AIBU that veg should not be shared at the wedding?

Putting the veg in the middle reduces serving time and increases the likelihood of everyone getting warm food that's not dried out. (Still unlikely if more than 50 covers)

What is the ratio of veg serving dishes to people? It’s usually between two or three, any more than that and it’s awkward waiting for the veg to be passed, the dish is too heavy and judging portion size.

But most places serve veg this way, sometimes the potatoes are on the plate. Just make sure there is enough for people not to be waiting and they are quick to replenish.

As a wedding caterer we always serve like this. The main reason being to ensure food gets out quickly. It takes a lot longer to put everything on each plate and it would end up being cold.

Having veg inc potatoes in separate serving dishes is normal. It allows people to leave something off if you dont like it. I've never been served mixed veg though. Bit awkward eg if you don't like mange tout.
As someone else has suggested you could ask the waiting staff to go round and serve eg one carries plates one adds veg however I'd expect to pay extra. The advantage of this is that they know how much a portion is. I've been to works Xmas parties and have been pretty pissed off to find weve each been allicated 2.5 roast potatoes and 2 parsnips. I'm thinking, I won't be greedy, I'll take 4 small potatoes till everyone's had there's 😕
Number 1 reason given for a bad wedding is not enough food rather than mediocre quality.
Make sure you are shown exactly what a meal will look like plated. Is it 2.5 potatoes per person? That would concern me more.

I worked as a casual function waitress in my 20s. I was asked to cut a large black forest gateau into 36 slices. The cake had 24 cherries which virtually touched! You do the maths.

Totally normal at any big function. Personally veg on the plate looks like a homemade Sunday dinner your granny dishes up. Every wedding venue (hotels, golf clubs, country clubs) (I’ve worked in a few) would serve food this way.

Also, it'd be a bit awkward for the guest to share the veg like that as many of them won't know each other but the chef is not happy about serving it on a plate. Have you ever experienced something like this at the wedding?

Sounds like such a non issue. I’ve been to plenty of weddings with sharing dishes.
I’m sure your friend and family can cope with saying ‘pass the veg?’ To the person beside them.

What if somebody doesn't like the veg or only wants a couple of potatoes. I've never thought the veg on a Plate made me dinner pop! You are looking for something to stress over hadi g vegetables around is normal at weddings.

Sounds normal but can be an issue. We've been to a 'do' like this where a couple of people at the start of the round helped themselves to all they wanted and we at the other and shared what was left (I got 1 small boiled potato and a small carrot, OH had a small roastie and no veg). We did ask if there was more but no 😒.

So while it's fairly normal just make sure you're not sitting with the gannets.

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it'd be a bit awkward for the guest to share the veg like that as many of them won't know each other

er, no it wouldn't.

I agree it’s fairly normal, but not universal - I’d say I’ve been to more weddings where they just serve you a whole plate than ones where there are shared dishes. But I’m surprised so many people like food served this way, I find it a pain in the arse!
having to judge what a “fair” portion is, not being able to start eating because only half your food is on your plate and the others on the table are being slow serving their portions whilst chatting and meanwhile your food is getting cold. I certainly don’t think it results in you eating warmer food, venues normally keep the plates warm whilst serving but that obviously doesn’t happen if it’s half served at the table

I prefer it , it’s breaks the ice with other people on the table and no different to passing around wine

This is a very normal way of serving veg, especially at formal events, and in restaurants in the higher end price/cuisine wise. Completely usual for Michelin starred restaurants, for example, to present the meat in an artistic way on the plate, and for veg to be in separate dishes, which is often shared. I’m guessing that’s what the venue is going for to.

I don't know how it works but I would think that if you are paying a lot of money (I imagine you are) then you should be able to have a say in how things are presented. I wouldn't think any of your guests would care but it's your day x

The idea of it being awkward for guests to pass a serving dish is Mumsnet introverted social anxiety at its finest.

Last three weddings I’ve bed. To we’ve been given sides to rush up ourselves. It means you can control what’s on your plate. It’s not difficult even with people you barely know to just take turns to dish up a few spuds and some veg onto your plate. It actually helps break the ice.

This MUST be a regional / country (as in England) 'thing' as I've never ever been to any wedding or black tie dinner where only the meat comes out on the plate and there's a sharing bowl of vegetables.

What fresh hell is this 😅
It's a big, fat no from me.

In Asian weddings we help ourselves to everything, as food is served in big bowls on a lazy Susan. Bowls are kept topped up and there is no awkwardness.

Eh? Why would plated veg be dumped on as opposed to plated normally with the rest of the meal? Or is all normally plated food “dumped” on a plate?

Im all for shared veg but this is a bizarre comment.

Depends on your budget really

The only thing that ends up being annoying with sharing plates is there’s never any fucking room for them. Big whopping centrepiece in the middle of the table getting in everyone’s way, but no room for the 3 extra bowls on the table and everyone eats squashed up.

You can demand all you like but it will put the price up. It's done for speed and to reduce waste.

The best way forward is to ask that the waiting staff ensure there is enough veg for everyone.

You don't say how many the wedding is for- that will make a difference.

Will you be only the wedding or will they be running multiple weddings on your day?

So are you offering a choice of 5 mains for your guests?