The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 2

[teaandcakeplease]

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who enter the Gazebo and sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from ApocalypseCheese, CheerfulYank, Anyfucker, HairExtensions, gomummy, tired mum and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up !

Well I am at boiling point about it but I don't want to loose it with them. I don't understand why by now they don't realise that I don't want to come, as this has been going on for months but they're relentless about it

Maybe they do realize that you don't want to come but think if they badger you enough, you'll give in? It's hard to imagine that they don't realize that is an unreasonable request.

Coffee anyone? Just made a very strong pot and definitely shouldn't drink it all myself! :)

Yes please, love a coffee

yum coffee..............mmmmmmmmmm lovely thanks gomummy
Hope you get some good advice tea , its horrible of them to put this pressure on you

I have a survey question for the bench. What do you teach your DC's to call other adults when they first meet them?

Growing up I was taught it was Mr./Mrs./Miss Lastname until/unless they told you otherwise. No one seems to do this anymore - is it an antiquated practise? We have taught DS to say Mr./Mrs./Miss Lastname until he is told otherwise (ie. "You can call me Fred"). I received a really strange look for this yesterday and was just wondering if it is not done anymore? Do children just use everyone's first name now?

Well we are the same

I am with dh 18years & up until about 4/5 yrs ago he still called my parents mr&mrs..... lol til my dad told him they found it embarrassing that he wouldn't call them by their first names or mam&dad
(dh parents had died before i met him , but every year my parents sign his b/day cards Mam & dad )

My DCs call my friends by their first names and pre school ask the kids to call them by their first names too, so

Elmo I am like your DH, and PIL say the same! Just force of habit, really.

That's interesting about the pre school staff, Tea. DS calls people he knows well by their first names if they have told him that he can (ie. family friends, etc.), but I always introduce new people as Mr./Mrs./etc. Often folk will tell him right away that he can call them FirstName and that's fine. Just seems that many don't bother with the initial formality anymore?

I blame our parents , its all their fault for bringing us up to have manners ......how very dare they

Oh wine, good plan

Always time for wine! :) Tea I hope DS' eye is better? How are your PIL coming with my plane ticket? :o

DS calls my two best friends "Auntie Firstname" and he calls my other friends/his friends' parents by their firstnames, but older people and people he doesn't know well, it's Mr and Mrs. His preschool teacher is called Miss Firstname.

How is everyone doing today ?

I'm having a bit of a wobbly day as dd(4yrs) starts school this day next week :(
She never really settled into Montessori school very well & had tears most mornings .
Dreading leaving her in a classroom full of strangers crying for me :( (none of her preschool friends are going to her school) .

Awww the poor thing. Understandable really that you'd feel this way

I'm dreading it tea as she is soooo close to me that ill feel like im abandoning her iykwim :(
I'm trying to prepare her all day by telling her she will meet loads of new friends & do lovely paintings etc .

Oh Elmo it must be so hard for you! :( Thinking of you.

She'll likely love it though, and I'm sure the school must deal with that transition each year so are probably v. good at distracting & creating a welcoming environment on that tough first day.

Still, I'd be a blubbering mess myself I'm sure!

Aw, Elmo! That must be so hard. I taught preschool for a long time though, so I can tell you firsthand that they really do just fine, however hard it may seem. Still, that knowledge probably won't make me feel any better when DS starts in a few weeks. His preschool room is in the elementary school where I work so I'll see him in the hallway...don't know if that will make things easier or harder!

Yep im sure your right gomummy , DH has taken the day off work to be there(to drag me away lol) & my sister & parents are meeting us afterwards for tea & sympathy lol & then my parents are going to come with us to pick dd up at home time . She is only going in at 10am & is finished at 12noon so it will only be two hours for the rest of that first week . Then when ds finishes at 2.30pm we are taking them both out for a treat .

Aww cheerful thats lovely that you will be able to see your ds .
many moons ago i used to be a Montessori teacher myself before my dc's were born . I'm just so worried about her as several times her pre-school teacher had to ask me to take her back home due to her getting herself into an awful state .

Elmo that sounds like a lovely way to spend the day! Will think of you that day, and you too Cheerful when the day comes for your DS!

Hello you lot,

hope you havent been missing me

Of course you are missed Tiredmum! :)

And you've got mail telling you that before you posted, lol!

How is everyone today? I am thinking we're going to have to begin to winterize the bench and gazebo?

Ta gomummy, i will get the comp on tomoz and check.

i vote for blankets oh and dont forget heaters

There you all are!

Hello you, welcome back to the bench, plonk ya bum down.

dont tell me mn still hold the grudge

Oh I'll be banned on this name too but don't care I'll just come back again I don't see the point banning me really. I done nufink.

Cant you apologise and say you done your time and you promise to be a good girl.

they cant be that mean surely?