Pissed off at DH making breakfast

op doesn't need to have every nutrient in every meal - I am guessing she has other food through the day

Carbs for breakfast for many people gets them the energy they need during the day

I agree with the other poster who said it's going to be hard to sustain this without the odd treat - it's perfectly possible to drop weight and still have a fried egg or the odd glass of wine. I think your reaction was a bit OTT - why not say - oh sorry DH but I can't eat all that?

I'd have definitely had the egg and mushrooms! Yummy!

I think it's super that your teenager wants to do couch25k with you. I'd have a chat with your DH about how you feel and the whole household eating just a bit more healthily for the summer. Watch a film without snacks or some fruit and cheese instead. The DC are of an age where they can start to cook too.

Actually tried eggs have less fat than scrambled eggs as they don't absorb fat and you can shake the fat off.

I know this isn't your point OP - but I'd take the high protein (sausage, mushrooms, eggs, tomatoes) - any day over the carb and sugar hit of banana on toast!

This!
DH and I have still been eating all the things we enjoy but in reduced portions - it is far less punishing than following a diet. We have both lost weight since last July - in my case 12 kg or around two stone and DH a little more.
It's good that you are keeping a diary and losing weight but your DH is killing you with kindness. Have the fry up but as a smaller portion and the biscuits (for now) take one or two out of the packet and then leave it in the cupboard and enjoy the ones you have. Just reducing your portion sizes helps - if you're hungry an hour later have something that you fancy but keep the portion small - you are not depriving yourself.
You mentioned a lot of sugary things in your diary - so sugar is your addiction - swap that for savoury things and your urge for a sweet fix will gradually diminish. You are doing really well with the weight loss so far and more importantly you know why you want to achieve it xx

My first thought.

Our DD is in a similar situation with her partner.

I've always appreciated someone cooking me a breakfast. I calorie count and whilst there is obviously a large amount of calories in a fried breakfast, I'd likely not eat after that for a good part of the day as it is full of protein. However, if I had a banana and two pieces of toast I'd likely be eating again an hour later.

It's not depriving yourself if you eat what you want to eat and the op wanted banana toast

But at least I now have a better idea of what OP may be facing with her DH who like many in this thread seem to know what she wants and needs better than OP herself

Even though OP is successfully losing weight

Good fucking god at posts like these ^.

OP do not take diet advice from MN!

Give him a bit of time, hopefully he will adjust. If not, just refuse the food and make your own. He will get it eventually. I know it's hard! You are doing well so far OP. 🙂

"I'm only trying to be nice"
no your trying to kill me

Sabotaging someone trying to be healthy is not an act of love

Don't take backwards steps move forward your doing well if your losing weight then what your doing is working so keep doing it

OP I found it really hard when my DH suddenly - unilaterally- decided to be healthier and lose weight.

It wasn’t that I didn’t support the idea, it was just that it was a massive change in our lives and we couldn’t easily enjoy food together because there were so many changes in what he would eat. I remember at one point wondering how we could relax together without food because that’s what we’d done for so many years. I also remember feeling really sad that we couldn’t just go out for a brunch etc because he would have so many objections to calories, protein level, things being fried etc.

So it probably is really hard on your partner. You’ve switched lanes and he needs time to catch up.

YABU for binning the breakfast. It’s all about balance. Have a lighter tea???

I think in these situations it's often that the other person feels judged by the change in their partner's diet despite the fact that they're not being judged at all - he's turned it around to being about him and the fact that your diet is not letting him enjoy his unhealthy eating any more without guilt. So he's trying to get you to eat with him again to make himself feel better. I know how hard it can be to lose weight and support from those around you is essential. I would sit him down and explain again that any treats you have must be instigated by you when you feel you can have them, and not by him tempting you with stuff that you're trying to avoid.

My mum has this with her partner.

I think his bad reaction is because he has to change long-standing habits i.e. be thoughtful.

But he also may be struggling to accept that he should change his own diet and is in denial that it's setting him up for a heart attack too.

On the fence with this one.

YANBU for wanting support and to be listened too when you're obviously working so hard.

YABU for arguing with him because he made you a breakfast you didn't approve of. Seems a little mean.

Well done on the weight loss but give him time to adjust

That's a reach. How do you get directly to this dramatic conclusion?

Some people on here always trying to make the man the bad guy. And bananas. On MN bananas are also the bad guy. Poor bananas. 🍌

Enjoy your bananas OP! I eat one every day.

I'm pushed off at the posters thinking it's harder for him to adjust than it is for OP.

Seriously unreasonable of him.

For the family to start eating more healthily together and be more active can only be good. Sounds like he's the only one who's struggling with it. Basically he's selfishly continuing to prioritise his preferences at the expense of your health.

Dear God, this isn’t about whether bananas on toast are more nutritious than a fry up. It’s about the OP’s husband’s continued attempts to undermine her desire and motivation to lead a healthier lifestyle. It’s about him sabotaging her journey because he no longer has a drinking, crisp munching, fry up eating, snacker to play with. He’s frustrated because you have changed your habits and he doesn’t have a partner in crime - he may also want to keep you bigger in the misguided belief it’ll make you less attractive to other men. OP, well done in your commitment to your health. There are a number of approaches you can take here. Sit him down and tell him why you are doing what you’re doing and why it is important to you. Then explore together ways to have fun that don’t involve food or drink - cinema, an active hobby, basically a way of still spending some quality time together.

Did he also cook for the kids then?

Agree with everyone saying the fry up minus the fried bread is the better choice for sustained energy release. I absolutely love carbs but whenever I’ve lost a good deal of weight (and kept it off over the last three years) I’ve significantly increased protein and reduced carbs (not right down- I like them too much).

I think he's probably just in the habit of eating the way he does and was trying to do something nice but got it wrong. It would be good I think, for you to have a calm conversation with him where you explain what kind of foods you do want to eat and why this is so important to you.

To echo some of the other posts a cooked breakfast can be a really good way to start the day, fill yourself up, low calorie and full of protein.

I've done a sample log of your toast and banana vs his breakfast.

I would ditch the fried bread and the sausages so breakfast would be mushrooms, bacon and egg, fry it using spray oil or just a very small amount of olive oil and a decent non stick pan.

It sounds difficult OP but good on you for making choices and taking control of your health - Ive had a similar revelation and had to make changes for the good of my fitness, family and future. Is your DH supportive or is the struggling with the changes you are making? Do you think it was an unconsicious (or conscious) sabotage attempt from him or just a bit of thoughtlessness? Is he worrying you are going too far/obsessing over your health? or that he resents you changing? or that he sees it as a criticism of his weight/health/habits?

Ive made some big changes over the last year ( down 25k 😁) and I did need to have some slightly unexpected discussions with DH and make sure he was on board and understood, especially at the start. He is definately supportive, not a feeder and really happy about my health changes (and the general knock on effects on energy, happiness, etc) but there is habit and mindset, he had been used to me eating certain portions and foods, and he needed to consciously change this mindset alongside mine. There was nothing bad intended in DHs food choices when cooking or his portion setting or serving, it was just a routine he had gotten into alongside the bad routines that had been part of my weight gain problem - but we cleared it up with a few chats. Hes used to me selecting what I can eat now and making a variation on it if appropriate, and normally just nudges me if hes serving that I should come and sort myself out. I dont ask him to make choices for me or hold me accountable for my diet - but the social/family/fellowship/care aspects of eating together did need to be changed and negotiated between us.

You are right not to eat the food you didn't want, especially when you had told him of your plans, though throwing it out is a shame - might have been worth taking the eggs as they are good protein. How about discussing what you could have if hes doing a fryup another morning eg the good bits that fit with your diet that would let you enjoy a meal together?

Jesus this is probably the worst advice I read on this thread. So unhealthy on so many levels.