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AIBU?

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To think that parents should not go on holiday without their little ones.

212 replies

Wolliw · 26/02/2010 13:32

I hear it again and again. "OH and I have a holiday booked six weeks after I'm due to give birth. Baby will be fine being passed around relatives."

It's a different kettle of fish when an older child loves spending a week with Grandma, but I often read about very young children being left with someone while their parents go on holiday. The underlying theme is that some people think they are entitled to dessert their small children in the same way as they get annual leave at work.

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posieparker · 26/02/2010 15:06

I can't understand people, especially working couples, who go on holiday without their children or get rid of young children in a holiday club.

Nellykats · 26/02/2010 15:07

YAmassivelyBU

Missus84 · 26/02/2010 15:09

Probably psychologically better for a baby to be left at 6 weeks than to leave an 18 month old.

OtterInaSkoda · 26/02/2010 15:09

Really posie? Why not?

shockers · 26/02/2010 15:09

Do you know of anyone who is happy to look after children while their parents go on holiday? I'd kill for a week away with DH.

WhoIsAsking · 26/02/2010 15:14

God, I always put my kids in kids club when I go on holiday. And I work full time. Thrash me now!

Just because I am a mother doesn't mean that the rest of my personality has disappeared into a fog of maternal joy. I am my childrens' mum, but I am also the person I was before I had children, and that person likes to lie on a beach for a couple of hours a day without being poked in the eye/buried in sand/constantly alert in case of drowning.

Francagoestohollywood · 26/02/2010 15:15

Oh yes Morloth, I loved to be "passed around relatives too". I still treasure the memories of the summer I spent with my grandmothers (actually I went on holiday, my parents stayed in Milan to work).

Francagoestohollywood · 26/02/2010 15:15

summers

ABitBatty · 26/02/2010 15:23

How ridiculous, whose business is it anyway where or why and who they take on holiday with them. You must be just so jelous to be thinking about it all the time. Anyway, better that than to take them and leave them in your room whilst you go out for dinner.....!

LaurieFairyCake · 26/02/2010 15:25

I would do it (maybe not that young)

I don't give a tossing wank stain what anyone else thinks. I wouldn't pay an extra 800 quid to take my kid on a holiday to Egypt at 5 years old when they'd be perfectly happy at granny's for a week.

I may take them when they're old enough to get something from it.

deaddei · 26/02/2010 15:27

WhoIs Asking- oh I so agree.
I will go so far as to say I HATE family holidays- too stressful trying to ensure everyone's having a good time, and guess who ends up doing the work- me.
So we are all having separate hols this year- even dh and myself. Can't wait!!!

sweetkitty · 26/02/2010 15:28

I wouldn't do it then again I have never had anyone offer to take the DDs really so for us it is totally not an option.

ABitBatty · 26/02/2010 15:30

I haven't been on a holiday since I was 10 years old, neither have my children. I think the whole idea of all the stress,hassle,expense and planning turns me off the idea totally. People think I'm potty!

TweedyneeCole · 26/02/2010 16:03

I have done it several times and will be doing it again. My kids stay with my mum and have a lovely time. We have family holidays, too.

Are you jealous, OP?

midnightsbrokentoll · 26/02/2010 16:21

Lots of us only breed so that we can have someone to look after us in our old age. I f you can find someone else to look after the little sods until they are actually needed the good luck to you.

sarah293 · 26/02/2010 16:21

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muggglewump · 26/02/2010 16:23

YABU, to call them 'little ones'. Very Netmums twee.

I would if I could. I'd love a week away on my own, and have had a few days away on my own on three occasions.
Sadly, it's not possible amymore.

Bonsoir · 26/02/2010 16:25

It's absolutely fine to leave children for a week (or even two!) to go on holiday, providing you have someone lovely (a grandmother or aunt or trusted nanny) to take care of them and give them a lovely time.

bubblagirl · 26/02/2010 16:27

my parents took our little one away for a weekend we didnt go on holiday we just met with friends and relaxed not because we asked them to have him he was 3 mths old but because my mum so wanted to have him for the weekend and really loved that time with him they are so close now because she bonded with him so well then when he wa s yr old my mum had him for 4 days whilst we went to Spain again she loved that time with him

some grandparents really want to have that SPECIAL time with there grandchildren

my ds has ASD and now no one wants to look after him so im glad we had the time we did when he was younger

PDR · 26/02/2010 16:29

We are leaving DS (who will be 2) with my mother for 1 week in May.

He will love it and my mum adores him.

He spends most of the day asking for "nanny".

We go on plenty of family holidays and I don't see anything wrong with DH and I spending some time alone together.

DH and I will be happy.
DS will be happy.
DM will be in her element looking after DS.

What's the problem?!

bubblagirl · 26/02/2010 16:29

oh i also look after my ds friend also my friends ds so she can ahve breaks with her partner i'm having him again in few weeks so she can go away with her partner her ds loves coming to stay with me ive got him for 5 days

bubblagirl · 26/02/2010 16:31

riven if i lived closer i would help you out im too far away

sarah293 · 26/02/2010 16:34

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LittleMrsHappy · 26/02/2010 16:38

Ive been away from the children on 4 occasions, ranging from 3day stop over to 7 day stop overs!

Loved every minute of it, they have either been with their Dad or with their grandparents .... doing it again next year for a hen do

My life has NO relevance or impact on your life and your opinion is just that a opinion, which everyone has a entitlement too, but YABU for judging people which have nothing to do with you, or has no impact to your life when the children are being cared for by their loving relatives.

izzybiz · 26/02/2010 16:43

I have left my children quite a few times. Dh and I have had 2 holidays together without Ds1.

We have been away on Satg/Hen weekends, we are going to Las Vegas for a week in April for our Honeymoon and leaving our 17yo, 5yo, and 18month old at home with my mum.

We also have family holidays too.

YABVU!