to want to ask SGB a dirty sex question? Or anyone, really.

[HappySlapper]

Swingers clubs... yay or nay?

Experiences?

I have a friend.... and after much discussion, we have decided to perhaps do this together.

All I want is some pros and cons really. You can judge me if you want, but I won't care

I wouldn't mind going to a club, not sure what I'll think once I was there but I'm open minded and you don't know if you don't try!!

Because we have built up a close friendship, shineoncrazydiamond - much moreso than when someone picks someone up in a club/bar/whatever.

OP I have only one thing to add to all the above

BE BLOODY CAREFUL

its a big enough leap to start sleeping with someone you've just met, never mind going to swingers clubs with them

Of course I'll be careful, but thank you for the advice. I'm not some innocent that hasn't thought this through, honestly.

We might not have sex with each other. We haven't decided yet.

Club Lash in Manchester is run by a friend-of-a-friend of mine - have a look at the website, it sounds like it might be a good starting point for you HappySlapper?

Nah. Not for me. I've toyed with the idea of mild S&M - like Torture Garden in London - a few times, but to be honest, I have little faith that the men will be sexy. Well. the straight ones, anyway.

NinthWave thanks! I'll share that with my friend, it looks like a cool place. Have you been?

Once, about 7 years ago - it was good fun, not sure I would have been if it wasn't for the fact that a good friend is a member - the atmosphere was great, not sleazy or sinister at all.

The most outrageous thing I did was stand on a man's chest in my clomping great platform shoes

I have friends who are fetish and there is some slight cross over. Don't expect to find uber good looking people there - most are quite ordinary looking. The swingers I've met are usually quite nice personality wise. BE SAFE! Good clubs will insist on it. There's no pressure to do anything you don't want - going with a friend at first it probably a good idea. Just read that you've only met your friend once. Have a panic buddy, let somebody know where you are going and if you need them will come pick you up - this is an extra precaution on all the other ones you should take.

Couldn'tDoItAsDoesNotShareWellWithOthersTiggaxx

NinthWave we probably know each other from Manchester Munch.

SmallWorldButIWouldn'tWantToPaintItTiggaxx

Lash is fabulous, look up Lord Duncan, he's usually running the dungeon and will talk you through everything there. It is fetish wear only so dress the part, there's usually a theme. I'd recommend trying the Manchester Munch first, normal dress code and a way of meeting people with a similar lifestyle. They are a lovely bunch.

Hasn'tBeenToMMForAgesMustTryToGetToTheNextOneTiggaxx

Tigga

Manchester Munch... let me check it out...

I've been swinging quite a few times and love it!

Obviously not for everyone, but definately for me! I go to a club in Bury called Partners2Partners (check out the website).

It's very friendly, clean, laid back and fun. You can do as much or as little as you want!

Am happy to answer any questions you have!

Enjoy!!

Yuck

Actually meeting a new date in a swingers' club is about as safe as you can get - loads of people areund who will be happy to come to your rescue if date turns out to be a complete knobber.

And no, there will not be secret cameras in the club FFS!

That's what I think too SGB. We've been chatting for a long time. Well, a long time in internet world Just because I've only met him once face to face doesn't mean I don't know him.

I'm not sure that you can be 100% sure that a bad apple wouldn't capture webcam play or club play for posterity. An ex of mine used to use youporn and I'm sure some of that stuff wasn't filmed with consent.

Swinging clubs=naff

victoriascrumptious - have you ever been to one?

I don't need to have been to a swinging club to know that I don't need to watch a load of munters penetrating each other < yuk >

I imagine the horrible noises would quite put me off my pinot grigio

well yeah, that's fair enough. I respect the fact that they are definately not for everyone but no need to be so judgemental about it - different strokes and all that!

strokes

Now you have put another horrible image in my head...

Swingitagain:- No I wouldnt because of it's utter naffness. There's something really 'try to hard' about swingers. Can't see anything erotic about it.

fat people huffing, puffing and squelching

fucking hell...it's enough to put me off sex for life