Pissed off at DH making breakfast

Ok, so, if he was just being nice and not actively trying to sabotage your diet, maybe give him some pointers on how to cook a healthy(er) breakfast. That way he can still keep on being nice. He shouldn’t have cooked it knowning you’d already planned your breakfast though, who does that.

And ask him 'please can you stop offering snacks to me. I appreciate so much that you want to share when you're getting something for yourself but I promise you I won't think it's rude, I'd prefer it, it's just easier and helps me to avoid temptation'

I'd talk to him, as others have said it takes time to adapt and that includes for him. As cooking isn't out of character I don't think he's done it maliciously, but I'd say how seriously you are taking overhauling your diet and that you'd appreciate his support in this. There are meals you can have together with adaptions, a fry up for example- grilled chicken sausages, an egg (not cooked in oil), tomatoes, low sugar beans is fine as long as it fits into your weekly calories and you can eat together still. On the same token perhaps there are meals you have now that he can also enjoy- it's all about communicating.

Actually a study performed by a weight loss clinic found that people eating a British breakfast lost more weight over time as it was more filling. It was higher in protein, the right fats, less carbs/sugar. It was on one of those programmes featuring that diet doc Moseley? If you google most major newspapers also confirm it.

However, you eat what you want and congratulations on losing some weight!

Anyone who thinks eating carcinogenic bacon is healthier than a banana is off their rocker. As posters have said, OP keep doing what you’ve been doing as it works for you!! You’ve lost 7KG that’s fantastic

OP, these free podcasts are informative.

I'm going to tell you that is very unhealthy to obsess over diet and cut down everything you enjoy out too! Having 1 day a week, or 1 meal out of the diet won't sabotage or make you lose your progress. It's actually much healthier and maintainable on the long run.

You can enjoy a glass of wine, and have the fried breakie just by making yours heavier in protein, and lower in carbs. The fat and protein won't do you harm once a week!

I think your husband isn't doing it to sabotage you, he's indeed trying to be nice, but you're so self conscious about your efforts and grumpy for cutting off the things you like that you're taking it all on him.

Be more kind to you and him!

The cooked breakfast might have been better. I've been low carbing due to pre diabetes and have lost over 2 stone in 4 months. It's been very painless and one of my go to meals when we are eating out is a cooked breakfast.

There’s loads of the podcasts, I should have added.

But it’s not what she planned, allocated within her diet, and specifically shopped for. As she told him.

The relative merits of different foods are not the point. She had already made a sensible choice, told him about it, and acted on it. He ignored her.

Cook your own! Tell him that in future you will cook your own meals. I doubt the man is trying to sabotage you! He is just used to you eating crap.

YABU for the food waste.

As someone who was classed as obese and tested positive for diabetes at the beginning of the year, yes I would.

TBH his breakfast sounds better than yours, which had zero protein in and won’t fill you up - plus the inevitable sugar crash and hunger after a banana. Why did you get so angry with him?

Forgoing bacon is sensible, but generally banana on toast isn't a good choice either.

Maybe play him at his own game? I find it sometimes a little bit useful to eat unhealthy food like cake - because then you tell yourself you HAVE to go out and run it off (maybe doing a bit more). Imagine mentally that cake sitting on your hips or thighs if you do not beat it out of your system!

So I would have enjoyed the fry up (meat, eggs, lots of protein and fat, actually good for you and maybe even better than bananas on toast = carbohydrates + fructose!). Then say "it is payback time.... need to go out for a long walk with some sprints at the end".

It is none of my business, but this person MIGHT be "enabling" you. Turn it around and use it to your advantage. The main thing is not to fear food... just burn it off afterwards! Good luck xxxx

There wouldn't have been any food waste if he'd listened to her in the first place.

Either he’s hard of understanding

Or he’s taken your weight loss decision as a declaration of war. I have seen this many times.

Only you know which it is OP but this requires a serious conversation when neither of you are angry. Tell him if he isn’t with you on this, he’s against you, and that will end badly.

there are ways of making a fry up healthier but she wasn't offered this.

She was offered an already done fry up. with lots of fried stuff.

i think you were being unreasonable. banana on toast isn't healthy and doesn't provide your body with the essential fats and proteins it needs to function. its just sugar and carbs.

You'd be better off talking to him about how to adapt the meals he likes to cook to make them healthier, like skipping the bacon, and grilling the sausages, having the toast instead of fried bread, poached egg instead of fried...etc.

That way you can still eat healthily, and he can feel involved, and you can still enjoy the odd meal together.

Yanbu about being annoyed as you had told him what you were doing and what you were planning to eat.

But, you don't need to miss out of a fried breakfast as they can be healthier. Poached eggs, grilled bacon and sausages, baked mushrooms and tomatoes (I add olive oil, S&P, and dried basil to my toms when I bake them) toast instead of fried bread.

I think a calm chat with your dh and explain that you need his support when it comes to your food. I said to my dh this week that I need to cut out the snacks as I have suddenly gained a few kgs and feel uncomfortable, and he is being really supportive. It's what you need from your dh.

The low carb evangelists are spectacularly missing the point.

OP has found a way of losing weight that works for them, and that they are finding it sustainable. It is clearly working for her, even if it wouldn’t work for you.

The husband cooked a massive breakfast (even if you are low carb high fat, this isn’t the way to go about it); and this was also the cherry on top of a pattern of behaviour.

OP, I’d sit down and speak to your husband at a time that’s not high emotion - get to the root of what’s bothering him. Is it that food related things were a big part of how you used to bond, and now he feels that bond is slipping? If so, find new ways to reinforce your bond. It doesn’t have to be all health, all the time - how about if you spent some time making healthy snacks together, or go for a nice walk, or even just still curl up watching Netflix, just without the crisps? As another PP said, you could even plan in a “treat” breakfast together; maybe you could plan it in to your diet plan and look at small substitutes (poached egg instead of fried, whole meal toast instead of fried bread; one sausage instead of two etc).

Nope. High salt food is bad for dogs as is too much pork.

People really need to stop giving dogs their leftovers.

YABU that was an OTT response to the breakfast. You could have just not ate the fried bread

If your still struggling to adjust to your new eating habits it will take him even longer.

Absolutely. A load of processed shit meat fried in oil is in no way better for you than wholemeal toast and a banana. Demonising of carbs and cutting out whole food groups is really outdated now and unsustainable. There is probably more calories in just the 2 sausages than the OPs whole breakfast. Plus if the sausage is shit quality they will also be high in carbs and the fried breakfast also included fried, presumably white, bread 🙄. Yes getting enough protein is important but there are far healthier ways of upping protein than fried sausages and bacon. And carbs are important and long as they are the right kind. The OP is doing well losing 7kg so far cutting the crap from her diet and her DH should be supporting her with that