that the whole playground mums camp is getting me down?

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Because I dont take DD to school that often due to having to work it just makes me feel like a fish out of water when I do go, some are making trips to the shops in their little gangs after, some coffee morning, some going to each others houses and its all they talk about. Regardless of the children their kids like to play with, they must play with the kids of the mums they like and thats it.
Since DD started she has had one friend over and has been to her house in return however ive asked some of the mums of children my DD likes and plays with at school about them coming over after school one day but nobody takes us up.

Cheerful

I have not yet forgiven you for being quite so beautiful.
Give me a day or two...

We seem to be a certain type on this thread do we not

Porcarissimo - you do have to change your name now, you know that.

Norkily - It's OK, they all talk about me behind my back

hully - dogs seem to be good for meeting people. But you do seem to have to pick up shit though, so that's the downside. I do tap dancing and no shit is involved

in all seriousness it is hard Norky, I work FT so happily dont have to contend with this, DP does!!!! he went ape shit as me when I had a day off and did not go to the local playgroup they usually go to, he screamed at me:

I GO THERE EVERY FUCKING WEEK, I HATE IT BUT I HAVE TO GO FOR THE BABY!!!!

have just started DS at a very good pre-school, but in a very cliquey area. And I am mat leave when he starts so watch this space....

Last time I went to one I did not know anyone so played on my blackberry and missed DC running out of the front door

happy days

snort at "no shit is involved"

Actually I loved tap dancing as a child/teen. I'd love to go again, wonder if anywhere here does it?

porca - your poor dp, I feel for him.

I do that, fiddle with my phone or something to look less... lonely. Probably makes me look disinterested. Had to lol at dc escaping through front door though

Having 2 tends to mean that people at playgroup only offered pitying glances as I try to keep both of them entertained. That's probably not a helpful thing to say to someone currently pg though so... er... I'll shut up....

... er....

... how many toilets have you got?

Parent and toddler groups are terrible. All those women hiding there deep deep anxiety about the development/behaviour of their DCs. I only survived because I had a friend to go with, and then we ended up taking over the place and forcing people to be friendly.

Mwah Ha Ha

their DCs

pag - I am loving the support group idea but given how small and interbred insular a community (and school) I am dealing with arrest would be the more likely outcome, I think.

Happy to help out anyone who thinks it would work for them, though (always supposing I could get up the courage for fawning. Alcohol might be required - can we get an MN minibus so I don't have to drive?)

their deep deep anxiety

< perfectionistic >

I missed the full on love in [harrumph]

Mayor, we are like ships that pass in the night

I am giggling at Hully and her attractive snot wipe

I have mellowed as DD has got older. I remember going into our ante natal classes ordering DH not to make eye contact with anyone

I am more sociable now but did giggle @ 'Last time I went to one I did not know anyone so played on my blackberry and missed DC running out of the front door' that could absolutely be me if I wasn't in the mood to mix

I always mixed - I just found all the other odd ones and then we had a great time..

Once I had got over the appalling faux pas with the woman recommended by dh that was.

IYSWIM

porca
I was hugely popular at playgroup.
Ds2 had not yet been dignosed and appeared to just be a wild, miserable out of control toddler.

Everyone looved me because my child was worse than theirs. I was the 'there but for the grace of god' mother
It is a tough job but I carried it with some aplomb

pag my Charlie was a biter - people just looked askance

Just realised that mentioning "making people be friendly" will have alienated half of you. Am not a jolly hockey sticks type. Honestly

I have alway been the sort that has a very few close friends and hardly any acquaintances.

When I had DD and gave up work I found mixing with other mums because they were mums, no other common ground, quite tough truth be told, I avoided it rather a lot.

However I have made some very dear friends over the last few years and am so glad I got over myself.

I don't want to hear about it being hard when there is an established class . At least DD will start reception with other new ones and it sounds as if only some are from on site pre-school so there will lots of new people to meet

I like most people, so usually most of them like me. I must say I take not liking me as rather a challenge. I hit people who don't like me with full on niceness until they throw their hands up in desperation and admit that they luuurve me. So it's sort of a Stockholm Syndrome thing really, but I can live with that.

For heaven's sake, Pag, I'm actually wearing makeup in those photos. Trust me darling, if you saw me first thing in the morning you'd be like "Cheerful? Oh she's erm...cute...if you like the sea monster type."

At least you did not actively dig in your nose or something Hully, let's look on the bright side here!

Cheerful - that's not just make-up

TBH, I think if you turned up at DS's school most people would look on you with fond tolerance and a "there, there, she can't help it, she's American, you know" sort of attitude

Went to park after school - no one there, where were they?
Cross exam DD as to other plans of local 4 year olds, try to confirm if response is a lie/story/only joking.

Hide my tears behind local newspaper retrived from bin.

Vow to return, steal all playground equipment and only give back if they tell me that the place they went was rubbish without me.

Cheerful Yank I dislike intensly two people in this world which allows me to spread my lurve very thickly everywhere else.