Pissed off at DH making breakfast

i think you are BU on this occasion. And I think you need to apologise before sitting down with your DH and having a proper conversation on what you need from him to support you on your weight loss.

My grandma ate bacon every day of her adult life. Despite being a size 16, she lived to 101.
On the other hand, my sister, who was almost obsessive about eating ‘clean’ foods and being size 10 or less dies aged 45 of a stroke.

Well done you on having passed on it anyway, I don’t think you realise what an achievement that is!
it is hard to know what it the healthiest- Ie ve been following the glucose goddess on Insta and that is eye opening

I would deffo have not worried about the fry up vs the toast. But I think others have pointed out that.

im also overweight OP and actually my nutritional knowledge is so high that when I speak it’s like people can’t believe I’m overweight cos I do know a lot about nutrition. The issue is the sugar and UPFs and snacking, food is so emotional and I think the strength and willpower it’s taken for you to lose this weight has really just boiled over in this anger with your DH.

I would put a smaller portion of the cooked breakfast (minus fried bread) on to another plate and enjoy. There's more range of nutrients in the cooked breakfast and it will satisfy for longer and reduce the chance of having to resist snacks later.

I'm not going to demonise carbs, they are useful, but I'd rather use banana on toast an hour before I run as it's quickly digestible than being the breakfast on a leisurely morning. Banana is a great energy release but quickly digested. Mass produced bread has little nutritional benefit (but yes I still eat it, I just get more selective about it when cutting back).

Calories matter, but so does the rate at which your body breaks them down and the nutritional benefits of those foods. As "low fat" became the mantra for weight management, the population's weight has increased significantly and it's a global trend.

The Zoe links are informative. The Glucose Goddess is another interesting person to look up. Their findings also complement other recent developments on nutrition and health.

I don't care how other people have lost weight - this isn't about you

I care that the OP has a solution that works for her, that she communicated what she was having for breakfast and then someone else decided she's wrong and wasted food because he couldn't accept what she wanted to put in her body

I am also aghast that people still think UPF are better than bananas

With half of the breakfast and no fried bread you're likely to not eat again until dinner time as the protein will keep you full.
Banana on toast will keep the hungry at bay for a short while and you're likely to have lunch as well.

@SecretEater23 I think there's a big variation in fried breakfasts and lots of assumptions being made by some posters.

What exactly was in the breakfast? Was it cooked swimming in fat? Did he grill any of it?

My fave breakfast - I love poached eggs, dry fried bacon and I cook my mushrooms thickly cut and sprinkled with pepper in a pan with no fat at all.

FFS. You are trying to kill me? Give me a break.

Firstly Why should she eat what she said she didnt want? Just to be nice? To keep the peace ?

And then Why should she put harmful chemicals from processed food into her body rather than the healthy nutrients of a banana?

I think you need to take ownership of your weight and not expect him to change his behaviour. He did a nice thing.

You know do you? That she will lose weight faster if she eats like you tell her?

Is your husband a bit on the larger side too? He might not realise what is and isn't healthy any more.

Your reaction was very ott. In fact it was offensive and I'm not surprised it caused a row. Maybe you need to explain that you're still up for nice things like a breakfast together but could he grill and poach in stead of frying. A banana on whole meal toast isn't going to fill you up as much as protein and carbs and fat.

He did not do a nice thing

He did something she didn't want
She had already told him what she wanted

It's not nice when someone else decides they know better than you want you should do

Perhaps the OP’s username gives us an insight in to why her reaction was OTT

She's not asking him to eat banana on toast

I'm sorry but this sounds more like a you problem than a him problem. This is your issue, your project. It is Sunday, it would have been nice to sit down to a breakfast that he lovingly cooked for you and enjoyed it together and then have a much smaller lunch and tea to make up for it. Or even, if you really feel out of control if you eat it, just say no thank you. Why the blazing row? With respect, he is not the reason you got to the size you are now, you are. So why are you trying to blame him for just doing what he's always done and tried to enjoy a meal with his wife. A fried breakfast every once in a while as a treat is not going to pop that 7kg back on. You are stronger than you think you are, you've done amazing so far so just keep going but you can't sustain it if you're only plan of attack to to never touch a fried egg again.

Is this really worth ruining both of your Sunday's? And your kids too because we all know how much fun it is to be a kid trapped in a house with two sulking parents.

Let it go.

Would people feel the same if he bought her a dress that she didn't like to wear for a party when she had already chosen her outfits? That he was being nice ? Or controlling ?

Another vote for the Glucose goddess. She makes a very good case for flattening glucose spikes as the most important component of metabolic health. Zoe podcasts good too. I've lost my lifelong carb cravings and late-night snack habit (no willpower involved), lost some very stubborn weight and have loads more energy since following her advice. No diet that relies solely on self-control will work long term, you need to curb cravings so that eating the right thing feels right too.

Why did he chose to ruin the Sunday by going explicitly against her wishes and trying to force her to do something she didn't want ?

Why couldn't he enjoy a breakfast where they ate different things ?

Perhaps you could have just eaten some of the breakfast, like the eggs and mushrooms and maybe one sausage rather than putting the whole lot in the bin as though there aren’t people struggling to put food on the table at all

Why should she eat it if she said she didn't want it ?

What about alcohol - should people drink it when they don't want it ?

I'm morbidly obese and have the alcohol analogy thrown at me. Food is an addiction to me. But it's not taken seriously.

He is sabotaging you. If you were trying to study for a qualification, would he be trying to distract you? He's not being nice, there's a reason,maybe even subconsciously, that he doesn't want you to succeed in this life change.

Why didn't he eat the extra breakfast that he cooked for no one ?