to stick my head in the sand and pretend this isnt happening?

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i got a bfp on tuesday. a clear one. a bright blue line straight down. I am now (going by ov dates) coming up for 5 weeks. this is the time I normally mc, and I just want to stay in bed and sleep for the next 2 weeks. I havent called the cons yet, no point because there is nothing he is prepared to try. I havent been to my gp because he will refer me to the cons and i dont want yet another mc going on my notes.

i certainly feel more pg than i have for years, napping 2pm-4pm, going to bed at 8, eating like a horse etc... but on the downside i have a touch of loose bowels and i know that i need an early scan because of the ep.

but i cant seem to face up to this. dh is cacking himself and i dont want to scare him anymore. he asks if ive called the cons and ive been v evasive and said that he is away, but i dont want to involve anyone else in this in rl yet.

do it tomorrow then

but you must get a scan if that is what you need to do

have a hug manly back slap

why won't the cons do anything?

ive pleaded with him to try progesterone and/or steroids, but he says there isnt enough evidence to support its effectiveness (bollocks) and the only thing he will try is heparin, which i dont need. ive never shown any sign of a clotting disorder. part of me wants to wait til i get the 5th week out of the way. god, im such a chicken!

Oh lissie am keeping everything crossed my lovely, I would arrange the early scan, hard as it may be.

You poor thing! Can you get a referral to a more sympathetic consultant?

thanks gibbon, i cant seem to muster up any enthusiasm or excitement about it, im fed up of being optimistic and just want to ignore everything. im just trying to take it one day at a time. i suppose if im still up the pole after the weekend i could call epu direct and ask for an early scan, just hope they will be understanding and not insist on a gp/cons referral.

sunny, we've already been through two different consultants before this one. he is a specialist rmc cons.

It must be so stressful for you. I think I would stick me head in the sand too - especially if I knew that there is nothing the drs are willing to do.

Take care.

oh you are lissie?
don't know what to say - must be a very stressful time

Sorry I don't know your story but hope it all works out ok. That's a bit crap of the consultants to be unwilling to try anything at all

thank you. i am certainly very stressed

you know what really pisses me off? how obsessed we have been with having another baby, trying to get pg again. now that i am, and we have what we want (well, not quite because what we want is another baby) im pretending it isnt happening. dh is telling the dog off for trying to climb onto my lap as he does every evening, cooking dinner, (and then another dinner half an hour later - really - i had two fish suppers last night)and generally treating me like im made of glass, i want to drink a bottle of wine and go bleddy bungee jumping!

if you do i'm not cleaning up the vomit

ah, dh'll do it

although i am regretting letting ds's friend come to play for a couple of hours today, he will be going home at about 2 and that'll cut into my precious nap time!

congratulations and best wishes. If I were you, I would start taking one baby aspirin a day and get myself a prescription for progesterone asap. I don't know your story but if you are susceptible to unexplained miscarriage, it can't hurt and might help.

There are sympathetic consultants out there, and even my NHS consultant agreed that I might benefit from progesterone and was willing to prescribe it. Well, who knows for sure, but I had my only successful pregnancy whilst taking it ...

Feeling very envious as my period was five days late (unheard of) but arrived today.

oh poor you
I would stick my head under the duvet and not come out for a week
it's awful, just waiting
how many m/c have you had?
I always went to the epu because I wanted them on my record, so they would do something
a scan this early won't show much will it?

thank you. last september i had my 10th mc, i have been taking baby asprin (and high dose folic acid) for quite a while now, i suppose ive just reached the point where i cant beieve that it will happen for us. my cons has done loads of tests and come up with nothing (although my theory is that the problem is uterine group b strep) tbh he doesnt really think i have clotting issues, he just wants to give it a try. but they wont prescribe heparin til they see a hb, i mc at between 5 and 6w.

I don't have any advice, but YANBU of course.

I really hope it works out for you this time.

oh jesus. 10. i am so sorry.
where are you?
have you ever been to the consultant when pg before?

oh Lissie - of course YANBU - hide under the duvet all you want (for a little while at least, you do need that scan...)

thank you. am going crazy here, googling loose bowels because i convinced myself that you only got constipated in early pg, googling hpt images to convince myself that it was a sufficiently clear line.

i am a nob.

thank you all for reassuring me. i love mn.

googling stuff always makes me more confused
you are not a nob

take care of yourself, this must be so upsetting for you.

ps) step away from google! no good lies that way.

If it helps, the last thing I was during early times PG with DS was constipated.

Different strokes/different folks

Hope you find some reassurance soon and get to feel all celebratory

thanks all, iirc i was rather... ummmm.... free flowing with ds too, although i may be making that up to make myself feel better. if i can just get to 6w, then i will have a scan. i will be able to relax once i see a hb.