to want to ask SGB a dirty sex question? Or anyone, really.

[HappySlapper]

Swingers clubs... yay or nay?

Experiences?

I have a friend.... and after much discussion, we have decided to perhaps do this together.

All I want is some pros and cons really. You can judge me if you want, but I won't care

Dittany: single women are welcome at swingers clubs (I often go on my own) and many find them a safer and more enjoyable environment for a single woman than straight nightclubs.

high fives SGB!

I don't give a rat's arse about how consenting adults have sex with all DT's caveats, let alone trying to stop them. But I do think you need to have a sense of humour about sex.

IMO there are elements of some people's sexual practice, which are just quite weird frankly although very interesting. Ice docking comes to mind. And men who wear nappies.

Dittany: The OP wants to take her new pal because she thinks it will be an exciting and unusual adventure. And she's probably right, I hope she has a good time.

OK if you don't like the idea of seeing other people having sex, or being watched while you have sex, then a swinger's club wouldn't be a pleasant environment for you (geneirc 'you', I am not commenting on your personal preferences Dittany ) so it wouldn't be advisable to go to one.
But some people do have either exhibitionistic or voyeuristic tastes, and swingers clubs are a good place to indulge these tastes with other consenting adults.

I don't understand the pregnancy squick. I mean, if you want sex when pregnant, you have it. I suppose if one is attaching all sorts of emotions to sex (or if you would rather call it "making lurve") then it would bother you - but does it make any difference who it is with?

Ice docking??? We hav an American Upright Double door freezer with an automatice ice dispenser. Is this something I should be looking into?

Do I get Mr Luvin to stand with a funnel in his bell end while I press the ground ice function continously...?

So did you have sex with other womens' husbands whilst pregnant SGB or did you stick to single men, did they actually know you were pregnant?

If you wanted sex while pregnant, couldn't you have just had sex with the father of your baby?

Swinging/partner swapping - the thought of it actually makes my skin crawl, must be my extreme fetishistic view of monongamy - and yet group sex amongst unattached folk gets no negative reaction from me whatsoever, I can totally see the appeal.

I assume she wants to take her friend because they would both like to go, they are both curious, they think it would be exciting, and the OP would probably feel more comfortable with the whole thing if there is someone there that she knows.

If the thought of pregnant women having sex with strangers is the sickes thing you have ever considered...well...

I don't think it's fair to snigger - after all, swinging is quite mild really - we all have our kinks.

But Malificence - of course others don't share that view. I like monogamy, so would never swing, but I'm not sure where the pregnancy thing comes in. I mean, if you are swinging, then it clearly doesn't bother you if you are having sex with someone other than your partner, so why does pregnancy add anything else to the equation?

eeeewwww, but there is a nice line of merchandise

Guess I'll stick to my usual Saturday night choke fuck

With my beloved of course....

I think people are fairly openminded about the singlies doing it SGB. But it would be pretty soul destroying if you went with your husband and he only wanted to do younger fitter women than you, came harder with them, wanted to stay longer, and didn't want to do it with you....

You are having a go at us for making assumptions and yet you are making assumptions that our one on one sex lives are boring!

Mal. Yup. Sex with another woman's husband. She asked me if I would like to, as he found pregnant women very attractive. I was about 26 weeks at that point so very obviously PG.
I had a 3sum with a married couple a month or so later, that was fun too.
(Have just written an article about this for a magazine as it happens...)

I assumed that even swingers had some cut off points in their moral standards, obviously I was wrong - pfft, yes it is sick to me that a pregnant woman wants to have sex with someone other than her husband and even sicker that a man would want his pregnant wife to have sex with another man, it's soiling such a special time in a couple's life and exposing their unborn child (who cannot give consent and has no choice but to be a part of it) to god knows what risks.
The more I think about it the more it makes me feel sick to my stomach so I really wish I hadn't posted in all honesty.

obv live a sheltered life. Ice Docking is totally revolting, what happens when it starts to melt......?

Did you take a pic for the First memories baby book?

Not sure if there is a chapter under the bump section for "Mummy getting spit-roasted by countless strangers" is there

Some of the posters have it exactly right. I don't want to go by myself, neither does he - it's something that we both would like to experiment with, and we've found a common ground in each other to do that. It's simple really.

I don't see it as immoral. It's just sex between consenting adults

When the turd melts you carry on and play hepatitis roulette...

I'd love to see the Jacuzzis in these places they must resemble fish soup by the end of the night. And why are they always decorated black, red and pink?

That and the nylon mentioned leads me to concur that there is just no taste or style to this at all. Stand up buffet, rofl, how utterly surburbia, excitment with snacks.

SGB - I dare you to tell me that the places don't have 50 year old caravanners with clip on sunglasses wanting to do the 30 and under girls...unless you are actually turned on by the whole Sid James/Bernard Bresslaw thing.

I agree it totally takes the sexuality out of it for me, nudist camps are exactly the same.

Mal, I would assume that safe sex is practiced always

Although, I have a little niggling feeling that "bareback" might just be on the menu sometimes, especially for these lovely blokes who want all kinds of "variety", after all it's just another "experience" isn't it ?

I suspect sgb will put me right there though

There's no such thing as totally safe sex ( unless both partners have only had sex with each other of course) the spermicide in condoms is such an irritant that it's now thought that spermicidal condoms are more likely to expedite infection - that's rather unpalatable food for thought, no?

Herpes and hpv infection isn't always stopped by condoms either.

Nice.

Mal - but you are using your moral code and applying it to someone else. Of course everyone has a line which they will not cross. That line is just in other places. Some people won't have sex when pregnant at all, some will, some will swing, some won't.

Just because people do not adhere to your moral code does not make them sick.

And what risk is posed to an unborn child with sex, assuming that all sex is safe sex? Or are you seeing that people swing and taking that to mean that they are all sick fucks who like to spread disease? Because safety wise, with condoms, there is no difference between sex with your husband and sex with another man.

with regard to ugly old gimmers - well even they have sex you know! I mean, for every old man who wants sex, there is an old woman (or not so old woman, or man) who wants to have sex with him. I assume that you go to a swingers party and have sex with who you want to have sex with. Just because you are there doesn't mean you have to have sex with anyone and everyone.

And I assume that anyone going is turned on by the thought of being there - and some wrinkles and a bit of fat won't bother them - we're not all tanned toned 20 year olds. And yes, there probably are less than taut men looking at younger women. It doesn't mean that they will be shagging them. I wouldn't assume that all swingers parties are full of saggy 60 year old men and taut 20 year old women not interested in each other - otherwise they wouldn't still happen would they>?

Unless that "other man" was a complete virgin, then sex with my husband, who has only ever had sex with me, would always be safer.

Condoms only reduce the risk, they don't remove it.

op; I have no experience of swingers clubs (thank god)...but would advise you not to go down this route. Apart from the fact that these places are extremely sad, they're also full of fat unattractive people with the sexual morals of a stray cat....are you that desperate?

Yes, Pfft! Exactly! God knows I ain't no spring chicken or oil painting But it's not about that. Not to me, anyway.