AIBU that veg should not be shared at the wedding?

The main problem is if the first couple of people take all the roasties (for example) and there's not enough left for the last people.

I thought it was a typo!

Really normal way of food being served at weddings and not something I’d worry about at all. At least it’s at the tables. Hot buffets are the worst imo, we’ve been the last table called before and found barely anything left as there just wasn’t enough catered for.

I did read the op! But missed the bit that it is your wedding

It is still normal

It's normal and commonplace to do this but I secretly hate it. The veg always ends up miles away from me and I can never get the attention of the person it's closest to to ask them to pass it over!

Not at my wedding or any wedding I’ve been to with a formal wedding - veg has been served on the plate. Weddings are very expensive and I don’t think you should be made to feel like a bridezilla for wanting veg served on the plate.

*formal dinner

As long as they keep refreshing the veg so no one goes short I think this sounds fine

Yes absolutely normal. I find it slightly odd you’ve never come across this before, and odd that you call it a panache of veg, odd that you would “demand” it individually plated, and odd that you seem not to doubt the oddness of your own behaviour!

I actually don't think it is normal. I can't think of a wedding where veg is served like this. I can only think of having this at big hotel Christmas parties.

It’s an absolutely normal way of serving food at events like this and the majority of your guests will be used to it. A lot of people prefer this to everything being already plated up because it means you can avoid any veg you don’t want.

We had ours fully plated at our wedding.

My experience of shared food at weddings is that the last person at the table to get them doesn't get very much, particularly if the preceding people are big tipsy men with large appetites.

If everyone is fairly considerate it's probably fine

I actually can’t remember seeing this at a wedding. They’ve either been silver service or on the plate. Though tbh I probably wouldn’t have paid much attention so I could have forgotten. Unless you’re paying for a silver service level of service and not getting it, I wouldn’t worry about it. Guests won’t be bothered.

I’m surprised that pretty much everyone is saying this is normal as that’s not been the case at any wedding I’ve ever been to. All food is always served on the plate, I think I’ve had one where you all got a small individual portion of veg in a bowl, could this be an option OP?

I normally hate the people who comment negatively on a thread instead of just scrolling on by, but I’ve got some major shit going on in my life right now and WHY HAVE YOU STARTED A THREAD ABOUT SUCH A NON-ISSUE and HAVE YOU NEVER BEEN TO A MIDDLING RESTAURANT and I’M ON MY SECOND DIVORCE, DON’T BOTHER and actually yes that was quite cathartic.

AIBU to demand that the veg is served with the main and is not served in a big bowl and shared?

YABU to demand. However, you would not be unreasonable to ask.
This may increase costs because it takes time to portion the veg onto every single plate, and there is the risk that the food won't be as hot as it should be.

It wouldn't bother me if the vegetables were in a big serving dish for me to help myself.

I think it's much more civilised and pleasant for people to help themselves to the veg rather than have it dumped on their plate already!

I find it can be a way for venues to under provide when they put it in big sharing bowls.
The last two weddings i have been to only were they did this there have definitely been insufficient helpings ( not others on the table being greedy) so much so that a couple of people on each table got no eg potatoes to go with their meal, requests for more were ignored. We are at the stage of our kids/ nieces/ nephews/ friends kids getting married and have been to quite a few weddings in the past of couple of years and haven’t found the sharing bowls method to be any more common than fully plated meals or hot food carts ( hog roast type things usually)

And from my experience this method lets you have more vegetables than the very arty farty picture on a plate!

Much better to be able to serve yourself. This is honestly completely normal!

Completely normal IMO

Either way is an acceptable way to serve. I much prefer veg in the middle myself

Also think it's completely normal and you're being very U to think it's something that needs changing.

In fairness, at ds1’s wedding last year, the food did come out fully plated, so some wedding venues can and do do this.

But I wouldn’t have been at all fazed if the vegetables had come in a bowl,and we had all helped ourselves. So I honestly don’t think any of your guests would be at all worried, @Fakirek.

This is normal but I would make sure they will refill the dishes of veg so no one goes without and that they check for this and not wait for guests to ask as many won't do that.