get police involved or not ?

[elmofan]

hi , have posted about my ds going through hell by the hands of a bully in his class before but things have started up again yesterday ,
brief history = ds (11yrs) was beaten up last year by two boys in his class , he received kicks to his head & upper body & ended up suffering terrible headaches & having tests & an MRI scan which thankfully was clear so headaches were put down to stress
yesterday ds got punched in his stomach at lunchtime by bully then chased down the road to where the school car park is the bully was trying to beat him up again , ds has told me the bully keeps making "cut throat signs " & telling ds he is going to kill him , so i stepped out of my car yesterday when i saw ds running for his life & this boy continued to threaten my ds while i was standing right there beside him
no fear in him what so ever .
AIBU ?
i am sick & tired of going up to the principal about this as she does not seem to do anything about it , i intend to go back up on Monday morning to tell her i am going to have to get he police involved at this stage as she seems unable to put a stop to this bully . this has been going on for two years now .

Hi sorry i had to go out to pay some bills , i rang dh in work & told him the latest bit of info & dh has taken a half day off in work & is now on his way to pick ds up from school , its raining here so he's going to walk up the long avenue with a golf umbrella & use this as an excuse to walk down with ds (ds gets embarrassed if we collect him as he's almost 12yrs old)
The last time ds was hurt & i threatened to take him out of school the head told me i could face legal charges in doing so as i would be denying ds an education yet i am expected to send him in there day in day out to be abused
going to try sit down & ask ds what happened & then make an appointment with the head . It just feels like we are back to square one .
I live on the outskirts of a town & the school is 7 miles away & because ds is due to start secondary school this coming September he needs to stay in this primary school to get in as its a feeder school for the only secondary school for miles .
Thanks for all the replies

You need to read up on your legal rights and check out the home education threads. You DO NOT have to send your child to school as long as you educate in another way, ie at home. The head sounds like a bully too. The secondary school will still take your son - he doesn't have to go to primary at all.

as allisto says, but I think in these circumstances there is leaway in being abscent if you are making application to another school, but definetly read up on the lea or dfes website.

I would consider his future education in this matter also, as if he is going to go through to secondary school with these bullies then maybe it would be advicable to look at different secondary schools. is there a primary and secondary school more local to you. I would def worry about a child of 12 having such thraets etc making a 7 mile journey. very sad for you all indeed.

Well we have spoken to ds & he says it wasn't him that was hurt coming down the Avenue from J He said J is calling him names & threatening him & he gets the odd kick from him sometimes but according to ds the mum who spoke to me this morning has got ds mixed up with some other child

Its a bit strange because she seemed very sure that it was ds that was hurt .
So looks like Ive been upset all morning over a mix up . I pity the poor child that was hurt though

I feel silly now for re-freshing the old thread but i really was upset & worried & tbh we are counting the weeks until ds leaves that school .
Thank you all for your kinds words xx

Elmo that this has come up again even if it is only verbal abuse and not full scale assault,
5 more months and he will be in Secondary School, new principal, new rules and hopefully new classmates, it is nearly over hang on in there You have been fab dealing with all this crap, You have really done your DS proud.
Consider complaining though about the Anti-bullying policy, esp as there is an election coming up People will listen and be active [votes are hard to come by ]

I wouldn't put up with the odd kick!

I remember this thread and felt sick that it was back up and running.

I hope that your DS has a better experience at his new school and that his new teachers/headteacher are better at dealing with things if the bullying should start again.

xx

Elmo he wouldn't say it wasn't him to stop you worrying would he? I'm not trying to make you paranoid I'm just worried.

The poor thing, I hated school and had that sort of stuff happen to me with verbal and odd kicks, throwing my pencil case out the window in the middle of class when the teachers back was turned etc. Horrid horrid time. I really feel for him

I don't think so tea , ds is usually very good at talking to us about these sort of things . He got into a fight with J in the school yard at break time today . J whipped ds across the face with a skipping rope & ds kicked J back & they got into a fight until J ran off crying , ds was upset too but explained everything to the teacher that was on yard duty .

CALL THE POLICE CALL THE POLICE CALL THE POLICE CALL THE POLICE

This makes me sick. DH and I were bullied at school and it only stopped when we hit back. DS1 has been bullied and had some awful things done to him. I hit the roof and if anything else happens I will go ballistic. The head says there is no bullying at her school . I know of at least 4 families who have moved their children due to bullying there.

Thanks Instructions , not sure if we should wait & see how ds gets on in school tomorrow before making an appointment to see the useless principal . The fact that ds kicked back could land him in trouble but i have told him if the head gives out to him at all he is to tell her that he was only defending himself & then ask her to phone me .
I think the whole school system over here stinks tbh .

therunawaywife Going to see what happens tomorrow with ds in school , im letting him take his mobile phone into school in his bag & told him to text or phone me if he needs me . Then ill go to the school & call police if necessary .
fab sorry your ds1 is being bullied , im hoping the fact that ds fought back this time & made J run off crying might make J back off but of course it could go the other way .

The last time he was kicked anoth3r child stepped into defend him but I was told about it by another mother, not the school . I went in and had words.

my ds was bullied mercilessly by nearly the whol class for years,school did this and that to stop it but it never did.Kick boxing helped tremendously and the fact that he grew very tall/muscular very quickly.Even girls bullied him.It got so bad that we were keeping him under close observation cos worried re suicide.One day i asked if he had slept ok and he rplied "yes i cry myself to sleep"
Will be flamed to high heaven now i expect but im afraid i went a bit ghetto and got my older ds and his mates to "have a word" with the boys,the girls i visited myself and spoke to them and their parents and told them i would definately go to the police if any one hurt him again-i was very assertive-
ahem.It dd the trick and i also taught ds how to walk tall and make eye contact etc.I think this would help your ds as he probably now understandably lacks confidence.
Persue the police and the school especially the governers and lea,also is there any other alter.native to the school as the worry is that this will follow him

I think you need to call the police, I am amazed that you have not done that already.

How bad are you waiting for it to get?