To think that parents should not go on holiday without their little ones.

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I hear it again and again. "OH and I have a holiday booked six weeks after I'm due to give birth. Baby will be fine being passed around relatives."

It's a different kettle of fish when an older child loves spending a week with Grandma, but I often read about very young children being left with someone while their parents go on holiday. The underlying theme is that some people think they are entitled to dessert their small children in the same way as they get annual leave at work.

and??

6 weeks? eh?

5 years later I am still waiting for that.

Why does it bother you so much?

Dessert? What like making them into a pudding?! that is shocking!

I don't know anyone who has left their 6 week old baby to go away on holiday. You must move in very strange circles for this to be a constant theme in your life.

If you are going to pick fault in lifestyle choices can I pick fault in your spelling?

I've never heard of anyone doing this...

I haven't done it (yet) and my DD is 2. However my DD has been staying with my Mum overnight once a week since she was 3 weeks old. If your child is well looked after with someone you trust 100% - like my Mum - then I wouldn't judge anyone for having a bit of a break. Sometimes that's what a relationship needs.

And what do you know about the psychology of whether a week with grandma age 7 is better than a week with auntie aged 7 weeks?

I've never heard of it either. I don't think I would care either. Each to their own. I've got bigger issues to worry about!

I agree with you, but that is probably because my aunty leaves her 3 children, ages 12, 9 & 6 with my retired grandmother reguarly. She has been on 5* holidays to egpyt and new york just since new year, and is going to Dubai in october. But she is taking the kids for a week in wales in august so that makes everything ok apparently

who the hell has left a 6 week old to go on holiday? Aren't you exaggerating a teeny weeny bit? I left DS for 2 weeks recently at 17mo which was great. If DH and I could have a holiday together without him that would also be brilliant. Not quite at the stage of imposing on the GPs for more than a day or two yet

I think you are being silly and judgy about something that isn't really happening, which is why you are exaggerating to make it seem worse.

YABU.

I agree with you actually. My cousin has 2 children aged 2 and 4. Every year they jet off to places such as Greece, Turkey, Egypt, Cyprus etc and leave the kids at home.

I personally would feel really guilty going on holiday without the kids! I think it's quite selfish. Every now and again, fair enough but every year?? Why have kids if you don't want them with you?

YABU - can I ask whereabouts you live?

I'm another one who'se never heard of anyone doing this so I'm amazed that people tell you this again and again.

But if they do, so what?

YABU - can I ask whereabouts you live?

I'm another one who'se never heard of anyone doing this so I'm amazed that people tell you this again and again.

But if they do, so what?

kat2907 I have heard of this, a girl I used to work with went to ibiza with her friend 8 weeks after her daughter was born, apparently she deserved it after 9 months of staying in

My mum looked after a five week old baby for a week while the baby's parents went skiing. This was 20 years ago.

I also have a friend who has handed both her dc's over to her mum at 5 weeks post birth, to go for an extended weekend of clubbing.

Can't imagine doing anything like that myself. I used to get palpitations if I had to go into a separate room from my babies at that age. But my friend is a lovely, doting mum - just obviously not as anxious as me!

YABU

Ok, so six weeks is a little early but I suspect that is a gross exaggeration on your part.

Providing they have suitable childcare in place I really don't see the problem with parents having a grown ups holiday away from children. My Mum and Step-Dad went on holiday alone every year for as long as I can remember leaving me and siblings with Aunt/Grandparents, I loved it!

What is exactly you're objecting too? I just can't see any problem here apart from perhaps your jealousy?

I'm spending 2 nights away from my 4DC when youngest will be nearly 7 months next week. I've done one night away from her since she was born.

With my first I was supposed to have a belated honeymoon holiday without the baby but couldn't bring myself to leave her. Oh how I have changed.

I would have had to bury at least 2 of my lot under the patio by now if it were not for adult time out and R&R.

I spy a journalist - or am I being cynical?

alot of posts like this appearing in AIBU of late

usually journalists looking for opinions to expand on a story..

"Why have kids if you don't want them with you?"

I think I've just rolled my eyes actually out of my head.

I left my children overnight as babies once or twice with grandparents, but not until they were several months old and only for one night (to go to a wedding on one occasion and an engagement party on another).
I suppose it depends on circumstances, who you're leaving the baby with etc.
I don't know why some posters are being so rude and snappy in their responses, though.
(Waiting to be flamed).

lol @ whois

I am going to use the eyes right out of head at DS 1 and 2 later - guarantee they will say or do something to cause a need for such a phrase.

Oh come on Ewe - surely there are different issues when it comes to a newborn baby?