Pissed off at DH making breakfast

Medicine has moved forward over the years. There are reasons why some have to reduce their carb intake.

A fry can be fine as long as things are grilled and you don't go overboard on carbs. Obviously you're working really hard at this and you've done great, I agree with others and you need to outline exactly what support you need from him and what it looks like so he knows what you're wanting him to do. I wouldn't have turned down a nice breakfast, if you want to lose weight and keep it off then it's about moderation. I wouldn't have been cross because I get that would come across as ungrateful but sit down with him and talk it through.

Not RTFT but I'm another protein advocate I'm afraid 😁😁

Bacon, sausage, egg... All great sources of protein and fat and will fill you up for HOURS. Banana on toast would have me searching the cupboards after an hour or two!

I'd also say give the man some slack - I struggle with my weight but have a naturally skinny DH and he just hasn't a clue even after 10 years of living with me. He is very sweet and wants to support me but still has no idea if something if fat-heavy / carb-heavy / healthy / unhealthy.... He just doesn't know. He doesn't need to know, because he's that lucky sort that has an excellent metabolism and very good hunger signals and doesn't struggle at all to just eat exactly what his body needs to stay slim.

Processed meat is carcinogenic. Red meat is probably carcinogenic. Both bacon and sausages are linked to increased rates of cancer. Bananas are not linked to cancer.

What next? Smoking is great because you lose weight on it? Asbestos is mainly good because it's a great insulator?

A fry can be fine as long as things are grilled

This doesn't make sense. But then hardly anything on this thread does....

Mmmm , I understand your frustration, but you can’t lose your shit every time someone offers you a slice of cake… I’m in the same boat as you and have started taking saxander to curb my mindless snacking. You need to just learn to say no Thankyou. Skinny people do it all the time! It’s about forming habits , not just you but your husbands too. He will stop offering you food if you keep saying no.

OMG - way to miss the point. The OP did say no - that is the issue. Her husband then had a tantrum and threw away the food. Yet somehow this is the OP's fault?

FFS. 🙄

I agree and I despair for humanity when reading some of these posts. NO-ONE is listening to the OP and her worries and concerns. Too busy blathering on about what they think is best for her. 🙄

Carbohydrates - not just sugar - are inextricably linked to insulin resistance, which = type 2 diabetes and is also linked to pretty much all chronic diseases. So what price your toast and banana?!

Basically everything is bad for us 😂

But joking aside, if any ONE thing is a good idea, it's probably to skip ultra processed foods and eat actual food. So in the above scenario, I'd probably quit the packaged bread/toast but keep the banana, and feel free to have some bacon and an egg or two. Sausages can be good quality or processed rubbish, depending on which you get.

OP keep doing research, play around with different things and work out what your body responds well to - I feel fab on low carb, but not everyone does. I also love intermittent fasting but not everyone does.

Keep trying, and try to learn ways to work around situstions where you'll be offered food that doesn't fit in with how you'd prefer to eat.

ATB xx

THE OP DID NOT WANT THE FRIED BREAKFAST.

SHE DID NOT WANT IT.

I'm SHOUTING because people aren't listening. WHY should she shovel something down her throat that she didn't want just because her husband made it? A big fried breakfast that she didn't ask him to make?!

For fuck's sake.

Let’s swazz it round. If the OP’s husband had asked her if she wanted banana on toast and she said no, she wanted a fry up. Then she specifically went to the shop to buy the ingredients only to come back to bananas and toast that her dh had made her as a ‘favour’ and the same situation occurred that he threw it in the bin and threw a strop. She would still not be unreasonable. He’s gone against what she wanted and overruled her choice.

I wonder if it’s those AI bots responding, no human being can be so bloody dense, surely? That why the a lot of the replies sound the same - ‘but a fry up is protein and protein = good. Bread is carbs and carbs = bad. Banana is sugar and sugar = bad. Your husband did a good thing so you should thank him not shout at him. Shouting = bad and he may get upset. You don’t want an upset husband. Try harder next time’.

I reckon it’s been a bit quiet on Mumsnet lately so they are feeding OPs into ChatGPT and copying the answers here 😆

The whole place is riddled with obvious AI chatbots lately, @WhichWitchWillBeWhich, you're right. So bloody boring.

I've noticed they don't do humour though. Can't respond to it. IT'S ALMOST LIKE THEY AREN'T HUMAN!!

A fry can be fine as long as things are grilled and you don't go overboard on carbs

Surely it's not a "fry" then?

I was only half joking, but now you’ve said that I do wonder. Loads of posters don’t interact either, they just give an answer and leave. I always thought it was rude arrogant people giving their two penneth worth and not bothering to read through the thread but now I wonder… 🤔

If it was the husband that was on a diet and had a strop at the wife for cooking a breakfast, you would all be saying what ungrateful dick, and that he is very controlling guaranteed

No, most of us wouldn't be saying that.

It's diet sabotage, it's clearly deliberate, and it's a nasty thing to do no matter who is doing it.

You don't know that for sure it was diet sabotage, he prob just doing breakfast.

After asking her and then still cooking it once she’d said no thanks and had fucked off out for her bananas that she said she was going to have? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Are you THAT deluded?

@WhichWitchWillBeWhich

Hmmm I do wonder. 🤔 Some of the responses on this thread are so breathtakingly and spectacularly STUPID that I do wonder (now you mention it) if there ARE bots here. I don't know a single person in real life who would agree with the OP's husband. It's utterly fucking batshit that ANYone would suggest he's right!

She said she was getting bananas for breakfast. He made her a fry-up against her wishes. When she declined it and suggested offering it to the children, he binned it and abandoned his own to sulk.

These are not the actions of someone who misheard a message and meant well. These are the actions of someone who wants to force his wife to eat. This man is a food pusher, and yes, he is food pushing to sabotage the OP's diet

This. ^

This.. ^