Husband left me sleeping in hot car

@FelisCatus0 Waving from the other side of the globe. :-)

Thanks for explaining. (You do C too in Australia).

God yes, 37 is unbearable. I visit my sister in South of Spain in summer and 36 you just have to stay in with the airco.

I would be freezing and in bed with socks on too at 11.

I think it’s scary. No one should leave people or animals in hot cars like that. You were in a deep sleep, exhausted if you didn’t hear him get the children out of the car (did he do it very quietly so you wouldn’t wake up?) Your husband is foolish and twisted. I think it shows malevolence.

I wonder what else he would do. Not sure I’d trust him after that stunt. He knew you were asleep. We all can tell if someone is asleep in the car or just sitting there. He’s a liar, and he’s creepy to do that.

I live somewhere that gets hotter than the UK. It's very well known that even adults can die from overheating if they sleep in a car in the sun. I mentioned taking a nap in a car park and someone's immediate comment was"quick way to die". It's something that teenage drivers are repeatedly warned about. 25 degrees outside is hot enough to do it.

The husband and kids all got out, opened and closed the doors and that didnt wake you?

Womanchild.

I can't believe how much some posters are under reacting at this!

No way should he have left you

You must have felt awful when you woke up

Plus, how long would he have left you sleeping???!!

@coxesorangepippin
I agree the amount of people under reacting to this is scary because it means that they don't see the real danger and they could potentially make the same mistake to someone.

What horrendous and ridiculous comments.

Some people sleep more heavily than others. How is this a surprise? Lots of people also naturally feel sleepy in the afternoon due to the circadian rhythm, it's not remotely unusual especially if you have eaten a large lunch and/ or were tired beforehand.

Heatstroke is serious and obviously if 25 degrees outside then a car left in direct sunlight will very quickly reach a much hotter temperature inside and yes it is very dangerous. Do posters not understand basics of physics and biology?! No, there is no guarantee OP would have woken in time to get herself out. This is extremely serious.

OP - I think it's unforgivable. Either he is extremely dense (like many posters on the thread apparently ) or what he did was callous and actually pretty scary. I'd be livid and not forgive this easily.

What if he did it very quietly? 😱

It is no one else's fault the OP fell asleep, personal responsibility really does seem to be lacking these days

If the OP is a child sure the OP's parents need to take responsibility

If your partner cared about you he wouldn’t have left you sleeping in the car when you’d arrived at your destination. He’d have woken you up.

it’s what normal people do.

and heat stroke makes you more lethargic and sleepy.

ignore the MN usuals, they dont have a life offline.

You might have been fine but this doesnt excuse him being a contemptuous cunt. Anyone who cares about you is tuned in, notices you are alive and would give you a nudge. Even my shitty ex who was dramatically ignorant of my wellbeing wold have noticed i was asleep.

This. Did you think you'd overheat and die? You sound like hard work, you probably would equally be annoyed if he woke you!

Overblown drama.

If he had woken you up you might have been snappy so he left you thinking that as your an adult you would wake up in a few minutes and come inside feeling refreshed.

My dad once fell asleep with an electric heating pad on his arm. The cover slipped down off the pad and he slept through it burning his arm. It was a terrible burn that healed over into a deep, thick scab. It was much worse than it sounds. I’ve concluded (as an adult) that he must have been intoxicated (he drank) and there must have been a malfunction with the heating pad. A sober person wouldn’t sleep through that, would they? I don’t think a sober, able-bodied adult would stay in a hot car and die.

I could easily sleep through a bomb going off after a busy day, being driven in a warm car and a big lunch.
I wouldn't be particularly bothered if my husband left me in a car as long as I wasn't locked in.

Thats a bit mean. I mean its not a massive massive deal but yes I agree with u that its thoughtless and maybe even cruel because theres a possibility he did it on purpose. Anyone who cared about anyone else would've tried to wake them up properly or at least left the window open or come back to check on them

I live in an area with very hot summers. Every year there are multiple deaths of children and pets left in cars. It would be no different for an adult left in that situation. Your husband is an idiot.

Surely this is because they are children and pets? I've never heard of an adult dying in this manner ... but I then googled ... "Yes, adults too can die in hot cars. Anyone is susceptible to heatstroke. The reason there are so many child hot car deaths is due to their inability to get out of the car on their own at young ages" so perhaps YANBU OP

Agree! This thread is ridiculous. It was 15 mins, no logic in saying it could have been hours etc. Chances are if it was for long someone would have come out anyhow to check what was going on. I can't get over the presumption that DH is lying about not knowing OP is asleep and this is some sort of malicious attempt to hurt her, or murder her if you are to take some of these posts seriously! Is it not more likely he left the car thinking she wanted a few mins to herself and got distracted minding the kids or whatever. OP is a grown woman it seems so silly to expect to be minded like a baby.

Oh I missed this was 15mins!! Ok, back to YABU OP!! 🤣

How do you know they weren’t shouting? You were out for the count.

But if your husband genuinely thought you were awake why would he open the windows for you when you would have been able to open them yourself in his head?
How do you know how much noise was or wasn’t made on that occasion with the kids getting out of the car if you were out for the count?
I can understand you waking up hot and bothered though - especially as you don’t believe your husband honestly thought you were asleep which would mean not only is he not very nice he is also a liar.