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my new boyfriend says he is going to vote BNP

459 replies

susia · 02/05/2010 20:51

that's it really, I was really shocked and went into a bit of a rant. I can't believe someone I've been intimate with and been close to would vote bnp.

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Kaloki · 03/05/2010 16:43

TSH What you are not taking account is that just because we are anti-BNP doesn't mean we are pro Labour's Iraq war.

I personally have no love lost for Blair's government. And would most likely also end it with someone who did support them - though they may have more chance of redeeming themselves if it wasn't in combination with any form of discriminatory views.

I would end it with someone who supported the BNP. Why? Because their views would negatively affect me, my friends and my family. It would be a guaranteed deal breaker, funnily enough I have no desire to share any part of my life with a racist, bigoted, homophobic, sexist twat. And the same goes for someone who isn't a BNP supporter but holds the same views. Thing is, all someone has to say to me is that they are a BNP supporter is order for me to know they hold at least one of the above views. It's a great insight into personality.

No DP, you don't believe it, but then you don't believe homosexuality is natural and believe that you've never said anything offensive, so I think we can safely disregard your views.

HerBeatitude · 03/05/2010 16:45

Am I missing something here?

He may not be a racist, he may be misinformed and just stupid, but why, pray, do you think misinformed and stupid is good enough for you? I wouldn't want to be with a stupid, uneducated man.

And he won't fuck you because you have a period? What about if you wear a diaphragm, that would deal with any mess and you wouldn't even need to tell him you're menstruating. I personally wouldn't want to be with someone who had such backward, stupid views - no matter how good he was in bed.

But if you're already arguing about sex, it's a no-no. Stupid and sexist (and possibly racist too). What a catch. WTF Susia? Is he really Good Enough? Don't you think you can get anyone better than this?

posieparker · 03/05/2010 16:47

This is not France and we are talking about the BNP, an organisation who bombed a pub I used to work in, in Leeds, because the DJ was black.

daftpunk · 03/05/2010 16:47

I'd rather be married to a BNP supporter than to someone who wouldn't think twice about kicking me out, just because I have concerns over immigration..

Marriage must mean nothing to you....or maybe you're just full of it..

Kaloki · 03/05/2010 16:53

DP where are all these imaginary people trying to kick you out??

runnybottom · 03/05/2010 16:54

Marriage means plenty for me. Its not something I need to worry about though, since I met my husband at an Anti-Nazi League rally and we campaigned against the BNP together.

Thats a real man. Unlike any man who would vote for the BNP, who at best would be an ignorant fool and at worst a gay-bashing hitler loving nazi sympathiser twat.

Clear enough?

daftpunk · 03/05/2010 16:55

What..?

Are we on the same converstaion here...?

posieparker · 03/05/2010 16:58

No surprise that a bully with archaic views about women and sex would support the BNP....

Stop hiding under 'concerns about immigration' fucks sake, if you're going to vote for the BNP at least have the balls to say because 'they'll deport all the dark people'.

posieparker · 03/05/2010 16:59

So if you discovered your DH was going to vote green and become a Muslim daft punk, how much would your marriage mean to you?

runnybottom · 03/05/2010 17:01

Voting for the BNP because of "concerns about immigration" is like setting fire to your house because you have mice.

And lets not forget that DP doesn't just intend to vote BNP, she tried to actual join them and be a card carrying bigot! Thats quite a lot more than "concerns about immigration".

daftpunk · 03/05/2010 17:02

Any man can go on an Anti-Nazi league rally..and ime they're usually complete drips..

It's like the twits who go on the Anti-capitalist marches.....all holding their £200 iphones and wearing £100 nike trainers....lol

posieparker · 03/05/2010 17:04

daftpunk.....

thought you would be avoiding the question....

daftpunk · 03/05/2010 17:07

PP;

I can tell you without any doubt, that if my dh wanted to vote for the Green party (he has often said he would vote for them anyway)
and become a Muslim..I would still love him and stay with him..

..wouldn't even enter my head to leave..

runnybottom · 03/05/2010 17:08

Yep, but not any man follows a bnp candidate round his campaign trail talking to all the people he's canvassed, to make sure no-one believes a word of his lies.

Some of us aren't all talk like you y'know.

noddyholder · 03/05/2010 17:08

DP are you a teenager because all of this is very simplistic and not really thought through at all.

Kaloki · 03/05/2010 17:12

No, daftpunk, that would be because the green party wouldn't want your friends and family to leave the country. Neither would being a Muslim.

It wouldn't mean he was supporting people that condoned violence.

Not really comparable is it

But really, have the benefit of the doubt - tell us why the green party or Islam would be detrimental to anyone you know. Because I'm fairly certain the list would be short (or most likely lies).

daftpunk · 03/05/2010 17:15

I wouldn't get together with a Muslim, but if my dh (that I've been married to for years) wanted to convert to Islam, of course I would stay with him.....what do you think I would do...say,

that's it, I'm outta here and taking the 4 kids with me...

Are you nuts..?

runnybottom · 03/05/2010 17:17

Better comparison, what if he converted to Islam and became a fundamentalist? So thats you in a burka then is it DP?

RunawayWife · 03/05/2010 17:20

Dp I think putting aside the whole voting thing, the other things the OP has said about her partner is enough to ring warning bells and get rid.

FlookCrow · 03/05/2010 17:21

It's none of your business who he votes.

HelenRosie · 03/05/2010 17:28

To the OP: Ask him if he agrees with this little beauty from the BNP:

?Rape is simply sex. Women enjoy sex, so rape cannot be such a terrible physical ordeal? [It] is like suggesting forcefeeding a woman chocolate cake is a heinous offence.?
Then BNP London organiser and GLA candidate, Nick Eriksen

radstar · 03/05/2010 18:14

When are people going to realise there is no such thing as indigenous British people? Since time immemorial our nation has been made up of immigrants.

How do people define British?

How many generations do you go back?

People still do judge on skin colour.

To the op I had a similiar situation once with a boyfriend who reckoned it was ok to "screw the state for everything he could" I didn't agree with him, it wasn't that exactly that caused us to split up but a relationship with some one who had such fundamentally different views to me was doomed, we saw the world in different ways.

oldandgreynow · 03/05/2010 18:18

posieparker wrote
'As BNP are a collection of racists in politicians clothing and come across as ignorant and pretty stupid in a debate, I would say that it is a prerequisite to be ignorant or stupid....nothing else fits.'

NG is a Cambridge graduate ! Andrew Brons is a college lecturer in Politics.

posieparker · 03/05/2010 18:18

We should a mn poll on nationality of grandparents....I don't think I know too many people that don't have at least one who is not born elsewhere!

posieparker · 03/05/2010 18:19

Well oldandgreynow I'd say that was concrete proof of their ignorance!