to not want to be the only one who does the dinner everynight!

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Basicly as i said above, even on DH days off and holidays I am always the one who does it!
and y does he always want feeding when ive just sat down or in the middle of something!!
ITS like having 2 4 year olds in the house sometimes

Does ne one else have this problem, living wit a man who still thinks its the stone age and women cook and man works {shock]

BTW i found out on a recent holiday with the fil that he has these same views on life so ive worked out where its come from {angry]

And DP's leg is in plaster, so help out of the question right now! Though he isn't messy.

Fairenough bonsoir but I think you threw in the 'if you are any good at it' and some of us will never find it easy to focus on tasks that are dull whilst nesessary.

But I digress. The OP seems determined that she cannot change her situation and all there is to be done is complain...

I definitely don't spend 16 hours on the two days I am at home (with DC at school) doing housework.

If you have lower standards and a few quick and easy meals on the menu, it's amazing how much time you can have to yourself

Cleaning my teeth is dull, washing is dull, brushing my hair is dull... just think about more interesting things while you do it. Since your brain is unlikely to be fully engaged doing routine chores, you can get on with other stuff in your head (which you would have to do anyway). Multitasking all the way...

LOL LOL at Anna's superior household appliances!

Its very very boring indeed to have to cook every night.

Even if you have been lying in a hammock in the dappled shade reading a book all day you deserve a break from producing food for all to eat every evening.

Oh I love household appliances; my idea of hell on earth is having lots of low IQ people doing housework very slowly and repeatedly in my personal space...

Fortunately I do really like cooking, though. That way I get to eat the food I really like!

Low IQ people?

OP YANBU.He should help with dinner,and other tasks at weekends and when he has a day off.

Bonsoir good job my MIL isn't your cleaner

Actually no Bonsoir

I am happy to pay people to do that stuff while I go out and do as I wish.I don't need to go to interesting places in my head when I can go to the local wine bar with a good book or sit by the river with a sandwich some nice person brings me.

And can I just be a bit about the low IQ thing. People do cleaning etc for lots of reasons.

No it's still there,low IQ people. I had to check again to make sure I wasn't seeing things.

low IQ people? You are showing an ugly side

I don't know why I'm surprised that you said that Bonsoir. I shouldn't be.

Up to you - I don't like spending money to have my home occupied by other for hours on end when I would like to be there myself. But I do actually do quite productive brain work at home that I cannot do away from it.

Not nasty - I cannot do anything productive when a cleaner etc is around - I need the peace.

You've been accused of being nasty not because you don't want a cleaner around but because you used the term 'Low IQ people'.

Would you care to explain that remark?

low iq people,that is vile and personal thing to say.

I am in exactly the same situation, for some reason cooking is 'my job', despite being the main breadwinner and heavily pregnant! Mind you, DP does do a lot to help me out in other ways around the house and with DD (who is not his child), so I have decided that it is just not worth creating a huge fuss about, I try to see the bigger picture (though sometimes it really does get on my tits!)

i have three cleaners that come in and are gone in one and a half hours. i could not possibly clean my house on my own.
i don't see productive brain work as a particulr virtue. there is something to be said fr just having a life filled with nice people and a little charm. It stops one feeling too superior. Always crass and boorish - however well heeled we may be.

Yes, the kind of people that you find to clean your home here are very dim. So they need micro-managing (eg "please wash this plate, then dry it, then put it in this cupboard") and don't understand boundaries and that people are actually trying to live while they work. Grrrrr.

Low IQ people?

I would love the kind of cleaners that come in 2s or 3s and do a proper professional job. My window cleaners are fab. But you cannot get your house cleaned that way here.

'Dim' now. Don't you realise what you're saying Bonsoir,or is it just that you don't give a damn?

my cleaner is a local mum and graduate sahm who brings her child with her.suits her to have the job.suits me she does the job