to tell my sister she cannot breing her 8mo baby to our Grandmothers funeral?

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She says she can't leave her for 2 days. She's travelling with us and it's too far to do it in a day. She's insistant.
It will cause havoc with travel/sleeping arrangements and will put more pressure on my DM who is finding it all hard enough as it is.

YABU

Perhaps your sister could share a bed with her baby? Could she afford a hotel?

I don't see the problem with a baby at funeral, if anything, I think it is a nice reminder of life.

This surely isn't serious? Why should your sister leave her baby behind for two whole days? What an odd question.

in any case it isn't up to you is it? it is your sister's decision. You are being totally unreasonable IMO.

yabu
You can't just block your sister from going to her grandmother's funeral because you've decided a baby would be inconvenient.

Sorry, should have mentioned, she will be leaving her DD with her DP, DD's Dad.

She is skint and has no money to pay for travel/sleeping arrangements.

My DM see's her all the time, she babysits regulary for them.

Am quite suprised I'm getting this reaction, I'm leaving both my DS's with friends.

I think she should consider not going if she can't leave her baby? She needs to decided which she would 'prefer'?

YABU It is not up to you. How can you expect her to leave her baby for two days. Especially at such an emotional time.

YABU

It's between your sister and your mum if anything. However I can't see why on earth it would be a problem

YABU

i'm sure your sister would 'prefer' not to be going to her grandmother's funeral at all.

You are insane.

Are you really going to fall out with your sister over this? Shouldn't a funeral be a time to bring family together, not create arguements?

"She needs to decided which she would 'prefer'?" - No she doesn't.

Are you the elder sister perchance? Or just the bossy one?

You want your sister to miss her Grandmothers funeral because she shouldn't take a baby with her. Aren't you so caring and nice!! Not!!

She should decide what is more important? How awful. I really feel for your poor sister.

However long is the service? A baby would probably be fine but if not your sister can take him/her out as required. Why on earth does it bother you so much.

You've had 32 people tell you that you are in the wrong and you still think you're right

You can leave your kids cos it's your choice - her choice is different. She is entitled to that.

bet you have some other underlying resentment - you can't seriously expect her to leave her only 8month old child for 2 days when she doesn't want to.

What's it REALLY about???????

"She needs to decide which she 'would prefer'"

Now you need to get over yourself.

YABU, I left my DS for my grandfather's funeral and I wish I'd taken him, would have lightened the mood.

Donnie, I know it's not up to me, but fact is I'm trying to look out for my parents. My grnadmothers death has come as a complete shock to all of us, but my mum has taken it exceptionally bad.

Whenever we all get together my mum is always left with the responisbilty of my sisters DD. It's a long service, we are then going to the crematorium and onto a pub for the wake. Her DD is fully weaned, I can't see how she will manage it all without her DD getting incredibly grumpy waiting for her lunch. I'm not taking my DS's because it's not fair on them, or ayone else.

I don't get why 'she has to decide what she prefers' tbh

you sound controlling....let it drop!!

Seriously no room for a travel cot? No dining room, living room?

Why would she be in a high chair? Are you planning to have lunch in the crematorium? And I'm sure your sister will take appropriate steps if the baby starts to cry or anything? The baby won't know or care where she is and everyone else will probably appreciate the distraction after the service.

I'm sorry for your loss and apologies if I come across as flippant but really, you aren't seriously suggesting this? It's not even any of your business.

Do your parents want you to look out for them? Have you asked them, do they want to see their granddaughter?