AIBU that veg should not be shared at the wedding?

I have jd both. I prefer it the way you have been presented. I think the plated meals are too full some and can look untidy. I think that you’ll have a much warmer meal and to a higher standard in this way.

It’s a bowl of veg they charge extra for because they stick a fancy name on it

Where I’m from the veg is served on the plate with the meat. But I’m in the US and we serve food at wedding different ways, I just haven’t been to one where it was served like this and I’ve been to about 20 weddings

Really? Most wedding breakfasts I've had have been a roast of some kind. Meat, potatoes and vegetables anyway even if the meat isnt technically roasted. Same same though. Certainly what the OP seems to be describing.

Portions of veg on a plate is best.

Many years ago I was at a family wedding and we had a piece of cake in a bowl and a gravy type jug of cream between four as a dessert. Greedy pig opposite me poured almost the whole thing over her cake leaving fuck all for the rest of us. Some people are greedy arses if left to their own devices.

I have been to about 40 weddings in the past 10 years. one year I had about 8. Big families, lots of friends and invites through work too. this is very normal.potatoes and veg are left in bowls on the table and people help themselves.

isnt that what you do at home ?
it is how you serve veg, putting it a plate isnt done

just to note your guets will remember what your food tastes like not how it looks that is what I would be concentrating on if it was my wedding and make sure there is plenty of food

I couldn't be arsed to care. Nobody else will!!!

Unfortunately wedding meals tend to cost more than normal meals and be crapper.

You're paying a lot of money, YANBU to ask for what you want.

I think they serve vegetables that way to minimise costs. If they equally shared out the offering, it would probably look too small on the plate. They know wedding guests don't complain as they don't pay.

Ask for more???

Totally Normal way of serving food… non issue

That’s normal way for a formal meal. Not awkward at all.

It's completely normal and I'd prefer shared so I can help myself to the veggies I like.

My main concern would be contamination with people helping themselves - introducing bits of what's on their plate to the veg, using the wrong spoons, etc. I have dietary restrictions for medical reasons though so I know I am not the norm, in principle it is OK.

I'm scratching my head to remember if I've ever had veg on plate on arrival...and I don't think I have. Veg in sharing bowls or, more likely at wedding, served by server and request more if wanted.

I voted YANBU. I’ve never been to a wedding with a three course meal etc. where veg isn’t on the plate but I seem to be in the minority having skimmed through the replies. This kind of dining costs thousands so I think it’s fair enough to make requests. I’m also greedy and would resent the fellow greedy guest who had more than their share of potatoes. 😁 Happy wedding planning!

I’ve never encountered this. It has always been either a plated meal or a buffet where you make up your own plate.

What happens if you get unlucky and are seating with the people who don’t take a polite portion? With a buffet, there is supposed to be a multiplier built in to account for those people. At a table, you aren’t distributing the risk across the entire event, just at the table. Do they use a larger multiplier or do they count on the fact that you are facing your fellow diners to keep some people in check?

But Bensmum, you just ask for more. And while one might have more than share of potatoes, someone else won't want them etc. Probably less wasteful. I'm the one hoping for more roast veg! 😆

Depends if they've catered for extra portions. If they cater for 100 guests are you going to pay for an extra 20-30 portions in case some help themselves to extra.

Same sort of thing happens at buffets, if you're not their quick enough you can end up with what no-one else wants.

I can't remember how the veg was served at the weddings I've been to, but I do remember the weddings that left us hungry. One was a buffet and we were the last table, the other was just mean portions and we had to wander out into town for McDonalds part way through the evening.

If my caterer suggested this, I would want to know that they would over-cater and monitor and refill without being asked. After all, who wants to he the last person to get the veg, get virtually nothing, have to beckon a member of staff to ask for more (implying they are seated with greedy bastards), only to be told there actually isn't any more? Most people would rather go hungry than do that, but will never forget going hungry at your wedding.

Hi OP, i have literally no idea why so many pp are claiming that this is THE way that veg is served at functions- that's utter nonsense.

Veg in bowls is an option - its called "family style", but it is just that, an option.

Check my user name, I have catered more events than most pp will have been to collectively and it is more usual to plate the meals.

Feel free to dm me, I'm a wedding professional

I prefer shared so no one notices how little veg I eat.

I've been to 50-ish weddings in the last 10 years and they have all served the veg this way.