to tell my sister she cannot breing her 8mo baby to our Grandmothers funeral?

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She says she can't leave her for 2 days. She's travelling with us and it's too far to do it in a day. She's insistant.
It will cause havoc with travel/sleeping arrangements and will put more pressure on my DM who is finding it all hard enough as it is.

why will a small baby play havoc with sleeping arrangements?

YABU

YABVU.
Why should she leave her baby to go to your Grandmother's funeral? MAdness.

YABU. Where do you expect your sister to leave her baby?

the alternative is that your sister cannot attand her owm grandmother's funeral. Which option is preferable? I would never have been able to leave my 8 month old for 2 days. You need to see a wider picture here IMO.

you are, of course, joking?

i think its up to her....and she should be the one to 'fit the baby' in.

my neice was a baby when my mum died and slept through the funeral. we also had someone on standby to take her out of the church if necessary

so you expect her to leave her child for 2 days
yabvvvu

And wouldn't your mother be happy to see her grandchild?

can she not arrange her own travel and accomodation?

FFS, YADBVU.

babies of that age travel well and will sleep as long as mum is close by.

I took the DSs to a funeral a couple of years back and they were fine. The widow said it was nice to have kids around to remind her to well, live. (lots of grandkids were there aas well)

YABU. Not surprised she can't leave her for 2 days. Why is it going to cause problems? Your DM might actually like to have her around.

YAB Outrageously U.

I wouldn't leave my dd for 2 days. I think you are unfair to expect your sister to. The inconviencnce will surely mostly be to your sister - as long as you can fit a car seat in the car it shouldn't be that much of a problem for the rest of you. And won't your family want to see the baby?

There is no room for a travel cot, we are all crammed in as it is.

It's a long day, she can hardly sit her in a highchair in the middle of the service and I'm not sure a crematorium is a suitable place for a baby?

yabvvvvvvvu

surely your mother will be delighted to see the baby at the funeral - new life and all that.

If your sis feels she can't leave her for 2 days then she can't and you should butt out.

It's hardly your decision, is it, whether your sister wants to bring her baby to her grandmother's funeral.

YABU, yes. It is up to your sister whether or not she brings her DD; and your DM. If your DM allows it you have no say in it. If your DM vetoes it then you still have no say in it.

Tocc, I can see why - they might have been going to stay overnight in a travel lodge, 3 to a bedroom - but tricky if an 8mo who wakes all night is involved.

Still U though - if it's such an issue, your sister will have to either not go or make alternative travel arrangements. Are trains not an option?

Is this a reverse AIBU? are you really the other sister?

are you actually sat rubbing your hands together in glee at the story you are telling

its YOUR opinion then,not your sisters.....leave it to your sister to decide. its not really your business

We buried my mum a few weeks ago. Everyone was welcome to come, young or old. Banning anyone could have deprived someone of their right to grieve. YABVU

The crematorium is a perfectly suitable place for a baby, its not a bed of nails

Surely she'll be sitting with her mum (or in a pushchair type thing)

you are being outrageous

and sorry for your loss.

It should be your mother's choice as to how many people can sleep at her house.

And it's for your sister to decide if a funeral is a suitable place for her baby. I don't know why it wouldn't be.

Do you really expect your sister to miss her grandmother's funeral because you think her baby will be inconvenient?

This is a joke right?!