that the whole playground mums camp is getting me down?

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Because I dont take DD to school that often due to having to work it just makes me feel like a fish out of water when I do go, some are making trips to the shops in their little gangs after, some coffee morning, some going to each others houses and its all they talk about. Regardless of the children their kids like to play with, they must play with the kids of the mums they like and thats it.
Since DD started she has had one friend over and has been to her house in return however ive asked some of the mums of children my DD likes and plays with at school about them coming over after school one day but nobody takes us up.

Pag! Where are these threads??

Porca is quite nice, I am toying with Porcarissimo.

The love is hard to resist but she seems determined. Do thatthing you do with the whip andthe fluffy muffler, see if that melts her.

Hully - have you not seem the angst?

All very glum inducing. I am mostly putting my fingers in my ears and singing Celine Dion songs

Porca is lovely. And I think she is lovely too. I like a deftly delivered telling off. And she had a point..

No, and if you don't tell me where the angst is I am confiscating all your leotards..

I nearly met bran.

I didn't, but I agreed with her.

I think bran has myth status.

Who is Miss Status and is it a kidnapping?

No, a lisp

moving back to OP - sympathies. I'm finding the vast majority of the school mums a tough nut to crack for different reasons. Either be brazen about extending invites for coffee/playdates, or if you feel too reserved for that, develop a radar for the newer mums/mums who do want friends.

Right, I am liking pag's theory that this thread could become a demonstration of playground dynamics so I'm going to test it out, as a kind of aversion therapy.

Am dreading this aspect of the dc starting school. Am working, so not sure how often will be there at pick up/drop off. And am really shy. Also seem to have this paranoia that other people are always more friendly with each other than with me and that I am always left out of groups.

I claim it is categorically true but DP thinks I'm barking.

So I see your and raise you a

I really tried this last year when I was desperate for some friends.

I invited 3 people at playgroup (on separate occasions, I invited, not all at once). One cancelled at the last minute and never got in touch again. The other was super friendly when I saw her but never followed up and now has stopped coming anyway. The 3rd I see from time to time but it hasn't really got past that. She's very nice but haven't been in touch now for nearly 3 months.

It's a huge amount of effort for not much return isn't it? Gah. Dreading school.

Norkilly!

Surely you cannot doubt my affections?

Looks like rain here.

Really really don't worry about it. Just write a note for the other child: X would love Y to come for tea, how about 1, 2 or 3 and then your name and phone number. Even if no great friendship develops, it doesn't matter, it's about the kids. And re second post, I agree, but sometimes you just have to try another 10!

Tethersend!! My saviour

Bran told me she left Ireland because of people like me, and now I can't remember why.

i am just going to stir the fire here by not responding to the OP at all, but rather, i am going to wave and blow kisses at my friend Gibbon, as i blardy lurve her and haven't seen her around for ages

quichey, moi?

oh dear lord. rein it in a bit will ya

was it that?

I leave for five seconds and hully & pag are going around making people vomit again. Tsk tsk!

As far as weather goes, it is pouring here. I reached work with hair soggy for a reason for once, not just "i'm always late and can't be arsed to use the blow dryer."

Hello, Norks! Fancy a bit of eurythmy?

It was that Gibbon making people vomit. D'you mind?

no hully, i'm quite luvvy by irish standards

Check your handbag, Norkily...

I have been known to a bit obsessive on this point, but I cannot recommend evening classes/day/whatever too highly. I made lots of friends that way when I moved to a new place, and it was all easier as there was a shared purpose etc.