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Original poster

to stick my head in the sand and pretend this isnt happening?

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queenoftheslatterns · 08/04/2010 09:13

i got a bfp on tuesday. a clear one. a bright blue line straight down. I am now (going by ov dates) coming up for 5 weeks. this is the time I normally mc, and I just want to stay in bed and sleep for the next 2 weeks. I havent called the cons yet, no point because there is nothing he is prepared to try. I havent been to my gp because he will refer me to the cons and i dont want yet another mc going on my notes.

i certainly feel more pg than i have for years, napping 2pm-4pm, going to bed at 8, eating like a horse etc... but on the downside i have a touch of loose bowels and i know that i need an early scan because of the ep.

but i cant seem to face up to this. dh is cacking himself and i dont want to scare him anymore. he asks if ive called the cons and ive been v evasive and said that he is away, but i dont want to involve anyone else in this in rl yet.

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StealthPolarBear · 08/04/2010 11:29

pregnancy always had that effect on my bowels too
Maybe i ate more fruit & veg...not sure

stanausauruswrecks · 08/04/2010 11:43

Is there any way that you could get an urgent appointment to see this guy from what I have read around the subject he is meant to be one of the best.
Am keeping everything crossed for you.

stanausauruswrecks · 08/04/2010 11:46

Just wanted to add, I hope you aren't offended by my suggesting seeing you him. Just that he has huge experience in supporting women with RMC through pregnancy, and that he might be your man WRT getting the progesterone.

thisisnotwhoyouthink · 08/04/2010 11:47

Oh dear you poor thing! I dont 'know' you or your story, only from this thread, but I just wanted to lend you some support at this tricky time. Keep well and keep rested. Praying that everything goes right for you this time.

ChunkyChick · 08/04/2010 11:52

I second the advice to go and see Mr Hassan Shehata at the miscarriage clinic. My situation was nowhere near as bad as yours and still he had no hesitation about putting me on steroids (I also took clexane, progesterone and baby aspirin). My ds is coming up for 10 weeks old and I know the only reason he is here is because of Mr Shehata. You are exactly the type of patient he treats!

cyteen · 08/04/2010 11:59

queenie, I am constantly in awe of your fortitude and determination in the face of such heartbreak. Keeping everything crossed for you this time

ThisCharmingFlan · 08/04/2010 12:00

your DH sounds lovely - stay under that duvet and let him spoil you.

And I too had the roaring trots in early pg.

Wishing all the best for you!

LittleMissHissyFit · 08/04/2010 12:05

Another one here rooting for your queenie! Fingers and everything crossed for you.

boiledeggandsoldiers · 08/04/2010 12:11

I know it's hard but try to relax and take it easy. From my experience, progesterone pessaries are worth a try if you can persuade your consultant to give them to you, and a scan this early won't show much. They may agree to do an early scan in a couple of weeks given your mc history. Crossing my fingers for you. x

Julezboo · 08/04/2010 12:36

Oh lissie,

(can i whisper a congratulations?) I know exactly how you feel. As you know I have just had my 7th mc.

I bowed out of the thread in conception as we arent officially trying at the moment.

Can you afford to pay to see the guy mentioned above?? Might be worth a try if you can.

How is DH's new job going?

I hope your are feeling a bit better about it today. I have EVERYHTING crossed for you x

ChippingIn · 08/04/2010 12:49

Lissie - I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.... x

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queenoftheslatterns · 08/04/2010 12:52

thanks all, we have discussed seeing him, but i presume he is very expensive! dh's new job is going really well, but not that well i do feel a little better. my skin and hair are fab (always a sign of up-duffed-ness), im just too scared to cough in case i disturb it, but on the other hand i desperately want to pretend its not happening.

am i making any sense at all

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ChippingIn · 08/04/2010 12:58

Lissie - I think I'd be going without food for an appointment with this guy...

Yes - you are making sense I can't imagine how hard this is for you

DaftApeth · 08/04/2010 13:02

Keeping everything crossed for you x

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queenoftheslatterns · 08/04/2010 13:06

lol chipping

thank you DA

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stanausauruswrecks · 08/04/2010 13:09

£225 for an initial consult, though he does do NHS work as well, at Carshalton and Epsom. Any chance your GP would be sympathetic and do you a referral???

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queenoftheslatterns · 08/04/2010 13:12

he might, i was referred to LWH a few years ago, so maybe worth a try.

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WitchyWooWoo · 08/04/2010 13:17

i don't really know what to say help wise, as i've never been in your shoes, but i really wish you all the best. take it easy and let dh pamper you to bits.

Silver1 · 08/04/2010 13:27

YANBU- Horrible time you poor thing.

What about asking your GP to refer you to a different cons this time?
Just tell DH you are as worried as he is, but you need to do this your way right now.

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queenoftheslatterns · 08/04/2010 14:03

thank you all, its so nice to be able to be as pessimistic as i like without judgement!

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queenoftheslatterns · 08/04/2010 17:54

ds's friend has gone home and I'm shattered. asbsolutely jiggered.

ds got upset about having noone to play with now. he started crying because he is all alone. its breaking my heart!

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stealthsquiggle · 08/04/2010 18:03

Lissie don't let yourself get suckered in - I will lend you my bickering brats DC to show you the other side of that story (although admittedly they are also occasionally capable of being very sweet together)

How's the view looking from under the duvet?

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queenoftheslatterns · 08/04/2010 18:10

looking surprisingly good, dont feel like my period is about to start, or ill (which usually precedes a mc) however, i dont feel that sick (just starving) and am so tired I can barely keep my eyes open. i didnt think it was possible to be this tired and still awake. you forget that dont you? how exhausting it it?

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Fimbo · 08/04/2010 18:24

Good luck to you Lizzie (I didn't realise your new name!). I am away from tomorrow so fingers crossed.

PacificDogwood · 08/04/2010 18:29

Congratulations, I think, whatever the circumstances and your previous history, as you cannot have a baby without being pregnant first .... I was on one of your previous threads (when you still were Lizzie) and am happy and scared for you.

Would your local Early Pregnancy Unit not see and scan you without consultant/GP involvement?

V v best of luck