I am glad there is hope, although it?s so hard for you, all this uncertainty and waiting. I?m keeping everything crossed for you.

Same for you eavers, I hope there is nothing to worry about.

Rachel, you are due one day before me. When are you going on maternity leave?

Katie, I remember reading your birth announcement, I can?t believe it?s been 5 months already... A few more months and you?ll be able to spend lovely days at the beach with little Felix :)

Hello to everybody else and also a big hello to the old-timers. Numpty, Mishta, Cantdo, are you still around? xxxx

I can totally understand the desire for constant reassurance from a CTG Poot. I found when I was on it though that the stretchy bands around my bump kept slipping and losing DD's heartbeat, or that the monitor would accidentally pick up my heartbeat by mistake and it would send then machine (and me and DH) into panic mode that there was something wrong. I also found that midwives would just head for the print out and ignore me when they came into the room, when I was in desperate need of support and guidance.

My labour and birth with DD did go awfully badly. I can't blame the CTG entirely but I do think being on it was the beginning of a catalogue of interventions that made it much more complicated than it should have been.

The fact it kept making me panic was a killer though. Panic in labour is Not a Good Thing in terms of progression and keeping pain at bay so whatever you think is least likely to induce panic is probably the best course of action for a smooth and comfortable birth.

Sounds like the set up at your hospital is fairly flexible and you'll be able to choose at the time which is great. If your midwife is good at listening to your concerns and desires this is half the battle won.

Babylily & eavers, I hope you are both ok xx

I can totally understand why you panicked Catlady. I think I'll just go with the flow, I do need reassurance but if the CTG turns into a source of anxiety I'd rather go without, unless of course it's safer not to.

The midwifes I spoke with so far have been brilliant, they know my history and have always had a reassuring word for me. It made a huge difference. Of course I've only met a few of them and it might be different when I go into labour, but I'll cross this bridge when I come to it. For the moment, I've never had a healthy baby before and I still can't believe this is possible until I see it, plus I've just realised all my ideas about babies are just that, ideas, and I don't know what to do with a baby for more than a few hours! I used to babysit when I was at uni, but I would always hand the baby back!

Is your dd impatient to meet Elmo? :)