to be pissed off that best friend is going to call her DD the same name as my DD ?

[cheekster]

I know this has been done again and again,

Ive often seen these posts before and felt for the person, but now it is happening to me I am so at the fact that I cant do anything about it!

Its a name, not a very popular one BTW, but i dont own the name so yes she has every right to use it if she chooses
BUT I just think it is bizaare. I would never name any of my children a name of a friends child - and she is my best friend.

When she told me I said it is strange and would be very strange when we are together and quite confusing for the little ones, but said i had no rights to the name and if thats what she chooses then I will have to live with it.

I know you will all probably say IABU but anyone who has been in a similar situation, please can you give me some advice and experience of how you get your head round it.

If your friend showed up to a party wearing the same outfit you had told her you would be wearing that would be OK because there's no monopoly on clothes?

Super, because I have no style and it would really make my life easier if I could just copy what other people are wearing.

Except a child isn't an accessory, is it? Children grow up to be adults with their own lives. They're not purely reflections on you.

No, a child is far more important than an accessory and a dress is not going to be in any way affected by somebody else wearing the same dress.

It's so funny to see people using the whole "copying is a compliment" lie that parents use to make children feel better about having crap friends (with the full knowledge that the friendship won't last past primary school).

5DollarShake this is a discussion forum she asked if she was being unreasonble, I felt she was and included personal references to back up why I feel like that, like a lot of posters on the thread have done! You don't agree with my take on it so you dismiss my opinion as irrelevant, not exactly a well constructed argument you have there?

MagalyZz, I don't understand your comment, you said rarity was relevant earlier, now you say it's another thread? I still think it is relevant because you are suggesting in your earlier comment that if the OP has chosen an unusual name she would have even more reason to be pissed off because people who choose an unusual name make a greater effort in doing so. You used the names Dulcie and Emily as examples. I couldn't see how people who choose Dulcie have made more of an effort? The OP doesn't have more grounds for being pissed off because she chose Dulcie, her friend has blatantly told her she likes it because her DD/Ds whoever, has that name, what's the big deal?

The suggestions of stalker style behaviour by her friend are a bit melodramatic. If the OP feels like this it seems a bit suspicious and paranoid; if she is her best friend she must know her pretty well by now.

Equally, OP, if the name in question is Noah then I don't think it is that uncommon. I would imagine he will meet another at school and may even become best friends with one. Is it really going to be a problem?

Noah's not that unusual anyway, is it?
It has become a lot more popular in the last few years. I know one who is now 4.

don't worry about it, cheekster, she might even change her mind when the sprog arrives.

I'm in exactly the same boat and I'm not bothered! My friend is going to have a Joanna and call her Anna for short whereas I have a Joanna who I call Jo. She admitted to me that she hadn't even thought of 'Joanna' til I named my DD it but has always liked Anna. I'm not fussed in the slightest, the kids wont get confused and it just shows how great a name it is