Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 3

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So, New Year, New Thread. And the next set of New Babies are arriving! I hope they prove that there can be light at the end of the very dark tunnel we have all had to come through and I hope there are many more babies to come. In the meantime, we're here, as ever, with supportive words, virtual hands to hold and multiple fingers to cross to help everyone through these nerve wracking waits and scans. A more lovely group of ladies you could not wish to find. xxx

Hi Can't - Thanks! Hope you had a lovely Christmas, i guess Little Miss Can't was super excited :) Looking forward to those years!

Also forgot to say hi to Linspins so great to hear from you. It was the lovely Lins who brought me over here to the original thread in the first place - you were an absolute lifesaver in those early days. Thank you and much love to you and your family xxx

Congrats Katie! Gorgeous pics, you look stunning and Felix is sooo cute!

Hi Lins!!! Lovely to hear from you.

Waves to everyone else and sending love for 2012, hopefully many more graduates to come.

Me? 36 weeks. Yikes. Have been discharged from consultant care and am now with regular midwives, and very excitingly have had a home birth approved! Hippy alert!!!

I'm still completely overwhelmed with disbelief that this pregnancy appears to be working out. Not over until the fat lady sings though....

Much love xxx

Hello everyone. Happy New Year!

Katie, your wedding photos look lovely. Congratulations!

I'm sad to say I had an absolutely terrible Christmas. My Mum's health declined very rapidly. We were up all night with her on Christmas Eve, Christmas day involved getting an ambulance first thing in the morning to take her to hospital. She was in a very bad way and passed away on 27th. I flew back the day after her funeral which was on 2 Jan and spent a couple of days with my grandma who's dementia has really gone down hill very badly these last few weeks. It's all been very upsetting.

Baby-wise, I am about to start having private fertility testing as it's proving to be quite a struggle to get pregnant again.

Sorry about lack of personals, just wanted to update on my situation after your lovely messages asking after me.

Oh Kittens, I am so,so sorry about your mother. My heart goes out to you. I wish I could say something that would help.

2012 must, must, must be your year. I have everything crossed for you.

Good luck with the private testing.

Kittens, i just saw your post and wanted to say that i'm terribly sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. i echo Can't in saying i truly hope that 2012 is your year. Will be keeping you in my thoughts xxxxxxxx

Kittens, I'm so sorry to hear your news, what a difficult and heartbreaking time for you. I hope you have a lot of love around you. You've started 2012 with great sadness, I hope you end it with great happiness.

Hi to everyone else, will post properly soon as on phone at minute but also want to say good luck to Ghislaine. Can't be long now? Will look forward to hearing news!

Hope all well with you too MrsBigz? Babybigz staying put and no further worries.

Congrats Katie, you look beautiful in your photos!

Just popping on quickly to send Kittens lots of love & hugs, Im so sorry about your mum. What an awful time for you and all your family. I wish you the best of luck with the private testing xxx

I hope everyone else is well. Looking forward to welcoming some more thread babies in the coming weeks.

Sienna has now started rolling onto her tummy and is now in her own room (although has only slept in there for a full night once), and is giving us some beautiful big belly laughs when we tickle her. Cant believe she is 3 months already.

Katie, I love your wedding pictures. I am in the midst of my final preparations. 3 months to go!

Oh Kittens i'm so so sorry to hear about your mum. How are you and your family doing? Probably a silly question. I hope the funeral went ok as it could have. Thinking of you.

Bezzy - 36 weeks, crikey!! Please do come back and share your news when your little one arrives. Best of luck with the home birth xxx

p.s thanks for all your lovely comments and good luck with your planning Nat, 3 month to go - exciting!

Kittens, I am so sorry, I'm keeping you in my thoughts too and am also keeping everything crossed for this year and the private testing. xxxx

Kitten I am really sorry to hear about your mum but I think i'm glad you were able to be there for her at the end, i hope that was what you wanted. I am sorry to hear about your gran, mine also had dementia, it was hard to cope with the loss of her personality not to mention mourning your mum at the same time.

I hope with all this on your plate as well that the private ivf goes simply and is successful and that you can move forward this year.

Katie, congratulations on your marriage which looks like it was a lovely day.

Nat Sienna sounds like a very grown up girl. where did the time go? I'm feeling sad as sacha is moving out of his 0-3 m clothes - perhaps he's not einstein after all as that is all I can say about his recent development.

i wanted to post b4 xmas but didn't have time. Although I'm not religious I still send cards out at christmas, it seems like a bit of a waste of money but i like to do it. Anyway this year I finally got aroudn to getting the arc ones and I just wanted to mention them on this thread. I found that over the years arc has been a great support to me and I felt much better sending out cards whcih give 100% to a charity which I would have been lost without. I don't know if you had seen them that's all. x

PS ghislaine hav eyou a week to go? good luck to you and to Bezzy

Katie - you look gorgeous (as does your Mr and little Felix) and the photographer has really captured the warmth and love of your day.

Kittens, I've had fertility investigations and treatments at the private version of the clinic at the hospital where we've both had ante-natal treatment (same doctors I believe). Do ask me any questions if that's where you're going to go. Dementia is very hard to cope with as well, my grandmother had it towards the end of her life and it was very distressing that she did not know who we were (she kept thinking my husband was her brother).

Less than a week to go for me. I veer between being calmly ready and thinking that it will all go very badly and I won't be bringing a baby home. I imagine that that's to be expected; I just have to wait it out.

ghislaine. I'm very excited for you. I felt similar. I hope it all goes well with the cs. x

Just logged on and wanted to pass my condolences to Kittens, so terribly sorry for your loss, can't believe how well you're coping with everything that's been flung at you over the last couple of years.

Thinking of you lots, and not that I'm really the praying type, but I'll say a little one for you tonight xxx

Dearest Kittens, I'm so sorry to hear your news. As Manitz says, I'm glad that you were able to be there at the end, supporting your mum. I expect that you must be exhausted with all of this, plus the situation with your grandma - I do hope it's not only you who is having to provide support to her? Anyway, just to say that I'm thinking of you, and wishing you all the very best with the time ahead... xx

and good luck to Ghislaine (and presumably congratulations to Gillian? Hoping all went well... or goes well, if it's tomorrow!). xx

Thanks for all your messages and thoughts. Yes, you're right, it was great that I got to spend that last week with her. Nursing her at home was upsetting but quite tender at the same time and I was glad that I could show her my love in that way. I am also glad I was with her holding her hand when she went. So much better than just getting a phone call from my Step Dad, had I not been there.

The funeral was nice, as these things can be (once I stopped wailing!). A bunch of her girlfriends did all the food for the do back at our place afterwards which was nice and personal. I did drink far too much wine though and had to travel back home to the UK with somewhat of a hangover. Only to be expected I guess.

The situation with my grandma is hard. My poor auntie is her full time carer and really has her work cut out, especially as she has 3 horses, 3 dogs and a husband to also look after! I try to get down and help where I can but it's not always easy. It's heartbreaking that I can't really talk about mum to her at the moment, but have done in past weeks so I'm hoping that she rallys a bit before long. She is like a mother to me, almost closer in some ways, so I feel a bit like I've had more than one loss in a way.

Ghislaine, thanks for the info on where you had your fertility tests. I am having mine with the guy who I've been seeing about the miscarriages. I was seeing him on the NHS and some of the other girls on the other thread I'm on, who have been seeing him privately, have been offered "SuperOvulation" treatment by him if they've not fallen pregnant quickly. I thought that if I went to see him privately he would offer me the same but he wants to do more testing. Apparently my last Day 21 test back in September indicated lack of ovulation (even though my OPKs come up positive) so I'm going to have Day 3 & Day 21 tests again, I've had an AMH test to test my ovarian reserve and I am going to have HyFoSy Scan to check I don't have any blockages or scarring that's preventing implatation. When he has all that info then he will decide what's to be done. I'm not looking at IVF just yet, but the SuperOvulation thing is what they do pre IVF to stimulate multiple eggs. I've tried to explain it to my OH as being a bit like going up a level on Space Invaders or Astroids, where you get more targets to shoot at! Sooooo, we'll see how that all goes.

Bit of another me, me, me post.... again! I try to keep up with everyone and then by the time I've read everything and got to the point of posting all the info has gone clean out of my head! Sorry ladies

Wishing best of luck to Ghislaine though on her imminent arrival!

Kittens, your decision to stay where you are sounds very sensible. TBH, I wouldn't really recommend the clinic we used, notwithstanding the result (fingers crossed, etc etc). We paid private rates, but often had to wait over 2 hours for a scan, there wasn't continuity of care, I was always having to repeat my history to a different doctor, (more than once I was told to take drugs I hadn't been prescribed) and the dragon receptionist once made me cry.

Kittens, please don't worry for a second about lack of personals, you have so much on your plate. As usual, I don't know what to say, except that cliche that time heals and you being there for your mum when it mattered most will become a source of comfort. So so sad... and I know what you mean about your gran, mine had Alzheimer's as well and it was heartbreaking. A loss, as you describe it, before we lost her physically as well.

You are coping so well, I am amazed. I actually chuckled at your description of the SuperOvulation test. There must be something good around the corner Kittens, I know how silly this sounds now, but there just must be. As usual, I'm keeping everything crossed for you, and sending you a big, big, big very un-MN hug.

Ghislaine, best of luck, I'll be logging on to see how you are.

Hello to everyone else, I've been back at work since Monday and finding it all very strange, but luckily Coffeebean seems to love his childminder.

Quick update as on phone so excuse typos. Am on phone in labour ward :-( my waters broke today just as I was about to leave work managed to drive back to Northampton hosp (rather than stay in Banbury!) and met hubby there. Am 30w4d today. Scared sh*tless to be honest. Know I've done this before but bit with te asses element of the ccam waters pretty much all gone. But no signs of labour at present so am being monitored and will lprob be in til he arrives. Dh gone home to watch kids but will be back tmrw morn. Please send some positive thoughts xx

Mrsbigz, every good thought coming your way, and a little prayer for babybigz too.

Mrsbigz, lots of good thoughts from me as well. How frightening for you, I can't even begin to imagine the anxiety. I'm keeping everything crossed, please post when you can and let us know how you both are. xxxx

Gosh lots of positive thoughts and well wishes Mrs Bigz, how scary for you. Will be keeping fingers crossed to hear happy news from you very soon. Cherry x

Just popping in quickly to say i'm sending lots of positive thoughts to you MrsBigz, hope you are both doing ok. You are in good hands now and hopefully the little one will arrive safely when he/she decides.

Much love to kittens too and crossing every possible thing for your space invader treatment xxx

Best of luck to MrsBigz, hope all is well.

Thanks Katie. I'll keep you all posted.

Cherry, how are you settling back in to your flat now?