To feel pissed off at being "reprimanded" for telling someone elses' DC about healthy food?

[PinkDawn]

DD has made a best friend at preschool - I don't know the other Mum well, but when her childcare fell through last Thursday, I offered to take her DD from 8am and drop to our pm preschool session.

I don't work Thursdays, so it's lazy breakfast day. We made pancakes with strawberries and blueberries. For lunch, the girls helped make a fresh tomato pasta - my DD usually plays the vegetable counting game whenever we cook or eat (she has a chart, and we're aiming for 5 a day, with 3 different colours). DD's friend wanted to play too - so we coloured in DD's chart whilst the sauce was cooking, and made one up for DD's friend - which we duly pinned on our fridge with DD's.

Today after school, "Other Mum" comes over to "thank me", before adding that in her opinion it's unsuitable to make fancy breakfasts like that, and in future, should her DD come again she will supply some cereal, and that she would appreciate it if I didn't fill her DD's head with silly ideas about expensive "tri-coloured veggies" (sic), as she has to work, and it is all a bit impractical!

Obviously don't really want to fall out with the mother of DD's first best friend, and will say nowt. However I AM SEETHING - AIBU?

LOL ZZZen, I so agree with that. Here in France people are much more direct than in England - none of this "oh so subtle dropping of hints so that no-one is offended" stuff. I'm much, much blunter than my parents - and the English way really drives me insane a lot of the time! So inefficient!

Id say something, maybe when she picks her up

say "I am glad I was able to help you at such short notice. But to be honest I was very surpised you asked me again given that you were so pissed off about the way I fed your kid. You really must have been DESPERATE to have asked me given you are not happy about the way I feed her, whats going on?????

see what the bayatch says to that

You sound very smug and I would think the other mum felt you were very much making her feel inadequate. I don't believe your version of events ie the way she spoke to you, it doesn't ring true. But anyway even if it is an accurate represenation, seriously you need to get a life. Is this really the kind of thing you waste your time worrying about? Carry on with your supermummy charts & crafts and don't give a shit what anyone else thinks. And don't look after her kid again.

This has got to be a wind up

She has a go at you then texts you at 11pm and you're ok with it?

Go on admit it, you're having a laugh aren't you?

WHOO HOO dont fuck with boyngirl!

Curiousmama... sadly there are women who once you've babysat for them once they think that you'll automatically do it whenever they want and with no notice or consideration at all and treat you like a paid childminder but seem to conveniently forget the renumeration aspect of things.

I've had mothers ring me at 5 mins to pick up claiming they were 'held up' somewhere and could i grab their child for them, they'd collect them asap and been stuck with the child for hours only to find out what they were 'held u'p with was in fact shopping (the fun kind, not the food kind)

Needless to say there are certain phone numbers i don't answer a call from during school hours now to avoid them doing it again.

What a nerve Tulips! I know a few childminders and have heard some tales.

TulipsInTheRain I obviously should have sought your counsel last night. The 2pm pick up changed by text till 4pm, then 5pm - and she finally rolled up at 5.30!

Took the girls to the Science Festival today (lovely child friendly cafe - and the exhibition is fab if anyone is in Scotland btw) so no nasty food issues... but she came back so late I had to do dinner. Hopefully no one could take offence at sausages, mash and baked beans though?

Childminder had let her down 2 days in a row - (her own child is ill). However other mum did arrive with a box of chocs, and was very, very nice, and apologetic about being so late. And she did offer to pay me her childminder fee for the day - to which I obvioulsy said no! And she then offered to pay for DD's expenses today, which I obviously refused too.

Today she was so friendly and easy going, I wondered if I imagined her attitude on Monday. Perhaps other posters are right, and she is just stressed - she certainly seemed it today.

Thanks for the warm replies here. Everyone's nice posts have helped me put my annoyance in perspective. Have decided not to mention it unless she raises it again. So the important thing is, both girls have had a really fab day - me too - and we've helped out another mum in a fix. So all good.

I'm glad she was nicer about it today. Enjoy your chocolates, I think you really earned them

Add message | Report | Contact poster By StayFrosty Tue 06-Apr-10 21:02:52
yanbu, at all. she sounds like she could put a neat little tick in the 'sour fucking grapes' box on her five a day chart.

ROFLMAO

Yanbu by the way

i am glad she was nicer and you have done a good deed

still think she is a cheeky mare, but as you said maybe she was stressed

she OWES you one

OP, it might be worth having a read of this thread, make sure it's not the same woman looking for new free childcare!

Bela, I was thinking of that exact thread too and hoping that PinkDawn doesn't get sucked in to the same situation!