Husband left me sleeping in hot car

Victim mode: engaged 🤷‍♀️😊

Either way: parents, please love your children. This is the kind of thing that happens otherwise

WTF!?!???

So what we've learnt in a nutshell is, women..don't you dare get into an argument with your husband...keep your mouth shut, if you don't, he's perfectly entitled to leave you asleep in a potentially dangerous situation. Afteral he probably just needs a break from your bloody moaning

We don’t know what the argument was about and OP may have been equally not caring etc.

The DH may have been fighting fire with fire?

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The DH may have been fighting fire with fire

Do you actually think this is a normal way of seeing relationships? That's incredibly fucked up.

No, she said that he said he thought she was asleep. Doesn’t mean he actually believes she was asleep.

No OP said that he thought she wasn’t asleep - hence posters asking why he would wake her up if he didn’t think she was asleep.

But OP said it didn’t matter as she didn’t mind if he woke her up or not.

He told her they were home and then she stayed in the car having a nap for 15mins.

It’s hardly the crime of the century.

Not as fucked pumas assuming your DH in a perfectly happy marriage (according to Op) would try to cause physical harm…….. then choosing to stay with him?

Now that is fucked up, isn’t it?

Surely if OP believes this, she should be getting her ducks in a row and separating?

Having a nap in a car for 15 minutes is not a potentially dangerous situation.

My car journey to work everyday is 4x that long.

It’s different if he had locked her in the car all day.

Yeah sorry, I meant that OP said: ‘He says he didn't know I was asleep and thought I was just sitting in the car for a while.’

I think he knew OP was asleep.

It’s different if he had locked her in the car all day

wow, you have a low bar when it comes to relationships...as long as you're not locked in a car all day hey?!

Surely if OP believes this, she should be getting her ducks in a row and separating?

Bloody women hey?

Its all very incel-y

The point is the nap could have turned into a much longer map, with repercussions.

nap

but it didn’t!

Whataboutery!

It was a 15 minute nap that OP obviously needed.

I would be more annoyed if he had woken me up when I was sleeping.

But as OP has said they have a good relationship and he thought she was awake - so you can’t possibly turn this around and blame him.

I’m sure if this was the other way around and DH was asleep in the car you would also be telling OP how despicable it is to have allowed him to stay in there for 15 mins?

If he genuinely just didn't want to wake her up then why the hell didn't he leave a window open?

If you read OP’s posts she says he thought she was awake so why would he open a window.

And you think this kind of adversarial approach towards your life partner is normal?

It's incredibly incel-y. Absolute normalisation and even promotion of adversarial, neglectful and spiteful attitudes towards women in relationships, with snarling and hissing when it gets called out. Their responses aren't even making sense now, they've lost it so badly.

No normal person who cares about their life partner leaves them alone and asleep in a car on a hot day. No, not even if they had a tiff earlier, not even if they think the person is just pretending to be asleep to spite them (?) or whatever the fuck they're coming up with. That's just not how you treat someone you care about.

MN usually errs very much on the side of caution when it comes to shitty behaviour in relationships, so the fact that there's so much defence of it in this thread is significant. There's clearly been an influx. I wonder where it came from. Did someone make fun of a punters' website again?

I agree. They're not even trying to hide it anymore!

Dear god. The OPs husband thought she was NOT asleep. This suggests the OP has form for giving the cold shoulder and silent treatment, as it was expected by her DH that’s what she was doing by staying in the car. From how she replies on this threadC it wouldn’t surprise me if this is how OP acts. This kind of behaviour is called abusive by those on MN all the time, and no doubt if the roles were reversed you’d all be saying the DH was lazy and rude and should have taken responsibility for themselves.

The whole relationship sounds toxic. No normal person would jump to the assumption that their DH was trying to cause them harm by leaving them in the car. I think OP is likely well aware her own behaviour is part of the issue, but isn’t going to admit it whilst she has a load of MNetters feeding her delusion that her husband left out in the sun on purpose to cause serious harm 🙄

I think we have one side of a story about a couple that are clearly going through some issues and have significant arguments. We have limited context here and I suspect OP was just posting here to get validation to continue her anger at her husband further, which probably isn't helpful in the situation really.

I agree with pp that there seems to be a lot of toxic resentment here that needs to be worked on.

Careful, you'll be called an incel and an MRA - I'm one apparently, in spite of being a grandmother 👵 🙄. Any divergence from the victim narrative is not tolerated.

I’m also loving being an incel as a long term poster and mother of three 😂 every days a school day I guess. Some people just reach hard.

You’re like this on every thread though.

You have a hatred for women.

And bizarre that you describe yourself as a grandmother, why not just woman if that’s what you are?