AIBU that veg should not be shared at the wedding?

I’m very surprised by the number of people saying this is common at weddings-in restaurants yes- but not at any wedding (including my own) that I have attended.

I have attended a fair few weddings but I honestly can’t remember what the vegetable arrangements were for any of them.

I’m sure your guests won’t thank you for demanding veg is served individually, meaning it’s cold, takes forever and the people on table 10 are still waiting while top tables are moving onto pudding.

In 40 years and due to the numbers in my huge family (8 siblings both sides), I’ve been to many, many weddings and formal events and have never had vegetables served on a plate with the meat.
Where I’m from it’s traditionally served by the waiting staff.

Yeah. I’ve had both styles. Worked in catering for a few years, and the bowls/platters were always a more popular choice at any function over about 50-60.

It really wouldn’t bother me, tbh. It’s a way for people to start conversations (even if languages are different!), and there’s also considerably less waste, as if you don’t like carrots, there’s not loads left on a plate. Just make sure there’s enough. I was at one (poorly organised) wedding years ago, where there was only enough left for one potato each at our table….

Who's paying for the wedding? It's not up to the chef how the food is served. It's up to whoever is paying.

This must be a UK thing! I've been to weddings that have these: 1. Buffet. 2. Family style - for each table - everything served in serving bowls or platters, starch, vegetables and meat, baskets of rolls or bread. 3. Plated service - each person gets a plated meal, protein, veg, starch.
What you are describing seems to be part plated - part family style. Can you observe a reception that has that type of service?

I've been at restaurants and weddings where this is done & tbh it's a pet hate of mine. Most people try to be polite and take a smaller portion than they normally would or you get the odd greedy got who doesn't give a toss that they might leave someone short.
I'd rather it was plated

The most recent function I have been too, everything was quickly served on platters and guests could help themselves as to what they wanted to eat.

plates already on the table.

The only person to receive hers separately had medical dietary requirements. This ensured her meal would not come into contact with ingredients that might cause a health issue.

thoroughly enjoyable meal and everyone gave positive feedback. Dishes certainly were not cool when placed on the tables ( about 8 people to a table)

I would hate this! Been places where this is done and there’s never enough veg to go round and you end up feeling obliged not to take as much as you’d like.
At the end of the day this is your wedding, you’re probably paying a fortune so the food should be served in the manor that you wish! Tell the chef to dish up the veg on the plates or look else where

pops of colour for the veg on the plate lol I’ve heard it all now 🤣

I'd want it portioned already on a plate. Last wedding I went to was a hot buffet. We were the last table up, I ended up with some rice. That was all that was left, another guest generously gave me their Roll. There are some inconsiderate people about who will take as much as they want.

And mean while your meat gets cold while you wait or the veg to get to you….. then when it finally does there’s nothing left that you like or indeed not much left at all… leaving you having to ask for more veg (embarrassing) or needing to pop out to the local chippy!

Food being nicely presented and aesthetically pleasing isn’t some wacky new consent, you know 🙄

Vegs on platters at the last, very smart, wedding I went to. It was nice because it was an opportunity to turn and chat to people as we passed them.

We were seated apart from partners too, which I like as you have to talk to new people. I understand that people on MN regard this as terribly cruel. 😆

In the USA food served family style like this is the norm. I wouldn't say its normal in the UK though. Its your wedding - have things done that make you happy

It's neither normal nor abnormal. Both are commonways of serving food at a large scale event. One thing to consider is that serving the veg on the plates potentially leads to it getting colder quicker.

It's your wedding OP, you have/pay for what you want! If you want plated veg then you can have it, surely?

Xmas do's always do the sharing veg thing and there's never enough. As a bride, I'd be so embarrassed if this were to happen at my wedding!

I think that if you’re paying then you should be able to make whatever requests you like vis a vis how food is presented & served tbh & that the venue should accommodate your wishes accordingly🤔

Crikey!

What other minor/unimportant details are you stressing over?

I can only imagine

Chill out

She IS the bride, and isn’t agreeing to it, that’s the whole point of the post.

She IS the bride and doesn’t agree to it, that’s the whole point of the post 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think we had 5 courses at the last wedding I went to. No veg sharing. Plenty of waiting staff. Too much champagne!

Anyway, they're divorced now and I don't like to go out much.

I could murder a bit of cauliflower cheese right now though 🤣

Seems like it's the way to go OP. I don't even like it when they do it a pub. Especially if meat and potatoes are served with gravy on - and there's your plain veg...

Cauliflower cheeeeseeee......

That's not very nice is it?