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Husband left me sleeping in hot car

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BlueNavy · 18/06/2023 22:38

We went out for lunch today. Husband drove home and I fell asleep in the passenger seat. We got home and him and the children all went inside, leaving me in the hot car parked in direct sunlight with all the windows up and doors closed. I only woke up about 15mins when my son came to look for something. I was boiling hot when I woke up and was so angry he'd left me there.

We'd had an argument earlier and I almost think he did it on purpose. He says he didn't know I was asleep and thought I was just sitting in the car for a while. I'd been sleeping with my head drooping forward about 10 miles so I think it would have been obvious. He says oh i told you "we're home" and you ignored me. I was flippin' asleep!

I'm upset what could have happened if I'd been there longer in that heat. There's no way I would leave a child in a hot car with windows all up so I don't see why he thinks it's OK to do it to me. AIBU? Thank you

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zingally · 20/06/2023 14:07

Hont1986 · 19/06/2023 13:44

"DH and I went out for Sunday lunch with the children today after an argument. On the way back, he made a big show of flopping around 'nodding off' in the car. We parked up and I let him know we were home, but he was 'fast asleep' and didn't respond. The kids and I all got out, opened and shut the doors, went back in the house. He came back inside 15 minutes later angry that "I left him there" and claiming I'm trying to kill him."

Same responses? Doubt it.

EXACTLY.

OP making a mountain out of a molehill.

BlinkeredBay · 20/06/2023 14:08

BlinkeredBay · 20/06/2023 14:07

What are you talking about? I quoted to amend my post?

MN will also assure you I’m not sock puppeting 😂

Attractedtotheofflimits · 20/06/2023 14:09

You fell asleep in a car with your kids sat in the back I presume. How old are you ? 3?

ShimmeringShirts · 20/06/2023 14:10

@BlinkeredBay sure Grin

Cherchezlafemme77 · 20/06/2023 14:10

zingally · 20/06/2023 14:07

EXACTLY.

OP making a mountain out of a molehill.

You are clearly an incel, an MRA and a woman hater 😅, right, @DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder ?

BlinkeredBay · 20/06/2023 14:12

ShimmeringShirts · 20/06/2023 14:10

@BlinkeredBay sure Grin

Out of interest who do you actually think I’m sock with? I’m really lost! Unless you’ve tagged me accident?

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 20/06/2023 14:25

Cherchezlafemme77 · 20/06/2023 14:10

You are clearly an incel, an MRA and a woman hater 😅, right, @DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder ?

Yes. And the more you tag me, explicitly requesting negative attention from me, the more obvious it is. What next, a neg?

I guess when you haven't got a clue what a normal, healthy relationship looks like, this is what happens. Hence my comment yesterday about parents needing to love their children. I was being a bit facetious but I wasn't actually joking.

Cherchezlafemme77 · 20/06/2023 14:30

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 20/06/2023 14:25

Yes. And the more you tag me, explicitly requesting negative attention from me, the more obvious it is. What next, a neg?

I guess when you haven't got a clue what a normal, healthy relationship looks like, this is what happens. Hence my comment yesterday about parents needing to love their children. I was being a bit facetious but I wasn't actually joking.

If only you'd known my lovely dad, you'd realise how silly you sound, bless your heart. 💔

Soontobe60 · 20/06/2023 14:31

BlueNavy · 18/06/2023 23:49

No he didn't leave me for 15mins. He left me there and I woke up after 15mins extremely hot as was in direct sunlight in a hot car with no windows open, around 25 degrees. If my son hadn't come out I may have been there another hour or more.

So you were so sound asleep that the sound of 3 card doors being closed, someone saying - we’re home - to you didnt wake you up, but 15 minutes later your child opened the door - much quieter sound than closing one - and you woke up.
So, you were sleeping very soundly then very lightly. Your DH did absolutely nothing wrong apart from not physically pulling you out of the car.

Cherchezlafemme77 · 20/06/2023 14:33

And making gentle fun of your comments @DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder isn't quite the same as requesting negative attention. I'm sure you're a great person even if you say some silly things occasionally 😁. I also grew up on a diet of Malory Towers and lacrosse.

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BlinkeredBay · 20/06/2023 15:51

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Look because I called you out on your bike deleted comment on the thread this morning, don’t start making uP nonsense about me.

if anyone AS you, they’ll see how many people quoted that comment and said how nasty etc you are,

I’ve no need for another account, you however after your behaviour this morning….. well?

BlinkeredBay · 20/06/2023 15:51

BlinkeredBay · 20/06/2023 15:51

Look because I called you out on your bike deleted comment on the thread this morning, don’t start making uP nonsense about me.

if anyone AS you, they’ll see how many people quoted that comment and said how nasty etc you are,

I’ve no need for another account, you however after your behaviour this morning….. well?

Quote not bike!

BlinkeredBay · 20/06/2023 15:52

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Well you really should be! You should be thoroughly ashamed at what you said to a grieving wife and her children.

BlinkeredBay · 20/06/2023 16:12

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I know that’s why I requoted my post and said questioning people about name changing…… 🙄

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BlinkeredBay · 20/06/2023 17:54

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I did!

NeedToKnowMoreThanThis · 20/06/2023 17:54

Just be glad he didn't drop a stinky fart in there with you before he left... sounds like it could have been a lot worse for you.

BlinkeredBay · 20/06/2023 17:58

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Not me sweetie! I can assure you I don’t need to hide behind a name change to tell OP what I think 🤔

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 20/06/2023 18:31

BlinkeredBay · 20/06/2023 17:58

Not me sweetie! I can assure you I don’t need to hide behind a name change to tell OP what I think 🤔

Well aren't you so much harder and more honest than everyone else on here, "BlinkeredBay"?