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The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 2

997 replies

teaandcakeplease · 13/06/2010 21:58

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who enter the Gazebo and sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from ApocalypseCheese, CheerfulYank, Anyfucker, HairExtensions, gomummy, tired mum and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up !

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teaandcakeplease · 20/08/2010 08:04

I'm well Cheerful Grin

Hellloooooooooo GoMummy, Tiredmum, Elmo etc?

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gomummy · 20/08/2010 12:56

Hello Cheerful & Tea! :) What is new and exciting in your parts of the globe these days?

elmofan · 20/08/2010 14:56

HELLO Grin Yes been busy this week with rude assessors coming over & dd's hospital appointment etc
Have a thread in chat ATM about all the insurance drama thats going on ........ugh
Will be bringing the wine to the bench tonight as i think I'm going to need a drink .
How is everyone doing ?

Tiredmumno1 · 20/08/2010 16:01

Hellloooo buddy benchers,

hopes you are well on this very windy friday

elmo i really hope things start looking up, i have my fingers crossed.

gomummy if you have mailed i will go on the comp tonight and check Smile

tea i hope you are well, i would say hope you are enjoying the weather, but it hasnt been great.

cheerful i saw your other thread, all i can say is yuck lol, and poor you, did you manage to talk to your friend and sort it yet.

gomummy · 20/08/2010 16:22

Yes Tiredmum, you've got mail! :)

Thinking of you Elmo, hope things are going along ok...must be tough...Tea and I will have the ice bucket ready for you this eve. :)

Have missed other thread (Cheerful's?), linky please?

Tiredmumno1 · 20/08/2010 16:30

Cant do links on phone, but its in aibu, under something to do with her friend having a threesome.

at least i think it was cheerful Grin

teaandcakeplease · 20/08/2010 18:59

Cheerfulyanks Threesome Thread

I'm looking forward to more info Grin

Yes the weather isn't that great is it Tiredmum? But I'm going out everyday where possible, with the rain macs packed and enjoying the fresh air.

Read your insurance thread Elmo but the advice was very good and no point in me commenting, as it's not my area or anything I've ever experienced, he was rude though imo.

Good day today, my twin brother came over this morning and another friend and we drank tea (well Redbush Tetley actually Blush) and chatted and ate cake I'd made. Then my mum came over and we went out to the local woods again and picked blackberries, whilst the DCs got some fresh air. Tomorrow I have nothing planned though, not yet anyway.

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CheerfulYank · 20/08/2010 22:36

I always wanted a twin brother tea! Am totally Envy of you!

Have posted more on the threesome thread. I worry it makes me sound a tad bitchy though...check it out and report back. :)

teaandcakeplease · 20/08/2010 22:43

My twin and I don't get on as well as you'd expect. Our childhood is littered with arguments and just general sibling rivalry. It's only now in our 30's and both married (well until my divorce comes though! LOL) we get on better Shock

I think I'd like even more info than the few paragraphs you've done

I think your guilt-o-meter is turned up high like mine Cheerful. Too many years of church going and I feel guilty about lots of things. It is irritating what she is doing though, I'd be fed up too.

I'll catch up on your thread tomorrow, as I must go to bed

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CheerfulYank · 20/08/2010 22:49

My brother (he's older, technically, though he acts like a 14 year old) and I don't get on at all either. Unfortunately it's just the two of us, so I have no one else to choose from. Would give a kidney for another sibling to hang out with!

It's not really a guilt thing, I have a friend who is an "escort" and quite enjoy some of her stories. Blush It's just this particular friend and her attitude that I find irritating :)

gomummy · 20/08/2010 22:52

Grin Doesn't make you sound bitchy at all Cheerful. Just not really wanting to hear about your friends' sex-capades any further, for which you certainly couldn't be blamed! Have learned from that thread that I have led a far more sheltered life than I thought.... "fisting parties" ....OMG. Grin

Your day sounds absolutely lovely, Tea! Another one here that Envy you for having a twin. You have, however, neglected to mention the kind of cake you made, which I must know. I suspect (given your name) that you must be quite good at cake-making and the Monica in me is curious...

Tiredmum the weather here is lovely, you'll have to grab a boat/plane on over. I get out and enjoy it while I can. The leaves are starting to turn and soon it will be dark and snowy and -30 or worse for months, so I'm more than happy to take a bit of rain with the sunshine. Rain means the temperature is above freezing, lol! :)

gomummy · 20/08/2010 22:55

Cheerful, I'll send down my brother to go with your brother and you come back up in exchange? Does that work? I am not really in need of a kidney atm. :)

teaandcakeplease · 21/08/2010 09:29

It was brownies I made.

I meant that you were saying on the other thread how awful you must sound, or words to that effect (can't rememeber exact wording) and you had no need to worry really and there wasn't anything wrong with how you felt Smile So it sounded like you felt guilty for feeling like that and there was no need.

Anyway morning here 9.30am and I need to change bed sheets and do washing etc.

See you tonight ladies x

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teaandcakeplease · 21/08/2010 09:29

I have 4 brothers actually Blush

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elmofan · 21/08/2010 11:27

Good Morning everyone Smile

Oh my thread is quite boring really , just me having a moan at how rude the insurance guy was .

I was on a thread last night where the "moldies" were mentioned Confused what or who are the moldies ? It must have been before my time on MN . I'm here 2yrs now.

teaandcakeplease · 21/08/2010 12:01

A thread was done especially for people who'd been on mumsnet for years oldies = moldies a while ago and it actually offended a lot of people, clicky (sp?) and all that. Anyway that's the gist of it.

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elmofan · 21/08/2010 12:11

Ah ok thanks tea Smile

I can go back to making the cheesecake now while i dance around the kitchen to 80's music Blush Grin

teaandcakeplease · 21/08/2010 12:14

Good plan. I love 80's music Smile

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elmofan · 21/08/2010 19:20

Hurry up before i eat it all Grin

gomummy · 21/08/2010 19:51

Mmmm...thank you Elmo...cheesecake is irresistable! :)

Bit early for the wine here, but have a glass for me!

teaandcakeplease · 23/08/2010 20:05

PIL still pressuring me to go up to Scotland, so I've put a thread in AIBU. Better prepare myself to flamed.

Tumbleweed on here, how is everyone?

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gomummy · 23/08/2010 22:24

It would be ridiculous to flame you for that Tea, you are SOOOOOO NBU! Actually, you are being incredibly patient and tolerant!

teaandcakeplease · 23/08/2010 22:38

Awww you're lovely GoMummy Smile thanks for your kind post.

No one wants to fall out with their PIL though really, it just creates tension and stress and hurt feelings etc. So I bite my tongue, hard though...

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gomummy · 23/08/2010 23:20

I imagine you must.

The kind of thing you're talking about really eats me up for some reason. I would be really bothered by it and would quickly feel rather hostile at being pressured. So for me, it is best to be v. direct about what I will and will not do, and then others can make their choices knowing my boundaries. I understand this can come across as confrontational to some, but actually think I'm avoiding a bigger confrontation by doing so, as I know myself and after that kind of pressure builds up for long enough...well, we'll just say I do not react well. Grin

I really do admire your approach to things Tea. You're an impressivly strong woman.

CheerfulYank · 24/08/2010 01:25

Yes, tea, you definitely are! I will read your thread in a minute.

Cheesecake, mmmmmmm! I love the stuff.